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grindforthegold · 2022-06-21T19:53:55+00:00

no that’s terrible advice, practice talking to a wall and make a script dont follow it directly but at least have some idea of structure don’t be a zombie or you’ll be spam approaching and failing like an idiot like i used to

Gamer_IRL · 2022-06-21T19:02:49+00:00

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tastless_chill_tonic · 2022-06-21T19:03:40+00:00

anyone will respond better when you response is something that is relevant for the time, place, person, etc. that is where the "anything" comes in.

People will always be able to tell rehearsed or memorized speech vs. genuine, the problem is the latter is difficult until you fail a couple times at it.

ShortStuffV2 · 2022-06-21T21:53:09+00:00

"Filler words" are conversation and mood killers. This is because they are either boring or approval seeking or both; they are used to fill silences.

What do I mean by that?

I mean saying polite (she is wearing x, you say "x suits you") or excessive "active listening" phrases that rephrase what you were told but that themselves contribute nothing to the conversation. In my experience nothing has dried up my sets faster than this.

3SidedDie · 2022-06-21T23:22:04+00:00

Huh... What have you been saying when you're saying anything?

Cuz it sounds like you're calling they'r mothers a bitch or something LOL

ShiftReasonable4066 · 2022-06-21T19:19:00+00:00

As long as you dont say anything off putting that warrants an apology. You can say whatever. Its all a numbers game in who's going to be receptive. It's never a repudiation of you. So dont take it personal

AloofusMaximus · 2022-06-21T20:14:57+00:00

Well you can't say "anything" that comes to mind, but you CAN talk about anything you want. Though how and when you brooch certain topics very much depends on your social skills and rapport with her.

If women are actually responding to you in an awkward manner or are cringing, something with the way you're talking to them is REALLY off.

Can you give an example of what kind of stuff you're saying?

Choice-Welder1482 · 2022-06-22T04:09:18+00:00

I have been going out with a girl recently. I started asking her about a situation with her ex... it was a little uncomfortable but then she told me it was OK for asking and said "no question is a stupid question". And I said "ok then. Would you eat only hot dogs for 1 year if you were paid 500k?"

She's still interested in me. And it's a genuine question. It's the type of question my guy friends might ask me or vice versa.

lostAndN0tFound · 2022-06-22T04:54:05+00:00

What I believe when someone says “say anything” is that while talking to someone don’t fabricate your dialog to a point where it becomes obvious that you’re trying to hit on them or trying to be nice with ulterior motive, no matter how benign that motive is.
Be casual in that sense. Don’t be too cautious that you’re thinking of what to say next, you won’t enjoy the conversation yourself, it’ll become a task than a fun activity. If you’re enjoying it, there is a higher chance that the other person will also enjoy it, higher the chance of you guys clicking it. Just don’t force anything, if you’re able to flirt then cool else just have a meaningful fun conversation. Who knows the other person might be just looking for a good conversation.

2022-06-21T20:04:53+00:00

In terms of the rudeness level, you definitely shouldn’t say something you wouldn’t say to your friend. Some girls like banter, nobody likes insults. Good quality women will mentally throw you into the trashcan as soon as you start negging.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-06-21T20:41:19+00:00

You can say anything assuming you have enough social intelligence to not say something creepy like “i want to put chloroform on your nose and take you home”.

Yes there are limits, but when people say “anything” what they mean is that you don’t need some crazy elaborate thing that requires a whole university degree.

Topics can be like the situation you are in that moment like the environment, the people around you, the club, her clothing style, her career or studies, her drink, her favourite movies, feelings, etc

It doesn’t mean that you can talk however about how you plan on raping her or moelsting her or kidnapping her. If you can’t even come to this simple conclusion without people having to break it down for you, then you are a danger to society.

2022-06-21T23:10:28+00:00

Some of that refers to confidence, and rapport with girl, it’s not what you say it’s how you say it.

MoStuntin · 2022-06-22T02:36:38+00:00

If ur good lookin say whate be e

cutiepienew · 2022-06-22T04:46:05+00:00

Anything socially acceptable and not weird

TheRealDJ · 2022-06-22T06:53:01+00:00

Part of it isn't exactly what you're saying, but how you're saying it. If you can making a random line like "You know carrots are good for your eyes right?" and make it cool and flirty, then boom, you have an opening line.

TheMorningJoe · 2022-06-22T07:21:07+00:00

Only if you follow rules 1 & 2

Ok_Yogurtcloset_669 · 2022-06-22T08:26:18+00:00

You can say whatever you want if you're Chad..

attidzsizosz · 2022-06-22T08:51:50+00:00

Anything that you would tell your pals. Women are humans too bro smh

mystylejay · 2022-06-22T11:29:58+00:00

Im which sense? Please elaborate.

During hook-up it is always better to pay attention to what you are saying. You can be spontaneous but choosing "the best" version of yourself.

As you create intimacy and connection, you can drop your "best self", by progressively showing also the other sides of you.

However the process is slow, a long roadmap and several important milestones:)

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