What is happening psychologically when a man enjoys watching women be humbled?

-Huzzah--- · 2023-12-14T22:18:18+00:00

Regarding RP men, it’s not about humbling, it’s about destroying. So, I’d say it’s centered in sadism stemming from a desire to humiliate based on these men having their own feelings of inferiority that they subconsciously externalize onto women. A basic mechanism of misogyny.

Edited: clarity

xvszero · 2023-12-14T23:58:43+00:00

A lot of them are mad at women for having sex with guys who aren't them, so they take that anger and it turns into petty satisfaction to see women "taken down".

camellight123 · 2023-12-14T23:54:52+00:00

The short answer is that they hate women.

In the sense that to them women should be subservient to men and look at men as leaders. So a woman should strive to make a man fall in love with her, by submitting to his authority and allowing herself to be lovingly guided in all things, and in exchange the man, will allow her to have some prizes, or be taken care of by him, to the extent of his rightfull judgment, and that such care, again, the likes and extent of which should be termine by him, is in of itself a privilege that elevates that woman to a higher status.

For them the sole fact that you'd "deal" with a woman long term, or even be faithful is a sacrifice they do out of "love", that the woman gains what she should ultimately want from life, which is a husband, and a nuclear family, but they sacrifice their single life of sexual conquest, they sacrifice the carefree indepence they enjoyed while single.

So for them marriage is a sacrifice and for the woman marriage is their ultimate dream. Therefore in this excage of "I sacrifice and you get your dream life" the least they (women) could do, is submitting to patriarchal authority. So to them that women don't want to do EVEN that, is a sort of "you want your cake and eat it too". (this view is very outdated, and is born from the fact that women had no other way of sustaining themselves beside marring, which in that condition, yes, marriage by necessity was all that women could strive for in life, and unmarried women were social outcasts, shamed or worse institutionalized)

If you add to that, that women flaunt online their happiness in single life, career, child free, or even they prefere single motherhood over an overbearing do nothing husband or even (gasp!) sex work! is such a cognitive dissonance narrative, that they outright refuse to believe women who say that. Therefore all the tropes of "lonely single women" "desperate single mothers" "cat ladies" "hitting the wall" (and the perverse fixation for porn stars who committed su1cid3) etc, as they desperately cling to their previous assumption of what women really want, and look only at things that confirm their bias.

In fact there is also a rhetoric under those humiliation fetishes, where a lot of the times, the woman is "fixed" by being humbled(SAd) , and comes to realize her rightful place of subservience, a trope that is very old, that I first encountered personally in the theater production "the traviata" from 1850s, which coincidentally, came out when the first feminists movements started in my country. Or in certain practices of SAing women who refuse to conform to patriarchal standards, it is as much a punishment as it is a "corrective procedure". At least to the monstrous men who commit it.

Buns-With-Guns-42 · 2023-12-14T22:19:56+00:00

There is likely a multitude of factors and it depends on if you truly mean "humbled," or do you mean violently psychologically abused because she made a mistake. I haven't seen much humbling in Manosphere circles which is why I ask. Behind the scenes, there is often a lot of secret/illegal recordings of her that are being edited significantly out of context, sometimes it's completely faked, etc. If you can elaborate, I might be able to assist.

ZenSawaki · 2023-12-15T13:27:58+00:00

Self-hatred. It's a projection of their own pain. Healthy people don't enjoy seeing others suffering.

NextAdministration83 · 2023-12-14T21:15:29+00:00

I think they perceive it the same way one gets satisfaction watching a bully get humbled.

Not exactly the same dynamic, but that's absolutely how Rp men perceive women. It's an experience of seeing someone normally regarding "better" and on a pedestal get treated/scrutinised to an equal level as these men experience often, either through online hate for his existence or from the literal alpha groups he follows.

Evening_Invite_922 · 2023-12-16T23:04:49+00:00

others are saying misogyny, I'd say a combination of misogyny, revenge, trauma, and desire to see women "brought to justice" or held accountable.

Both men and women do it

DangerStarfish · 2023-12-20T02:41:54+00:00

I'm hit so I'm hollering. Dawg. Lol.

I get a feeling of, I guess, vindication. From watching some of those conversations and debates. But honestly, it's because a lot of women in my local vicinity is "like that"

By "like that" I mean, the type of women that society kinda gives a pass for being shitty people. Other women know that these women that are "like that" are shit tier human beings.

I'm talking about the types that you have to bring your own condom with you, and take the condom with you after you leave her house. Cause the one she got, has holes in it. And if you leave the one you used, she's gonna turn the MF inside out and masturbate with it in hopes of getting pregnant, in hopes of putting her mark on child support.

I'm talking about the types, that will have consensual sex with you. And change her mind that it was consensual, cause she' mad/sad that you won't feed her narcissistic supply in some way.

I'm talking about the types, that will capitalize on your interest in her and not actually be interested in you. You're basically doing husband duties, and going to relationship level events but you are "friends" with her. 🤣.

I'm talking about the women that want a new relationship, but they still fuckin on their ex. And she expects you to beef with that man... When it ain't even gotta go there.

The type.of.women... and the exact woman that got my friend killed. And her husband was jailed with her foolishness.... Not every woman is "like that".

But the ones that are... Boy I hope they get theirs. I hope life kicks women that are "like that" very hard. Repeatedly.

notbien · 2024-01-05T20:20:01+00:00

It's their own delusional catharsis of seeing "revenge" happen in front of them. It butters their ego and levels out feelings of bitterness and resentment they have toward their imaginary idea of women "getting away" with real or imagined behaviors they hate.

iamnotzelduh · 2024-09-09T18:56:05+00:00

He already knows that he is beneath them. He probably grew up being poor and he has no respectable job that he is proud of. It is satisfying for them to bring successful women down because it makes them think they are in the same low level.

Observe the legit successful men around you. Talk to local business owners around your area that are thriving. They dont try to humble women. They put a huge rock on their finger, provide, and marry them instead.

lordDandas · 2023-12-14T21:17:50+00:00

They feel like men are being humbled all the time so they´re glad they´re getting a taste of their own medicine ?

SingleAdhesiveness78 · 2025-06-25T19:11:19+00:00

What's wrong with a woman getting humbled

chadlightest · 2023-12-15T10:07:21+00:00

Depends I enjoy some people in general being humbled. It's usually people who are being an arse getting their comeuppance.

Entheogeneration1111 · 2023-12-15T15:42:43+00:00

I'll speak personally. When I was growing up I watched my mum drunkenly abuse my dad. There was physical violence, and emotional violence. I laid in bed as a child in terror every night, wondering if tonight was going to be the night it happened again. My dad didn't do anything, he stayed calm etc but eventually my mum cheated on him when I was 17, he found out and finally they got divorced. She ended up marrying a rich banker while my dad made do and looked after me and my younger sister.

As I got older, my first girlfriend who I was madly in love and treated like a princess cheated on me. I met another girl a few years later who I was also madly in love with, she falsely accused me of rape and cheated on me multiple times, even sending me a picture once of her kissing someone else.

I then look at society at the moment and see how women are elevated, how every claim of sexual assault should be taken seriously while men (read: I) feel powerless to do anything about it. I've heard so many stories of horrific things women have done during breakups (trying to take the kids away is the usual one, but I've seen more). What frustrates me is that all of this seems to be completely ignored by society / the media, yet a man is violent towards a woman he goes to jail straight away. I see a big imbalance.

So probably all of the above is why I have a deep unconscious psychological need to punish women for what I perceive they've done to me.

I discovered the red pill in 2015, and it's really obvious why it appealed to me. Actually it helped me a lot to turn my life around, I stopped drinking and taking drugs, excelled in my career, got fit and healthy, etc.

But I'm starting to see now why it is unhealthy - hating women is not a good way to go and the resentment doesn't make sense. It's not good to feed and encourage this, and healing has to begin.

I think it's too simple to just say "it's because they're mad at women because they don't have sex with them" - as I don't believe that's my case at all, I get plenty of (admittedly unfulfilling!) sex.

But I struggle to see how to get over the above - there is a genuine problem that needs to be addressed, and "just be nice and everything will work out" is not working out.

JonF1 · 2023-12-15T02:08:45+00:00

Title	What is happening psychologically when a man enjoys watching women be humbled?
Author	BicontinentalAntique
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Date	December 14, 2023 8:52 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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