How can I reclaim the situation when a woman uses her sexuality to tease me.

mightymite88 · 2022-04-02T07:45:13+00:00

it really depends on your relationship. personally im usually down for FWB so i tease them back and try to escalate. if im not down for FWB then i ignore them, or just look bored.

if youre feeling uncomfortable about sex, intimidated by sex, or embarrassed by sex then your frame is weak. maintain frame. have a better relationship with your sexuality, have some more confidence.

youre not sleazy for taking them up on their advances. you need to match their energy. not in a pushy way, but in a confident masterful way.

'you wanna play that way then we're gonna end up in bed together, hope you're ready to get addicted to this dick. but i dont think you are. gonna ruin our friendship and your whole dating life right here'

-Mavs · 2022-04-02T13:12:48+00:00

Makeup, cleavage, bending over in front of you; a lot of these women do that for a reason and it's to get the attention of the dude they find attractive.

If she's giving you a lot of IOIs and a lot of eye contact plus the things I mentioned above then you should make a move, otherwise just smile, eye contact for a second (then look elsewhere) and continue sipping on your drink if you're not feeling it that night.

Mutated_seabass · 2022-04-02T09:50:14+00:00

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EthicalSeduction · 2022-04-02T14:45:13+00:00

I'm going to guess this is not being done as a "power play" or to embarrass you. They may be playing with you a bit but it's probably not a bad thing. Let's say you are a bit uncomfortable when they do this and they know it. Perhaps they are flirting with you because they do enjoy you (maybe just as a friend but maybe more) or maybe they are trying to get a bit of reaction from you. I suggest you (1) politely and playfully call out the elephant in the room and (2) maybe admit hot it makes you feel. If it's done in front of you, you don't need to act like you are not noticing. So notice it and then say what you are thinking, either playful (1) "every time you do that it messes with me, in the best possible of ways!" or (2) "I can't help but notice when you do this and I never know how to react. (and then ease the tension by laughing it off a bit).

It sounds like it could be an enjoyable moment. So try and be on their side and enjoy that they are being sexual around you.

Glahoth · 2022-04-02T16:49:27+00:00

There are plenty of ways to address that.Depending on your relationship with these people, and how you are generally perceived by people (this is giving me virgin/little brother vibes) you can go for a "nice tits" or you know, anything that isn't sheer embarrassment.

Keep it playful you know. Matching the energy is a pretty good strategy.

AssistanceMedical951 · 2022-04-02T21:53:31+00:00

Stop thinking of it as a Power play that you can lose and just think of it as Play where there are no losers. They want a reaction, give them one, what’s it to you, you too good to give up your stone face 🗿? give them a playful fake heart attack or faint, you’re not impressed “oh honey you’re gonna have to do better than that!” “Ok you’ve won me over. When are we getting married!”

Grappleheart · 2022-04-02T12:16:43+00:00

Watch Californication. Hank Moody does this all thr time and you can learn from him.

2022-04-02T20:47:21+00:00

Make eye contact, hold it while you lean in with a smirk, and ask in a low voice "are you trying to seduce me?"

Then go back to what you were doing and make brief eye contact with a smirk, look away and shake your head.

Simple, non sexual escalation of the flirt.

She's flirting, by the way. Grow a pair and flirt back.

FlatDistance5 · 2022-04-02T13:29:07+00:00

Call it out…. Look I’m not gonna let your titty meat distract me today ok daddy’s a practicing Christian, you’ll have to wait your turn, look her right in her eyes when you say that shit. Don’t have to use that line but. But playfully call it out, let her know your looking and that you like what you see. As much as feminists complain they’re human and not/nor want to be in some cases a man’s sexual object, when the man they find attractive flirts with them they become putty. Every girl I’ve approached and slept with wanted to be sexually objectified in some way, it’s just about are you the right man, and can you deliver it in a non-creepy confident subtly sexual way.

For ex. Just the other day I was out shopping (ok shopping for pussy aka daygaming) and I ran into this really hot thicc lesbian femist chick didn’t know it until after I opened her. 23yo grad student young black athletic looking chick I walked straight into the store walked straight over while staring right at her I could tell she was a little nervous. I said I hi, I think your cute I’m flatdistance, she timidly gave her name, I asked how long she live there she ‘acted’ offended and said why ask me all these questions, I said how else can you get to know someone other than conversation, plus I like what I see, I said it confidently with a smirk. Immediately her eyes opened wider, breathing got heavier, and while standing up she crossed her legs…. All good signs. We talked a few more minutes when I went to set a date with her she said she liked how assertive I was but right now in her journey she doesn’t need masculine energy. And that in the future blah blah blah.

Now that I’ve gotten my unnecessary story out the way the point is don’t be afraid to tell women that you see them and you like what you see. You just have to be creative in your delivery.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-04-02T15:20:31+00:00

One simple sentence. Dont give a fuck. It's just playful back and forth. Stop taking it seriously, but really, at all. The one who usually got more serious about that loses every time so just be confident and nonreactive about that. The most important thing

HorusCok · 2022-04-02T14:50:38+00:00

Don't be afraid to look and appreciate what is on display (unless its unintentional).

If it comes up for discussion, tell her "when I go to and art gallery, I look at the sculptures but don't touch unless invited to do so."

This does two things, acknowledges your appreciation for her body (gives her a compliment) and puts the ball in her court to escalate.

You could also say "Thanks, if you show more, I'll be happy to see it"

FrontTheMachine · 2022-04-02T15:26:56+00:00

"you need to show me a bit more than that to impress me"

AutistNerd · 2022-04-02T18:08:20+00:00

Grab her pussy bro

mightymite88 · 2022-04-02T07:43:59+00:00

If you honestly think they’re doing it on purpose, Make a witty and suggestive comment and see where it goes.

She shows you more cleavage, have a look and when she catches you say “oops, sorry, your eyes are up here!” And then wink/smile at her.

Title	How can I reclaim the situation when a woman uses her sexuality to tease me.
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Date	April 2, 2022 7:32 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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