I'm quite confused as to why people (predominantly women) say that "women and children die in the wars created by men" but apparently from my understanding, women were more likely to wage wars throughout history, and men and boys are almost always the ones who are dying in them.

So technically speaking, shouldn't the quote be "men and children are dying in the wars created by women"?

There's more evidence to the latter than the former, because I read a source saying 99% of deaths during war were males, and another source saying women were 25% more likely to wage war than men. This was a while ago so I might be wrong on the numbers, but also, I have yet to see any source for the feminist side.

Are these sources accurate? Is there any truth in the quote "women die in men's wars"? I'd just like some clarification. I might be missing something, so I'd like to be properly cited on this.