Listening to red pill podcasts made me incredible insecure

PrettyFloralBonnet_ · 2023-11-08T22:38:25+00:00

The reason that red pillers talk about the "wall" and about a woman's age is because they want to devalue women. They want to pretend like the only value we have is our bodies. They're wrong.

Women over 25 are much harder to manipulate or coerce because they have life experience and a solid self-image. To redpillers that is awful, because that's how they relate to women. But to nice, intelligent men who value themselves and others, this is amazing. What most people want in a partner is a caring, strong and smart person, not a naive young person.

If your partner is a good person, he will care about who you are, not about the exact year you were born. I would encourage you to talk about your worries with him, it might relieve a lot of the stress.

I hope you find your way out of these red pill circles. There is so much love and tolerance on rhe other side.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-11-08T21:04:39+00:00

Do you guys think it's weird if the woman is a bit older than the guy in a relationship? Would you date a woman a couple of years older?

What we think doesn't matter. What you and this guy thinks is what matters.

SweelFor- · 2023-11-08T21:51:45+00:00

You have been brainwashed by stupid ideas, and fortunately you realised it early enough.

My advice is to start by unbrainwashing yourself, by cutting yourself from all sources where you have learned these ideas. Unsubscribe from the youtube channels, from the subreddits, wherever you found this. Create new accounts if the algorythms still get to you.

After having unlearned bad ideas, it's good to learn good ideas. Red pill is bad psychology. I recommend that you learn good psychology instead. I recommend that you listen to the Psychology In Seattle podcast and youtube channel, as much as possible.

worship_your_goddess · 2023-11-09T00:09:45+00:00

Lol post-wall is just a way for these guys to say that they have the mental capacity of a 10 year old and don't know how to have a conversation with women. Notice that they insist they don't want to date women with an education or a career. Why? Because she most definitely will be smarter and/or more successful than them, and that would crush their egoes.

When you're older you have lived experience and higher standards, and that's kryptonite to insecure men who struggle to make themselves interesting to women.

Justwannaread3 · 2023-11-08T21:04:24+00:00

I’m a woman, but I think it’s important that you judge this guy you’re seeing based on how he treats you and whether he says he cares for you or not.

Don’t ascribe feelings or biases to him that he hasn’t shown.

You deserve a partner who is excited about you and into you. Being 28 — or even when you get to 30 — doesn’t diminish your worth.

Top_Radio_9436 · 2023-11-09T00:14:12+00:00

Remember, the manosphere does not speak for all men. It speaks to a subset of guys who are sexually frustrated, entitled, immature, raised wrong or have psychological wounds that haven't healed yet. Not a mentally/emotionally healthy demographic. The only truly smart red pilled guys I've met were on the autism spectrum (don't understand people) or had dark triad traits (don't care about hurting others/see women as objects). They were vulnerable for whatever reason(s) and redpill found them and is now exploiting them for $$$ and political gains.

Also, guys who feel that way about women generally aren't worth your time and should probably f*&k off anyway. Do you really want to be with someone who has these kinds of dehumanizing, sexist views and basically sees you as a dog to be trained or a sex object. Come on! You deserve better than that. F%&k "the wall" and f$%k their made up rules.

eatfleshdrinkblood · 2023-11-08T22:10:21+00:00

I would date a woman a couple years older than me, I actually won’t date date a woman under 24. Just ignore red pillars.

xvszero · 2023-11-09T00:05:57+00:00

Stop listening to red pill nonsense. Lots of guys aren't like that.

Mehitobel · 2023-11-09T00:46:24+00:00

I’ve been married nine years and my husband is two years younger than I am. I tease him all the time about me being an old lady, and how he’ll have to take care of me in my dotage.

Don’t listen to the things in your head. Let your partner know you’re feeling insecure, and talk it out.

NegativeKarmaVegan · 2023-11-08T22:46:10+00:00

There are plenty of men who date older women. You're not much older than he is, by the way. If you're contemplating sharing a future with him, I think you should really talk to him plain and simple about how this age gap is making you feel insecure and ask him what he thinks about it. Honestly, there's no better way to deal with this.

SleepyZz0o · 2023-11-09T02:16:51+00:00

Asking this at 28, youre not that old lol. Some guys like women older than them & it varies. This red pill Incel ideology targeted for Incels has been dying lately & its far from the truth. It doesn’t teach men how to actually get girls(more like get used by them), keeps men in a useless gender role bubble(which limits their full potential), none of these guys who teach this ideology actually excel in looks(aren’t really good looking), focuses on evolution(which is 99.9% true & theories/laws can change with newer information leaving room for that .1%), only men can have sex while women cant, women are less than man, women must obey men, men are smart women cant reason with emotions(but everyone has emotions, can control it & keep their cool), & a lot of other idiotic points. Overall theres so much wrong with these pills (blue,black,red). Why listen to these Mochocels, Vglycels, Tatecels= L’cels? You’re wasting time on it all man or women… Its all DOWNBAD content.

r2401 · 2023-11-09T02:21:49+00:00

Donovan Sharpe one of the leaders of the Red pill married a single mom older than him. Look him up.

featherblackjack · 2023-11-09T10:11:07+00:00

A 4 year difference when you're both in your 20s? I don't see why anyone would have an issue with that. Of course it's okay if the woman is older. It's such a small difference, it's fine oh my gosh.

Why did you start watching redpill stuff? Seems an odd choice!

Meruem-x-Meruem · 2023-11-09T14:09:28+00:00

The Wall in particular is one of the stupidest things Red Pillers try to convince people of. As if women’s body somehow age differently than other humans and as soon as we reach 30 we might as well be expired, wtf. I’m currently 30 and in the best shape of my life, because I take care of myself. Meanwhile RPs who think using moisturizer and sunscreen is too effeminate will have leathery skin by 40. As for the ‘baggage’ they say women accumulate: Life happens to everyone. Baggage accumulates in everyone. But you know who’s more likely to talk through that baggage with their friends, family, and therapists? Women. While most men who think like them will hold onto a way a girl betrayed their trust in high school as the reason all women can’t be trusted. They’re the ones with the baggage because they refuse to adapt with the times, to grow INTERNALLY, as opposed to just more knowledge of seduction techniques and bigger muscles. Ok, I could go on but I’m late to my workout. (Leg day, baybee.) Anyway, date that dude and enjoy yourself. A good woman is a good woman no matter how old she is, and a good man can tell and will value his time and access to her.

JonF1 · 2023-11-09T14:34:34+00:00

Red pill is a clown world. That sort of content appeals to people who don't get outside and don't understand social nuance, no offense to yourself.

bluemagex2517 · 2023-11-08T23:40:52+00:00

Do you guys think it's weird if the woman is a bit older than the guy in a relationship? Would you date a woman a couple of years older? Do men who aren't into the red pill even care?

Most of the long term relationships I've had are with slightly older women. My current partner of 5 years is a year older than me. A decade ago I was with a woman for 7 years, she was 2 years older than me.

It's really not an issue. Three years difference once you're both over 25 is basically the same age, regardless of who is older.

ashchelle · 2023-11-09T04:36:26+00:00

It's good to be aware of the toxicity that exists out there so you can protect yourself. Be mindful of the tactics they tout so you can watch out for them and avoid being manipulated. Don't internalize what they say though.

If your boyfriend isn't playing mind games and you leave your interactions with him feeling good/happy/energetic then I see no reason to suffer by self-inflicting this red pill mindset on your relationship.

When you start feeling like he's playing games or that you're being destabilized by his actions, then you'll have your answer. If your intuition is telling you something is off, try to sit with it and see if it's truly your intuition or if it's anxiety speaking.

Until then, enjoy your relationship and try to relax.

I have a friend who is dating a woman 10+ years older than him and they've been together for 8 years now. Every person is different. You just need to find the person that is right for you.

tinyhermione · 2023-11-09T06:33:53+00:00

1) Four years is no age gap unless one of you are 18.

2) I never got more attention from men than the year I turned 30.

3) Don’t let men with little dating experience explain dating to you. These muppets have no idea what they are talking about. Did you see the IG post about the red piller who bragged about hanging out with two young girls in their early twenties? One of them replied under the post. She said they were both in their thirties and sex workers. He just couldn’t tell, with the age stuff that is.

Ok-Calligrapher7 · 2023-11-09T13:55:25+00:00

I consider a couple of years apart the same age. Those toxic preferences for younger women are a product of the patriarchy we live in. Men are missing out by discounting and devaluing women older than them. I've never been older than I am right now and I've never been better at love and relationships and intimacy.

Efficient_Demand_795 · 2023-11-09T14:58:59+00:00

Dont listen to them

Lazy-Quantity5760 · 2023-11-09T19:56:14+00:00

FFS stop listening to it and allow your brain to rewire and heal

skon7 · 2023-11-10T00:47:06+00:00

I feel the same way. I’m 32 and this red pill content makes me feel like I am not worthy of a relationship and that my age makes me less valuable or attractive. Unfortunately it doesn’t help that so many men have been indoctrinated by it. I can’t even get away from it. I am so insecure about it and I find it hard to ask the guys I’m dating for reassurance about it because it will come off as insecure and insecurity isn’t very attractive. I question any guy who does find me attractive, thinking they must be “blue pill” or low value if they would date a woman my age.

And the hardest part is that because I’m 32 I feel that even if a guy does find me attractive he might not want to get serious if he feels I can’t conceive children. Though I do think I still have a bit of time with that, the red pill tends to make this also a reason why woman my age are damages goods

Title	Listening to red pill podcasts made me incredible insecure
Author	luisinhamarq
Upvotes	35
Comments	26
Date	November 8, 2023 8:50 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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