Guys, please help me, advise me on what to do. This is the first time I'm writing on Reddit. I've been in a relationship with a guy for almost two years, and we've been living together for one and a half years. A while ago, in the early stages of our relationship, I asked him if he had ever made home videos before, as we started speaking about making them too. He said that in his previous relationships, he did make home videos but deleted them when they broke up.

Today, I found those videos on his flash drive. They were loaded onto the flash drive when we had already been living together for four months, and the last time they were viewed was a month ago! I don't know what to do; it hurts so much. Not only did he lie about deleting them, but he also watches them while being in a relationship with me.

I should mention that I also live in the apartment they moved into together with his ex, who now lives in the neighboring entrance! It's already painful for me, and it feels like her presence is always in the apartment. When we walk down the street, he always looks into her windows. It hurts me, but I haven't talked to him about it because he always twists things or pretends to be joking and denies everything.

He initiated the breakup with her, and it took a long time before he actually ended things. I know he doesn't want to be with her, but everything constantly reminds me of her, even though he changed the arrangement and all the furniture after the breakup. Now, there are these videos. They were last opened on the day I was at work.

Can you advise me on what to do? Is this normal? I don't even understand what's normal anymore. What would you do? Would you break up?