What to expect if there's not much money?

pk2at · 2023-12-29T04:57:33+00:00

General advice is to quit your job by taking a sabbatical, disclose zero as your income and let your wife and lawyer do the hard job of trying to convince the judge to impute your income. Usually works out in your favor despite what is written on lawyer websites

Lean_BigDaddy · 2023-12-28T23:20:05+00:00

Do you have any evidence to show you asked her to work, or that SAHM was her choice? My ex did start working the last 4-5 years of 20 + yrs so that helped, only got 6 yrs in alimony!

praisedone · 2023-12-28T22:38:44+00:00

I'd suggest you read some appellate opinion in Nevada. You will learn a lot.

Here the Google Scholar link to some Nevada case law on alimony and distribution of asset/liability.

It seems like Nevada is a community state.

https://scholar.google.com/scholar\_case?case=15229936243919167578&q=Equitable+distribution+of+marital+assets+and+liabilities&hl=en&as\_sdt=4,29&as\_ylo=2019

When granting a divorce, a district court may award alimony to either spouse "as appears just and equitable." NRS 125.150(1)(a). The decision of whether to award alimony is within the discretion of the district court. Buchanan v. Buchanan, 90 Nev. 209, 215, 523 P.2d 1, 5 (1974) ("In determining whether alimony should be paid, as well as the amount thereof, courts are vested with a wide range of discretion.").
When determining if alimony is just and equitable, a district court must consider
*401 the eleven factors listed in NRS 125.150(9).[1] See DeVries v. Gallio, 128 Nev. 706, 711-13, 290 P.3d 260, 264-65 (2012). The district court may also consider any other relevant factor, but it must not consider the marital fault or misconduct, or lack thereof, of the spouses. Rodriguez, 116 Nev. at 999, 13 P.3d at 419 ("Alimony is not a sword to level the wrongdoer. Alimony is not a prize to reward virtue.").

New-Amoeba9042 · 2023-12-28T21:37:30+00:00

Sadly, yeah most states at least assume the wife can make a min wage, adds that’s to what you make, splits it down the middle, then you pay to balance it out.

Then you add child support on top of you don’t have custody.

Living in a ghetto is very possible if you have to pay alimony. If I didn’t get out of alimony, I would have to live on my friends couch

Peoniesandpopsicles · 2023-12-28T21:37:20+00:00

Strongly persuade her to get a job ASAP and then let the divorce unfold. The kid is 15, why the heck does she not have a job.

stent00 · 2023-12-28T21:34:50+00:00

Good luck man..at least you only have one kid. No matter what it's gonna hurt as you have to support having your own household on top of paying for hers through alimony and CS

hogger303 · 2023-12-28T21:31:14+00:00

Most State websites have a child support calculator and an alimony calculator.

FUMoney · 2023-12-28T21:21:27+00:00

So my wife of nearly 20 years is asking for divorce. … She is a SAHM

One danger is future money, meaning spousal support. It depends on your country/state/jurisdiction. But in some places, dude, you’re looking at near-certain lifetime alimony if she doesn’t remarry.

It’s not every jurisdiction, but in some, a 20-year marriage with a SAHM is a major red flag. If you live in the wrong place, you could be paying her monthly until you die.

So, you need to do some immediate research on whether there is lifetime alimony, and after that, you need to run the country or state calculators to determine your child support and amount + length of spousal support.

You mentioned renting in a ghetto. If you reside in the wrong locale, you could be facing some very big numbers relative to your income, and you may — may — be close to that reality. Don’t sleep on this. You need some quality research done immediately.

Dapper_Employer5787 · 2023-12-28T21:14:52+00:00

With a SAHM wife and a 15-year-old kid, expect a lot less money. Your expectations are accurate.

Consider a shack or trailer in the sticks if you can swing it instead of a room in the ghetto. Good luck.

On the plus side you're only looking at 3-6 years years of child support, assuming you don't end up on the hook for college expenses, which hopefully under the circumstances of this shitshow you will not.

You need to provide more info about where you live, your state at least, for any more specific guidance.

Title	What to expect if there's not much money?
Author	Dapper_Employer5787
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Date	December 28, 2023 9:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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