You are a nice girl but…

Jenneapolis · 2023-12-11T15:56:11+00:00

It would be helpful for us to have a concrete example. On the one hand you say you never have an argument, but then you say you break up after having an argument so something is happening. Also, how long are these relationships?

Prudent-Quarter714 · 2023-12-11T13:53:27+00:00

I used to have this happen too and I went on so many dates with guys I really liked and wanted to be with. Now I look back and I’m so thankful they did that because I didn’t waste my time and spend months and years with some of these guys and I’m now engaged to the literal love of my life.

So don’t stress about it if they don’t want you good riddance and thank God they didn’t waste more of your time and energy.

hhhowtho- · 2023-12-11T13:42:22+00:00

What do they say as the reason for the break up? What comes after “You are a good girl, but..”?

Agreeable-Comedian24 · 2023-12-11T13:53:33+00:00

I feel like something is missing. I looked at your post history, could some of your unique interests be an issue?

Also how many of these ‘beautiful, serious relationships’ have you had? Are you taking things too fast or more seriously than the men are?

youllknowwhenitstime · 2023-12-11T16:44:36+00:00

Have you vetted these men for family interest before getting into relationships with them? How long have these relationships lasted? There are plenty of men out there looking for women with whom to engage in serial monogamy who have no interest in progressing things and eventually just want to move on. I wouldn't call it "dating too young" per se though you're more likely to find this issue in younger demographics.

Commercial-Pack7240 · 2023-12-11T15:34:54+00:00

I used to get rejected and broken up with all the time. Then I met my soulmate. Enjoy your life, be you, and shine your light. I met my husband when I was just being me after I gave up on love. Sometimes it happens at the most unexpected times.

ArkNemesis00 · 2023-12-11T19:59:15+00:00

My personal take on this is that you may be showing an abundance of qualities that are positive long-term and not enough that are positive in the short-term.

Humans want it all. We want the emotionally mature, responsible person for the years to come AND the fun, vibrant, enthusiastic person alongside us today.

I would maybe focus on expressing more positivity (gestures of affection, smiling and laughing, etc) or actively engaging in your next partner's hobbies. If you can add "fun" alongside "nice" you'll be very much in demand.

Sweatpant-Diva · 2023-12-11T13:07:54+00:00

Sounds like the men are the issue not you, it’s okay that they are being honest with you and allowing you to move on. Nothing more disrespectful then wasting someone’s time.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2023-12-11T14:29:22+00:00

How old are the men?

meatballcurry · 2023-12-11T16:23:24+00:00

I have been proposed to four times and I’m married but in between I’ve had men tell me “I’m a very nice girl but…”

Later I found out from my father that sometimes this is a blessing and a sign that you aren’t toxic and you are in a healthy relationship and that is not what they want , the reason people stay in toxic triggering relationships is because they know they won’t go forward but with a woman who is well regulated emotionally, who bonds healthily and is in her feminine they know their “boy” tendencies will be exposed down the line and they are not ready to change themselves so they cut their losses.

I think when dating you should always lead with topics about your healthy father and mother (idc if that’s not real ) the f boy and toxic ones will leave you very quickly and the husband ones will be more interested.

Don’t ever assume man is without malice or deserving of your commitment

My question here is, how long were these relationships without him proposing? I think between 6 months to a year and a half is the most you should spend with some on who hasn’t proposed

OmegaTooMuch · 2023-12-11T13:03:43+00:00

Well how's the appearance? Maybe that could be it? Or maybe you're clingy? I like clingy but some men dont.

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Title: You are a nice girl but…

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Full text: Ladies, a very recurring theme in my life is men breaking up with me after beautiful, serious relationships, over the smallest of arguments, with the same phrase: you are a great girl, any man would be so lucky to have you, but…

I’ve never had a toxic relationship, or very intense arguments. I am very feminine, I never argue with my partners, I try my best in relationships to be a good partner, I am loyal. Am I too nice? Is that even a thing? Is it that I stop being a challenge after a while?

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Leonhart93 · 2023-12-11T23:32:13+00:00

If it happened more than once then it's a pattern. I know that's the line guys usually give to the girl they were never going to take seriously, they just pretended for a while. Make sure you don't confuse a guys interest in for for long term relationship interest. How do you know? Based on how much time and emotion he puts into the relationship.

Title	You are a nice girl but…
Author	mangoesoes
Upvotes	16
Comments	34
Date	December 11, 2023 12:51 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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