Girls always flake on me from online dating and just in general I’m a good looking guy who’s tall and have gotten flaked on 10 times in a row now what’s going on?

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-07-10T20:52:02+00:00

You probably come across too direct and over eager. Women don’t want to exchange small talk and then set an appointment. Its not a job interview its a seduction. You should be kind of flowing between flirting, light teasing, witty banter, innuendo. Give them something to think about, engage their imagination, fight the urge to clearly define every little thing. This is the number one mistake most guys make with women. We have this innate urge to relieve the tension of not knowing. We want to know EXACTLY how she feels. EXACTLY if she considers it a date or not. We NEED to make plans for another date while we’re still on the first one. Thats what he means by being outcome dependent. There’s no better way to project confidence to a girl than to flirt for the sake of flirting, or make an ambiguous comment that she isn’t totally sure what you meant and leave it that way. Be less transparent. She doesn’t need to see a resume. Let her wonder. Let some days pass without responding. There’s nothing wrong with a little tension. Girls like not knowing exactly how you feel about them right away. They like to speculate and fantasize. If you build enough intrigue and don’t rush for an immediate result within minutes of talking to her, she will probably suggest meeting up herself after she’s built up enough curiosity towards you.

whale_sports · 2022-07-10T20:02:19+00:00

10 times in a row? Haha wow. You're obviously not able to make them feel excited, or comfortable. Are you asking them out too soon, instead of building rapport with them first?

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-07-10T20:47:38+00:00

Go posit this question to assholeconsulting. He'll tell you

ReadyTelephone2395 · 2022-07-11T00:05:25+00:00

They got other options that they prefer.

ZachMoore88 · 2022-07-10T19:59:57+00:00

Common occurence. The solution....ask out more women.....a lot more

bandsupjay · 2022-07-10T20:24:33+00:00

Your dimenear . Most likely how you come across to these girls. Try to be outcome independent and less nice if you are. Nice guys finish last

Organic_Pack1211 · 2022-07-10T22:32:22+00:00

I have the same problem but I think with me is that I’m still learning so there is trial and error. My best advice is to flirt with them without complementing then (sounds weird but I can drop a video I watched if needed) and I build sexual chemistry without bringing up sex (same video for explanation). Lastly I try to get them comfortable… I still have flakes too so hopefully this helps out a little

OTCplayboy · 2022-07-11T00:49:52+00:00

You have no game simple

DryAdhesiveness6579 · 2022-07-10T20:17:53+00:00

yeah what’s going on here or you’re not as good looking as you think.

flakes are normal online dating but i usually have like 3 exchanges with a chick and then ask for her number and make a date using the apps

2022-07-10T21:02:40+00:00

Make sure you ask for a number and date ASAP, don't wait they have MANY options, and from what i noticed, start slowly making semi sexual comments or compliments over text to test the waters and usually if they bite.... well then, they might bite😊

poppetje44 · 2022-07-10T21:20:11+00:00

Do you treat them like shit ?

2022-07-11T04:16:54+00:00

You gave us barely any info so how can anyone diagnose you? Some amount of flaking is normal. 10 for 10 might be ok in the micro. As in sometimes you have slumps and sometimes you have peaks (10 out of 10 dates follow through).

ftdrain · 2022-07-11T05:44:07+00:00

If he didnt look good he wouldnt be getting matches, at the same time his flake rate is way too high, Im lazy as fuck and still get more women than I can handle. Something is really off here

alex_moliner · 2022-07-11T08:40:51+00:00

Online game is a social skill that needs to be learned. It' s not just a funny or cocky first line and...tadaaa! you get a date. Online interaction has phases that need to be respected, orelse the interaction collapses. I learned this the hard way in hundreds of ghosted chats. For instance, you shouldn't propose a date in the first or second message: you will sound desperate. You should wait until there is a moment of high emotional intensity, like when she laughs or is sharing something intimate with you. I hope this gives you some light, bro.

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