should i live miserably? or not and give up on love all together?

MyPresentSituation · 2023-12-28T05:34:29+00:00

You lost me at “I’m old”

You’re 20.

I did not bother reading the rest.

Prudent-Quarter714 · 2023-12-28T05:20:31+00:00

Your views are very polar opposite and you will end up hating eachother. Just leave you’re still young and find someone more like minded. I’m surprised he’s even with you or you with him. You will most likely find someone else as you’re still young and if you don’t well at least you didn’t stay with someone you would resent.

What I don’t understand here is that you claim to be a radical leftist feminist and feminist yet you chose to date this guy and don’t follow the independent woman mentality? You know what I mean? Like feminism is all about not needing a man and being independent yet you’re wanting to be with a man. I know we all want someone but I would have thought being a feminist you wouldn’t stay or date a “red pill”guy at all. lol just confused at what I’m reading.

CountTheBees · 2023-12-28T05:53:16+00:00

Can you please explain what is the life you want to live now, and what are your long term goals?

If neither your short term nor long term goals align with his it doesn't really matter what anyone says or how RP you are, you two are not compatible, and the relationship will not work.

Also you're 20. Please read the Getting Started with RPW and the section about the wall crushing you. The longtime lurkers and contributors here will laugh you out of the room if you think 20 is old. It is very young. You could reinvent yourself in a year and improve your dating prospects a hundredfold.

ladida1321 · 2023-12-28T04:57:29+00:00

You’re 20!!!!!!!!

Good lord girl, chill out and have some fun. You have the rest of your life to be so worried and serious.

ygfam · 2023-12-28T09:21:07+00:00

This reads like a troll jesus christ… 20 is old??????

Forsaken-Savings4370 · 2023-12-28T05:15:12+00:00

Relationships come with compromise. The more anyone goes down the “red pill relationship” YouTuber beginner package, the more they realize it’s just a starter pack and actually becoming an individual with values and what you will and will not tolerate to build a wholesome life is the next step. I highly recommend having open dialogue and conversations with your boyfriend.

Everyone’s different but what truly matters to me is the view on what our family will look like in the future. And what we each want from it and what we both know we don’t want to add to it from our own family trauma.

If that is a mismatch, then reevaluation may be needed.

20 isn’t the end all be all regardless of weight. It’s great that you’re working on a healthy lifestyle and that seems to be something that you value. I wouldn’t knock yourself down just because the red pill relationship YouTubers are talking about the top 1-5% of men.

Also if you want to look at some woman YouTubers who went from radical leftists to more moderate or conservative to see the life they lead or what they believe in or that transition to help you grow into something you potentially want to see in yourself, I highly recommend Amala Ekpunobi or Gothix. I’m not a Pearl fan at all because I don’t believe she walks what she talks aka not in relationship and capitalizing on that scene. But I will say her friends like RealFemSapien or Rebecca Barrett are great role models. Same with feminine girls like the feminine fancy and Jillz Guerin.

I hope this helps!

Cutiekitty101 · 2023-12-28T14:41:58+00:00

Girl you make no sense and you’re stressing yourself out for no reason. Go outside

Leonhart93 · 2023-12-28T05:49:29+00:00

This post sounds more like a rant, you only got small crumbs and pieces of what the Red Pill in general is all about. If you don't want to spend time to understand it then don't, if you think your life is good right now without the extra information then the RP is not for you. Usually people find it only when they realize stuff doesn't make sense at all in their relationships.

congtuangutrongrung · 2023-12-28T05:31:31+00:00

You are 20, there's still a plenty of time to achieve any fuckin thing you want (as well as a relationship). Importantly, he hasn't secured you anything yet. You are just thinking about his potention which hasn't been given to you. Be in present, what he is giving is what you would lost. You have nothing to do with these "hasnt given thing".

Attempting for a smaller size may even secure your future better than this man.

Twilight_Rose99 · 2023-12-28T14:38:51+00:00

Relationship gurus Sri Namaste and Baba Richard Moore recommend avoiding men who follow the teachings of Kevin Samuels, he doesn’t appreciate women and he handles them abrasively, that will leak over into the man you’re dating. He will also handle you abrasively. I recommend looking into Sri Namaste and Baba Richard’s work, search “Sri Namaste Moore” and “the Infinite Couple” on Facebook or YouTube.

Jewelry_lover · 2023-12-28T15:41:30+00:00

Are you trolling ?

Koriburch · 2023-12-28T17:41:38+00:00

it’s not the end we will find true love it’s hard nowadays for-sure but don’t give up on it

TheBunk_TB · 2023-12-29T05:43:22+00:00

Are you larping instead of actually changing? It seems that you are lying to yourself and anyone else. I don’t think you love yourself yet.

littlegraycellsmonam · 2023-12-29T18:53:27+00:00

Since when, in what universe is 20 old?

Pretend-Term-1639 · 2023-12-28T04:39:59+00:00

Honey, you are 20. You are young. You have your whole life in front of you. This is not the time to settle. This is the time to live! And no, you should not change yourself to please the man you are with to make him love you. That is not love. You need to find a man who loves you as you are, not what they can turn you into. You are not a rusted old car that some man needs to change, clean up, polish, and turn into something worth taking out. Your ideas, beliefs, passions, and interests are what make you special and deserving of love. Nobody knows who they are at 20 years old, and trying to make yourself the ideal of somebody else will only make your journey of self discovery more difficult. As for your description of your body, the most important things are for you to be healthy and for you to love your body. There are plenty of men out there who like all sorts of body types for women. Do not be discouraged that you won't find love because of your body. That's just not true. Losing weight to be healthy is great. Just so it for yourself and not for some man who is clearly insecure and trying to make you feel bad about yourself. I am a loud mouthed, feminist, liberal woman who has always dated uber conservative men. They have always respected my opinions, and I theirs. They have lived me fat and skinny. But they have always loved me because I have always been true to myself. Please, be true to yourself. You have some major weight to lose. It's the loser on the couch sitting next to you, telling you that you are old, fat, and will never get another man unless you change all of your beliefs and values. You know that this isn't love already, or else you wouldn't have written this post. Start out 2024 the right way, and live for yourself!

Anon_Actual_01 · 2023-12-28T14:56:09+00:00

Neither: consider staying with him and having a present with the man you love, and disregard the ideas that your ignoring your feelings, or that you won’t be living the life you want if you’re not mourning and insecure. If he loves you, maybe you should also.

AutoModerator · 2023-12-28T04:10:51+00:00

Title: should i live miserably? or not and give up on love all together?

Author DokyeomsTakes

Full text: i (f20) am a radical leftist and a feminist dating a (m25) red pilled right/moderate man.

i'm a bigger person, i'm a radical leftist, opinionated, and old. he's shown me videos from kevin samuels and people like him, i know i have little to no sexual market value because there will always be prettier, younger, quieter, and more submissive women out there. i'm already 20 with one serious relationship. from what i've interpreted from the things i've been shown, men find that disgusting and wouldn't want to be with a woman that old and with that much baggage. i'm big (working on losing the weight! already 1/6 of the way there!! :) ) and there's no reason for a man to be with a big woman when there's prettier, thinner ones available. no matter how much i try to fix my opinions to be red pilled for the sake of OLD old me (because from what i've been shown, women can't survive on their own for long), i can't seem to change all of my views. and i'm highly opinionated, if something is important enough to bother me for long enough, i feel it's important to bring up. my boyfriend even now tells me i'm always unhappy and he gets upset at me whenever i bring up issues i have with our relationship.

for the year we've known each other, i've changed so much about myself to be more red pilled and right-leaning, amd i'm thankful. a lot of what i believed was childishly shallow just to make up for my past beliefs that i hated. being with him has made me question absolutely anything and everything on what i believe for the best. he's made me reconsider so much... but i still have my own opinions on certain things that no matter how hard i try to change them, it doesn't matter. i feel myself losing interest in him romantically because i can't see myself fully living the life he wants us to. i love him deeply, more than almost anything else in this world.. so i'm torn.

(sorry if this is disorganized, i have so many thoughts, opinions, questions, explanations, etc and tried my best to only fit the most important ones.)

TLDR:

do i stay with him and ignore my feelings for the best? continue to physically mourn the life i want to live to secure a stable future with the man i love with a lifestyle i hate?

or do i leave him, live the life i want to live now, fuck myself over because no other man will ever love me, and miss him once i'm older?

i'm genuinely asking for advice, please don't delete this post, i'm begging for help.

if you have questions, please ask!! i'll answer (within reason :) )!have an amazing day <3

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Ok_Praline_2819 · 2023-12-29T22:00:38+00:00

I've been where you are. Remember that relationships are not about filling a set of roles that come from the internet. They're about enjoying each other's company and uplifting each other. Log off and spend more time with people who know and value the person that you are. The more you know yourself, the more you'll be able to see the path forward ❤️

Enigma2028 · 2024-01-03T17:26:40+00:00

Im sorry, but Kevin Samuels was not a high value man and actually made videos for men who were low value and average. A true high valué man knows this. Him showing you those videos to watch and digest is a yellow flag. A red flag if he’s constantly reposting them and forcing you to watch them.

If anything- you clearly need to work on your physical appearance. You don’t need a low value man to tell you that. You are still young and not damaged goods and once you work on improving your physical appearance and self esteem you will attract to which you desire. Besides, according to low value Samuels you become damaged goods after 35 allegedly so you’re still in the game, lol

Title	should i live miserably? or not and give up on love all together?
Author	DokyeomsTakes
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Comments	59
Date	December 28, 2023 4:10 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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