UPDATE... On the cringy-ass note I left for my cougar neighbor

recyclablebanthas · 2022-04-11T03:15:47+00:00

This post and the previous one had to be taken down because they concern a specific situation. And they're both really more shit posts then anything else.

Not leaving someone a cringe note in their laundry, taped to their underwear, is something anyone with a grasp of basics who is studying game at all, would not be doing.

Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full before commenting or posting again.

The line here is more fully explained in the Pinned Post: Ask yourself if the post will help someone get laid or land a relationship. While it's good if you got a lesson here, simply not being cringe doesn't meet this requirement.

But since you saw fit to get into flame wars on this thread, arguing against the textbook definition of ghosting, you might consider taking a hard look at your social skills.

2022-04-10T16:42:25+00:00

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Billieclide · 2022-04-10T18:37:14+00:00

U didnt get ghosted. U have to actually know someone and had spent time with them before u can get ghosted

2022-04-10T16:54:54+00:00

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Flomosho · 2022-04-10T22:13:57+00:00

It's not ghosting.

Ghosting only works if you both went on a date(s).

You are still in the " I haven't talked to her" phase.

hahahahahahahahah717 · 2022-04-10T19:05:13+00:00

Should’ve approached in person, sending a note probably looks childish to a women her age.

IronCapable · 2022-04-10T16:52:02+00:00

I would go up to her when I see her, apologize and explain the whole thing. She may LOL at it, and you guys are good.

slicklol · 2022-04-10T20:18:29+00:00

The only way this can work is if you do what you should have done in the first place. You be a man and you introduce yourself and chat her up. Is that so fucking difficult? Talk to her, have intent and if she is still dismissive than move on. Jesus.

cjunc2013 · 2022-04-10T17:52:32+00:00

Flip it. Tell her you heard leaving a note worked in the old days. Turn the script around.

Maximus_Dominus_Rex · 2022-04-10T19:15:47+00:00

Why should she call you? You didn't give her a compelling reason to do so. Did you flirt with her? Did you make her laugh? Did she give you ANY indication of interest?

Furthermore, always keep in mind that women have plenty of options for dating, hooking up, and/or a relationship. Way more than you do. Not just with men, but with other women and even couples if they want. You have to demonstrate your worth and that you really aren't like every other guy out there.

quadfintryfin · 2022-04-10T19:44:50+00:00

No way, double down on your creepiness. Ask her if she needs help washing her underwear.

Tell her when you left the note you noticed she was washing them wrong and they still seemed as smelly as before she washed them

Impressive_Sport_713 · 2022-04-10T17:18:22+00:00

Good job bro

Testicabag · 2022-04-10T22:30:19+00:00

What did the note say? OP deleted.

DeJuanBallard · 2022-04-10T22:42:09+00:00

Lol idiot

anotheroneig · 2022-04-10T23:55:52+00:00

You gotta be talked to first, to be ghosted LOL

Selassie_eye · 2022-04-11T02:22:43+00:00

bruh please post this note

immatonton · 2022-04-10T21:16:18+00:00

You really aired out your feelings for her, huh?

Sadly, I guess you could say that she wasn’t picking up on the scent.

No, your little love note didn’t get her wet. Instead, it was a dryer sheet.

blackopsplayer5 · 2022-04-10T23:25:10+00:00

Atleast when i was cringy i was 13 and wrote an anonymous poem to atleast gauge reaction good luck 👍 😉 I mean i’m still cringy but atleast you didn’t chicken out

lisathew8lifter · 2022-04-10T23:49:56+00:00

I’m not sure how old you are or how old she is but if some dude left me a note in a laundry room I’d ghost him too. First how does she know it’s you? Second you’re putting the ball in her court and in essence making her pursue you….which I wouldn’t do. As a cougar 😉 I’d expect the guy to talk to me and have some dialogue prior to asking for my number or giving me his. At this stage in my life I’ve met a lot of men and to be Frank…don’t need one so if I’m going to give anyone my number I need to be sure I’m interested first. I don’t need any unnecessary drama with any men I’m not interested in.

Next time make conversation…have patience and don’t shoot your shot until you’ve done the aforementioned

teams21 · 2022-04-11T02:19:29+00:00

This guys a fucking nut

slicklol · 2022-04-10T18:09:22+00:00

Op you gotta face this head on .. at least thats what i would do ..

if i crossed paths with her i’d just say “excuse me, what’s your name?” after getting her name i’d introduce myself .. then i’d say “i feel silly for telling you this but i dropped a note on your laundry basket not too long ago cuz i just wanted to see who you were and as your new neighbor curiosity was kind of eating away at me. Im sorry if that offended you i just moved here from another state and meeting new people isn’t actually a strength of mine” ..

DanielFromCucked · 2022-04-10T20:11:36+00:00

Go cop knock on her door I'm sure that level of confidence will put you right back in her good graces

recyclablebanthas · 2022-04-10T19:04:47+00:00

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NessieTheOG · 2022-04-10T19:32:39+00:00

What if the note fell off and she never saw it?

Also, I think that it would be less awkward if you acknowledged it and may be laugh about it.

Mikkster643 · 2022-04-10T21:10:53+00:00

Next time knock on her door and ask if her signal is blocked because you have an important work related issue to attend to and are kinda running out of options. Basically make a excuse but don’t make out the focus on her entirely. Remember the first impression is one of the most important parts of clicking. You want to seem responsible,independent, but come off as exiting and classy for the older ladies.

Mrsowrong · 2022-04-10T21:43:16+00:00

Wait you just put your number??? You said nothing cool?

2022-04-10T22:49:01+00:00

Good for you

Plebe-Uchiha · 2022-04-11T00:01:09+00:00

SMH

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digitalEarthling · 2022-04-11T01:11:51+00:00

Sending cute notes to girls was soo much fun...in 5th grade. Seriously. It was.

mmmm_frietjes · 2022-04-11T01:43:44+00:00

Please update when you've run into her again. I wanna know how this ends.

CoolKid2326 · 2022-04-11T01:43:49+00:00

a lot to unpack here. first off dont be so negative. and life is only awkward if u make it awkward so just play it off. and for future u should ask her out in person. "note passing" is schoolchild level and may have hurt u more thwn it helped

Skizznitt · 2022-04-11T01:50:07+00:00

She was honestly probably flattered deep down like "yep, I still got it," even if she didn't want to get with you. Women love when people still find them pretty as they age... But leaving a note... C'mon man, what kind of woman do you think would want a guy that doesn't even have the balls to talk to her, flirt with her, and get to know her in person? I'm being dead serious here, you're not doing yourself any favors by leaving a note like a 6th grader with his first crush, that isn't attractive to a mature woman, they have a better idea of what they want than younger women do, and I'll clue you in, it isn't an immature dude.

UnderstandingNo4813 · 2022-04-11T01:52:46+00:00

lmfao you fucked up nerd

5_7pickup · 2022-04-11T01:54:42+00:00

LOL that actually made me laugh. Who the fuck told you leaving a note was a good idea?

You should have just approached and introduced yourself.

Leaving a note is pretty lame. Shows youre scared, insecure, not confident, etc.

aletamale · 2022-04-11T03:19:02+00:00

Leave her alone. She's not giving signs of interest.

Title	UPDATE... On the cringy-ass note I left for my cougar neighbor
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Date	April 10, 2022 4:41 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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