We've been married for 6 years, Dated for 7 years before marriage, so in total we've been together about 13 years..

The reasoning behind us actually moving forward with divorce is due to incompatibilities, not seeing eye to eye on nearly anything, and unresolved resentment remaining (on both sides).. marriage counseling isn't an interest, as the amount of resentment that I have towards her, makes things feel unrepairable.

Regardless, we're living together for the next 12 months while the lease finishes (we rent a home, and act as roommates).. it works out for now since we have a 2 year old child together,

BUT, it's uncomfortable because my STBX seems to be getting all dressed up to go out and meet men, constantly smiling at her phone around the house.

We're no longer intimate, and we sleep in separate rooms, but it's sort of feeling like a punch in the Gut when I'm seeing/knowing that she's entertaining new men.

I've decided to refrain from following suit, for now.. I don't want to rush myself into becoming involved with another woman just so that I can feel like I too, am out talking to new people.. I haven't gotten on the dating apps, I haven't even felt the urge of wanting companionship, as I'm stressed about what the future may hold (I'm the sole financial provider, and stbx has leeched off of me for the past 2 years).

As of now, I admittedly have a bad taste in my mouth about women, in general.. as my STBX has leeched off of me as the sole financial provider, as well as their being a lack of respect towards my hard work (keeping a family afloat, alone during the tough economic state/inflation, etc)... in summary, I need to heal before getting back out there.. but, another man being involved with her makes my stomach turn, though I know it's coming, and is selfish of me.

My main question, while the divorce was being processed.. how did you cope with your STBX dating new men, having sex with new people?

Thanks