How do you stop feeling inferior to women?

Dodechaedron · 2022-04-07T22:13:07+00:00

Seek professional advice.

MountainGoatSC · 2022-04-07T23:48:01+00:00

This sounds like it might be some deeper issue than an online forum of random people can help you with

SocialReject101 · 2022-04-07T22:15:45+00:00

You have to identify where is this coming from. Maybe try therapy
If not, my advice would be to shift your focus from what you think others might want to what YOU want.
Women are people, not gods. They are imperfect, they suck at conversations and many of them actually are gross. Read my last post in my profile. If you want to minimize your anxiety, imagine them doing same gross things we men do.

MudFlaky · 2022-04-08T00:03:19+00:00

Why would you feel inferior to anyone? If you are being the best version of yourself you have nothing to worry about

velvetangelsx · 2022-04-07T22:11:32+00:00

Watch 2 girls 1 cup and once you see two hot girls eat literal shit on video, you wont feel inferior anymore.

Neo-Rio · 2022-04-08T00:26:36+00:00

I'm too old to ever feel inferior to women now. I recognize that a lot of women suck (and not in a good way), and they're imperfect, often wrecks of human beings. Especially young ones who think their young bodies can get them everything they want while having a personality that is the equivalent of scraping your nails on a blackboard.

One thing that it takes a while for men to appreciate is female loyalty, and that learning that when women - who may not always be the best looking - will do practically anything you ask of them - in the bed and out - that you may gain an appreciation of what really matters in your relations to women.

What kinds of girls do you like? Blondes? Brunettes? Asians?Young guys might ogle at hot girls out there in the world, but since a woman like that is currently doing ZERO for you, why the hell would you emotionally involve yourself to the point where you think she's unattainable?

For me, I like OBEDIENT women. :)I'm no control freak, but you can't do much with a woman who won't comply. They have no value to me at all.

Women often ask "what have you done for me lately?" about men in their lives, and you need to return the favor.

So when you DO approach them for the first time, you're going to feel like you're about to give them a million dollars, and you're there to find out if they're smart enough to take it. Remember, they haven't done anything for you up until that point, so anything you do for them is a freaking gift. Know your value.

shortyafter · 2022-04-08T01:43:24+00:00

Men are generally shamed more than women in our society, so this is relatively normal, although in your case probably a bit extreme. I would stop trying to go after "hot" women (if you're trying that) and enjoy some more humble girls, even if it's only as friends. They tend to be a lot nicer and accepting. If you're not pursuing any girls at all, then yes, just try interacting with a girl who gives you a good vibe. Even if it's a grandma. Or maybe a heavyset woman. Or a tomboy. The typical "hot" chick probably won't be much help, those girls are difficult and not the type you want.

DetainTheFranzia · 2022-04-08T00:39:31+00:00

I agree, sounds like you have deeper issues than just sprucing up your game. Sounds like you might have self esteem issues, or some baggage from earlier in life. Only advice I'll give is a common form of therapy is exposure therapy, where you intentionally expose yourself in a safe manner to the things that scare you or make you anxious. Would it be so bad if you forced yourself to maintain eye contact when a woman is talking to you? What's the worst that could happen?

Btw, not every man needs to be an alpha. At the same time, everyone DOES need to be confident and have self esteem. All you can do is work on yourself and try to reject whatever bullshit social pressures are holding you back from being comfortable with who you are.

Rapus_Maximus · 2022-04-08T00:53:09+00:00

Hey man, all these other comments are good ideas but a much simpler solution is to just go out there and talk to as many girls as possible. Just like any skill you gotta practice. First try learning how to hold a conversation by watching videos online, and then just go into every conversation with the mindset that you are there to learn how to do better, because your first couple of times are pretty much destined to go rough. It could take a while but as long as you have the heart to keep going and trying again, you’ll notice results in no time.

I’m not even saying they have to be romantic interests at first, just spark a conversation and let it flow.

atomant88 · 2022-04-08T04:49:14+00:00

spend some time with women. you'll see theyre just people. theyre not mysterious creatures. theyre not all the same

caesarfecit · 2022-04-08T05:07:07+00:00

Sounds to me less like a self-esteem problem and more of a specific issue with women. Best guess is repressed thirst.

When we're thirsty, we have a nasty tendency to idealize hot women, then we can't live up to the idealized version of her, then we feel inferior. You don't see her insecurities, her underdeveloped personality, her unresolved trauma, the ugly ducking teenager she sees in the mirror, or her overwhelming need to just feel appreciated by someone.

The problem with repressing shit is that we don't just hide that shit from other people, we hide it from ourselves as well, and unseen in the depths of our minds, it festers and grows in strength.

One of the fundamental challenges every man who aspires to be good with women faces is gaining control over their sex drive. Because if you can't, you'll either self-sabotage or be remorselessly played by women. If you can't own your thirst, you're defenseless.

And the first step to owning your thirst is accepting it. There's nothing wrong with wanting to get laid, she wants to get laid too.

The second step is to channel your sex drive into productive work to improve your own life. Mark Manson talks about this, saying how the more you invest in yourself, the less invested you are with the opinion of others.

This is the real difference between Chads and simps. Both types of guys want to get laid, and sometimes there's very little actual difference between them. The key difference is, the Chad has control over his sex drive and women can sense that. Then they feel inferior, because he no-sells their feminine wiles because he doesn't give a fuck about impressing them. Which means they also paradoxically feel safe around him, because he's strong-willed.

Whereas with simps, sooner or later, they crack.

he-is-i-and-i-am-him · 2022-04-08T08:57:40+00:00

You need to flip the script and make them seek your approval. If you say there's no reason to put these women above you then act like it. Once you start acting like it they'll pick up on it and act accordingly if attraction is high enough. If it isn't then why are you wasting mental energy on them

Looksmax123 · 2022-04-08T21:19:35+00:00

hey man - just wanted to know i feel similar to you at times, if that's any solace.

msg_the_player · 2022-04-09T17:55:46+00:00

Man I have been where you are, in the prison of our own mind. Humans are very sensitive beings, they feel what you feel. So if you are feeling like "loser, or not enough" you give those exact vibes and people pick on that.

The only thing you lack is CONFIDENCE. I am not a fan of faking but you seem like a real deal.

You have your life in order. So YOU ARE ENOUGH.
You look physically GOOD ENOUGH.
You can protect and provide.

And you maybe having a lot more qualities.

So just keep in your head that "YOU ARE ENOUGH". Have confidence. Talk to them, if they reject you move on, billions of ladies on the planet.

Walk with pride, YOU ARE ENOUGH, YOU ARE THE SHIT.. Don't let any mf man or woman tell you otherwise.

Worst that can happen is you won't have any gf which is the case even now. So fuck all doubts, live like a badass, change your dressing style, buy a motorcycle, raise some shit..

Good luck.

Title	How do you stop feeling inferior to women?
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Date	April 7, 2022 10:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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