How do you pass the "I am too pretty for you" "I don't see what do attractive about you" when you're clearly good looking and she is interested too???

Technical_Hawk8547 · 2022-10-19T20:50:06+00:00

It’s a shit test 100%. I’d just accept it sarcastically and laugh along with it. In my head I’d respond like this.

“I don’t get what’s so attractive about you?”

“Yeah I know, still trying to figure it out myself, it’s a mystery” followed by a smile/grin maybe a small laugh.

“Your not even all that”

“Crazy right?! I’m just as lost as you’re. Guess we will never know”

The worst thing you can do is react negatively or get defensive/aggressive. They’re testing to see if your confidence is actually legitimate or a facade. It’s up to you to keep up that confidence during it all. In my experience the hotter the girl, the more tests you’ll get.

curtains20 · 2022-10-19T22:50:03+00:00

Jesus why waste time with such an annoying person to begin with. Save your energy for people who don’t suck.

Chad_Thundermember · 2022-10-19T20:50:47+00:00

Of the many women that I've dated, I have encountered a grand total of one woman who have flat out told me I wasn't good enough for her. I've seriously dated a bit over a dozen while the rest of the dozens were either quick, instant rejections or the occasional easy lays. Even counting those serious dates in which they ultimately had to say "no", I still really only had one who was cruel enough to say that. And that was when her and I were already fuck buddies and she refused to make it official.

I'm sorry but what kind of girls are you dealing with to where they flat out tell you you aren't good enough for them? Are these ugly, insecure girls or some shit? Maybe they are imitating what they think hot girls are like when rejecting men.

That's not how hot girls reject men, bro. Tell me honestly, are you dealing with ugly low quality girls or something? I really can't tell because I don't pay attention to them.

VeliVoy · 2022-10-19T20:43:45+00:00

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caesarfecit · 2022-10-20T06:40:40+00:00

How do you pass it?

Easy - always call their bluff. Good lesson to take away from Bond movies.

Laugh at her, then agree and amplify. Maybe...

"Hahaha, good. You won't go all Stage 5 clinger on me!"

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-10-19T20:58:05+00:00

Most important thing is to be non-reactive and view it as self amusement. Try to think in terms of what is reactive, and what isn't.

You can ignore what she said, then respond (or interrupt) with a commanding question.

Something simple like, "Where are you from." Say it in a commanding but curious way where you expect an answer. Don't let her lead the frame, demand she tell you. When she tells you, play it off as if now you get it. She's superficial and that type, just like all the girls from x location. Its all in fun, your just picking on her a little. Its self amusement for you. Anything like that.

The key thing is don't become reactive. Hold your frame and act as if its nothing and mildly entertaining that she said that. Get her to react to you with a direct question or cold read. Then pick on her for being that type from x location or whatever. Get off the conversational thread a few seconds or mins later, lead, self amuse, etc...

You can come up with any question or cold read. Just make sure you say it in a playful, but commanding way. Pretend you are the boss, she is the employee. Your the tree, she's the squirrel. Nothing she can say will bother you, its all mildly amusing to you.

gameofloans24 · 2022-10-19T23:32:26+00:00

Fuck em and move on. Not an attitude I’d want for someone in my life. Cut bait

VeliVoy · 2022-10-19T20:33:23+00:00

Like she is trying to make me feel inferior and trying to throw off my self confidence

Erbium-Oxide · 2022-10-19T22:18:07+00:00

Is this a message? Sounds to me like she’s telling you she likes you, and that there’s something “je-ne-sais-quoi”.

mjornir · 2022-10-20T02:38:34+00:00

“Well now you have an opportunity to find out ;)”

Dorsiflexionkey · 2022-10-20T09:40:27+00:00

What i do is laugh it off and make funny observations. It's hard to pre-script these situations so you have to be able to make jokes off the top of your head. Like if she goes: "I'm too pretty for you.." I'll say something like "Damn girl, you really gonna talk like that wearing those shoes though? Look, at this chick.. blah blah blah" Like pick something out on her outfit while laughing in warm, funny way. Get her friends involved or your friends and just roast her but making sure you're still kind of gentle and that you're laughing with her not at her. If she laughs you win. If she escalates and gets mad and you keep laughing, you win. You respond to her shit test with self respect, laughter and actual wit not only will you win the test and win her over, ANYTHING she says from here on out makes her the bad guy. You make a funny joke back and she gets mad? She's the bad one cos she started it or she's the psycho. She laughs at your joke, great now she's on your side and you demonstrated good mental health/social skills because you didn't chimp out at her lame comment.

"I don't get what's so attractive about you." That's allgood, most women don't know why they're attracted to me either.

"You're not even all that." same as the first paragraph.

ef2111 · 2022-10-19T21:01:15+00:00

"I don't get what's so attractive about you"

"Sorry you're slow on the uptake. What about you, on the inside, makes you stand out from the next attractive woman?"

"You are not even all that"

"You're right! I'm actually all that and a bag of chips! Besides your looks, what makes you think you're all that?"

Honestly, don't put up with shit tests. If she is willing to shit test you, find a way to throw it back in her face and move on. These are pretty rough shit tests, and I wouldn't waste my time on a chick that gives out these kinda shit tests.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-10-19T21:05:55+00:00

Whether it is a shit test or not, my response is the same, "That kind of attitude is just as common as beauty, ur not special."

2022-10-19T21:07:27+00:00

"Yeah, I am so much dope, that it is very hard to embrace it with a simple mind"

VeliVoy · 2022-10-19T20:37:17+00:00

Sorry for spam but, I am trying to say she is giving me that "I am outta your league" kinda vibe when she is not even that high up. How do I tackle this so I look confident enough.

I was thinking reply something like "You should ask all the girls in IG requests what's so special about me" but that would come across as try hard isn't it

yashti · 2022-10-19T23:31:05+00:00

That's why I'm talking to you.

gangweedsavedme · 2022-10-20T05:29:45+00:00

I think it helps to understand that this is their form of showing interest, so you already have it. Just show you don’t care if they like you.

MeleeMalayMehLei · 2022-10-20T07:35:11+00:00

Just walk away. Have self respect. You're as attractive as the most attractive woman who actively wants you. So if a 9/10 wants you, you're a 9, even if a 4/10 woman calls you ugly.

HeMan17 · 2022-10-20T10:37:34+00:00

“Calm down bitch, if we ever got together I’d be the one settling”

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-10-20T11:46:36+00:00

“I don’t know about that but you’re definitely too conceited for me” then walk off

2022-10-20T13:29:06+00:00

Man,

These “shit-tests” are just a bunch of immature bs. Honestly I’d say don’t deal with such women if you are looking to go long term but if you have a different objective then here is one answer.

If these were texts, just heart react to the message and don’t say anything back. Since these questions are often asked by insecure people, their insecurities usually flare up and they start to think wtf they did to get ignored, because most guys usually respond and never ignore. This usually fixes them up to say something else or they leave, but who cares lol.

If this is said in person, well honestly, you can be either witty or idgaf mode. You can turn this into a flirty moment where you get close to them to assert yourself, or you just be like “kk then” and move on lol.

Like there are ways to present your confidence, you gonna have to suss out the best option. But don’t push out a reaction that gives a negative response, although we may feel like it given that the question is a bunch of bs, it won’t end well if you have other objectives with the person.

2022-10-20T19:14:16+00:00

You enthusiastically agree with a playful grin on your face, and you add to it. Something along the lines of "You're way too pretty for me and we would be terrible for each other." After that, continue on with the conversation like normal.

Entire_Egg_4119 · 2022-10-21T02:18:53+00:00

I think showing a little vulnerability and interest is a good thing. If you follow that with playful jabs (not literally) and you pair it with hot and cold behavior…. She’ll probably remain interested. You did good, boss.

Title	How do you pass the "I am too pretty for you" "I don't see what do attractive about you" when you're clearly good looking and she is interested too???
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Date	October 19, 2022 8:32 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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