Is parenting sub a feminist (even misandrist?) sub in disguise?

ExMuzzy · 2023-07-13T18:14:25+00:00

Haven't browsed parenting but generally, relationship subreddits are dominated by women so it isn't unusual to see misandry.

It's not perfect but r/daddit is probably less toxic.

Huge_Buddy_2216 · 2023-07-13T20:16:44+00:00

Yes, I've noticed as much.

They regard fathers as something I like to call Schrödinger father: men are perfectly competent, capable, and should be willing to do everything that Mom does... but only when it comes to housework and giving Mom some time off her feet. When it's time to do the dishes, vacuum, and especially do the "yuck" work like mowing the lawn or taking out the trash, he's every bit as competent.

When it comes to parenting disagreements and important decisions, well, in that case Mom is obviously the more qualified of the two, as fathers are by nature bumbling buffoons likely to burn the house down if we don't fold towels the way our wives say we should.

Of course if a man is incompetent at any household task it is therefore strategic and his way of opting out of doing his fair share. If a woman is incompetent at any household task it's either she's not getting the help she needs or she has ADHD. The number of times I've seen women showered with support when they were unable to accomplish anything around their houses... never would happen if it was a guy. In that case he needs to man up and just do everything, lest she deservedly leave him and start collecting child support and alimony.

Here are a couple of posts from mommit for your reading enjoyment though:

Why are husbands so useless?

Post full of women encouraging her to dispose of or break his PS5. Women telling her she can break up with him and find another woman. It always makes me wonder, though: If her husband is such a loser, why did she let him cum inside her?

Did I give my partner a child, or did he give me the child?

Really telling post. Full of women saying that men don't give women children, but women give men children. Talks about how men are functionally nothing more than sperm donors.

Call me Cassandra, because I'm right every time. (also- how to make husband face consequences?)

Imagine being married to a woman who wants to make you face consequences and refuses to acknowledge that she has ever been wrong. Jesus, no more needs to be said. Also, I reiterate: If her husband is such a loser, why did she let him cum inside her?

Have you ever noticed how when a woman talks about how great her husband is, 99% of the time it's going to be about how much he does for her? The perfect husband to them is a guy who does a ton of housework, makes plenty of money, takes her on surprise romantic getaways, and just gives her things. Imagine a guy being asked what he loves about his wife answering "She does housework well." He'd get crucified.

singlealpha · 2023-07-13T20:29:43+00:00

They are all hating on me now because I made note about a woman being disrespectful to a man. Apparently it is okay for women to disrespect men… “how dare you point that out!” Yes my carmaker points are -13 now 🤣

singlealpha · 2023-07-13T20:37:05+00:00

BTW women being sexist against men is acceptable and encouraged today. TV, movies, radio and politics. We have a huge target on our back

Nerfixion · 2023-07-13T21:40:28+00:00

I think the worst one recently was 2 twins, one M and F. The mother was asking what to do because the F has become "feminist (all men are evil)" and the son was going down the opposite path with women belong in the kitchen.

Both are teens and idiots.

They were arguing for months until at one point the F threw the remote at the M. The M called the cops.

This was the first physical event between them. Anyway cops came and said, yeah F was in the wrong.

The sub was filled with "that boy needs a talking too he's a monster"

The ironic thing is how the F was saying men are violent but resorted to it her self first.

imperator285 · 2023-07-13T20:08:12+00:00

Great majority of reddit is feminist.

JustTwo5936 · 2023-07-13T21:26:02+00:00

I’ve never read that sub but it wouldn’t be surprising. Women believe they are the default parent and men are just accessories. They feel entitled to be experts on all things — including what it’s like to be a teenage boy. Men aren’t allowed to have an opinion on abortion but women would gladly dismiss a man’s opinion on circumcision because they know everything about parenting.

DoctorStorm · 2023-07-13T20:48:27+00:00

Yes.

Women who stay at home and do fuck all, or work a job where they essentially do fuck all, have a lot of time on their hands.

They come here to bitch about you while you're working.

This is the full extent of the phenomena, explained.

wes_bestern · 2023-07-13T20:39:19+00:00

This is nothing new. When I was a kid, my friend's single dad was talking to my mom about his daughter's first period coming. My mom, being a Karen of Southern Appalachian stock, was like, "welll... she should be with her mom." (He had primary custody and the mom lived in another state). He, a black man used to this kind of shit, said, "Why? I know how to read what's on the box."

Obviously my mother didn't want to explicitly state her actual feelings, in which she tended to sexualize everything, even with family. It was embarrassing for me, even as a young teenager, to hear my mom basically tell on herself like that. But it was obvious she was implying either he was incompetent or that he had nefarious motives with his own daughter.

Many women, especially from certain backgrounds, have a tendency to project their own experiences onto other men. They simply don't know any better. I'm sorry you had to go through that bs. Women can be pretty disgusting sometimes. Used to be you could chock it up to the effects of trauma, but these days you can't dismiss anything a woman says. So instead of just ignoring it, you should call it out.

If some woman with daddy issues thinks you're gross for handling a situation where your kid gets her first period, tell her tf off, tell her she's disgusting for sexualizing such a thing. Sometimes, dads have to step up and take care of that stuff.

SN9292 · 2023-07-13T21:56:31+00:00

A lot of these women have nothing else going for themselves so they take absolute pride in being “Momma Bears”. They’re some of the most annoying, obnoxious, and narcissistic people on earth.

Drougen · 2023-07-13T21:50:00+00:00

Let's be honest, most subs are at some degree or another.

RennietheAquarian · 2023-07-14T02:00:48+00:00

People have to stop the “foreskin=dirty” shit, it’s fucking insulting to the millions and millions of men who have a foreskin and wash it like a normal human being does. I’m over the “male genitals dirty, unless they have the protective prepuce cut off” while saying all women have “clean genitals.”

whodhavedunnit · 2023-07-14T03:07:38+00:00

How telling is it that the Mommit subreddit only allows moms or expecting moms to post, but the Daddit subreddit of course has to be 100% open and free for moms to post on too?

Its tiring the amount of hoops everyone will jump through to make women comfortable but men cannot have a single damn thing.

RennietheAquarian · 2023-07-14T02:05:00+00:00

Circumcision is a misandrist practice, because it’s usually done on infant boys who can’t say no, based on people thinking his natural anatomy “looks ugly” or the same old excuse of “it’s not hygiene to have a prepuce.” How insulting of people, who think I can’t have good hygiene because I’m not female. I brush my teeth, floss my teeth, wipe my ass, wash between my buttcrack in the shower, with soap and water and clean my entire penis, with no problem at all.

pacsatonifil · 2023-07-14T02:26:06+00:00

Wow, yeah I would got a dad focused subreddit if there is one to talk with other dads. It is crazy how it always is like this. Men get trashed everywhere, but I would leave that space. I leave misandrist spaces if I can help it at all

APA770 · 2023-07-14T11:20:52+00:00

All the subreddits about dating, sex, relationships and parenting are filled with misandrists. They are echo chambers in which men are always wrong, and women are always right.

Your_Agenda_Sucks · 2023-07-14T03:05:08+00:00

If you give women an outlet to manufacture victimhood, they will take it. I recommend this as a business strategy actually. This is the reason we can't be free of shitty stories from hollywood, and is also the reason that I hope they stay on strike forever.

Women want to tell (i.e. manufacture) stories about how much better they are at something than men.

They want this because when you strip away the delusion, bullshit and lies, stories are pretty much all that's left.

Atharva0711 · 2023-07-14T08:34:50+00:00

Housewives, having to do nothing at home, brainwashed by feminists, not respecting her husband.

Common traits of what you will find on that subReddit.

ABBucsfan · 2023-07-16T12:24:59+00:00

I only read through your first paragraph when the thought triggered in my head "well yeah because 12 year olds are irresponsible and TSS is a killer... Literally"

Then I continued on and saw your comment about TSS.

How your first thought can be YOU'RE MISOGYNY RRRREEEE is beyond me.

hwjk1997 · 2023-07-14T03:07:56+00:00

It's a mainstream reddit sub so it's to be assumed feminist until proven otherwise.

tizzle79 · 2023-07-14T04:23:22+00:00

These women echo chambers are so disheartening. Mother Nature being denied by those motherly in nature.

LeoneFamily · 2023-07-14T06:03:01+00:00

That's Reddit for ya. I got downvoted and insulted a while ago because I asked a question about the potential impacts on a child born from a teenage mother. I stated explicitly that I was asking this question to better understand and sympathise with someone I knew who confessed this situation to me (of being born when her mom was just 13). Somehow people twisted this act of good by saying stuff like "Oh I can see that you're aldready judging her" and I was just baffled by how in the world someone can twist things so much in their mind. I was literally just trying to be nice and sympathise with a friend wtf.

DolbecEntertainment · 2023-07-14T10:30:01+00:00

Women’s solidarity evolved into somthing brutal and agresive.

ApprehensiveMail8 · 2023-07-14T22:40:49+00:00

Yes, and it's disgusting. Not even just because it is misandrist: because these posts have absolutely nothing to do with parenting. I came here to read about Dinosaur Train, not read about some vulgar fight someone is having with their husband or MIL.

if you want to post on AITA, you can go to AITA.

Lunaseesu · 2023-11-26T15:06:22+00:00

Woman here that coparents and I just want to say that I greatly appreciate men, including my first husband, that are willing to take the time to understand and be educated about their daughters feminine needs and hygiene. My mother was barely present as she worked so much and my grandfather was the one that walked me through these changed. I also have teen sons and have made it a point ti educate them as well just as I have taught my daughters about male struggles. There's nothing creepy about caring for your children's well being. Even amongst woman it's a hot topic on giving our teen daughters tampon, I'm an opposed one and definitely get slammed even as a woman for "sexualizing" it. It's your child, your opinion matters. There are wicked and miserable people everywhere regardless of gender. It would be nice to see this trend change but I only see it getting worse. I'm so sorry for your experiences but understand that even us woman get it frim both sides. Reasons why my husband still can't understand that it's difficult for me as a woman to have female friends. Too much bitter drama and it does rub off. I'd rather be happy and think for myself. Don't mind others and hold your ground. Men deserve a say in these things.

dollarBillz007 · 2023-07-14T04:18:48+00:00

You never know. I thought the men were bad with talking about women and being wrong OMG I was wrong. There’s some subs that literally think everything men do is evil and it was so weird trying to explain shit and I just had to accept ohh no no matter what you just hate men. I hate alot of the shit women do but as a whole I love Them there’s was none of that. Kind of sad and pitiful. Had a lady talking about her husband and she wouldn’t marry him until she turned 25 bc she felt like a child bride. Like what? You’ve been legal for 7 years you nut job and your making it seem like your husband is a pedo. Like they were accusing people of being pedos when everyone was over 18 if not 20. Like once your legal the pedo argument doesn’t apply. It was so strange. I’m glad I don’t care what strange people say and that their opinion may be important to them but it doesn’t matter. You drive a school bus and have a mustache Sarah stfu.

CrowMagpie · 2023-07-13T20:17:27+00:00

I wouldn't expect it to be feminist; feminism is an enemy of kids and families. I would suggest it's gynocentric, though.

In the specific case you're talking about, though, aren't tampons a necessary hygiene thing for girls who have their periods? Is there an alternative?

You may have come across as somebody who didn't know what he was talking about invading something that was inherently all about women and girls. (I don't know, I didn't see your actual post.) But I can understand them, in this particular case, being uncomfortable.

Glimmerofinsight · 2023-07-13T22:58:29+00:00

I generally stay away from parenting sites/subs because I'm a stepmom and of course, we are ALL EVIL. So, I prefer to talk to my own kind, as they understand my struggles.

DirtyDan419 · 2023-07-14T05:52:08+00:00

I'm really confused here brother about the first paragraph can you elaborate?

Current_Finding_4066 · 2023-07-14T08:15:41+00:00

Giving tampons to a child is irresponsible at best. Pads are much safer. The dad only has his daughter's health at heart.

Chama-HUH · 2023-11-24T19:42:48+00:00

Women see men as incompetent, it is what is, you can’t expect much from them, they like to bring people down to their level as they are quite miserable themselves, they see the world as a dystopian; fuck em tho, won’t let them neurotic things ruin my day or ruin my time with my kids( when I have them).

Title	Is parenting sub a feminist (even misandrist?) sub in disguise?
Author	ABBucsfan
Upvotes	312
Comments	75
Date	July 13, 2023 5:30 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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