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[–]NotANerdReally 56 points57 points58 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
FWB
We agreed we weren’t going to see any other people
Sounds like a case of poorly defined boundaries. You can't be friends with benefits and expect exclusive access to her private parts at the same time.
[–]humbledrumble 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah the "friends" part of "friends with benefits" means not exclusive. /u/Distraughtsugardaddy , if you're exclusive with this chick then she's not your FWB, she's your girlfriend.
I recommend dumping this chick and moving on. It's clear she's not looking for something as serious as you are. Make sure you're more upfront about to boundaries with the next girl.
[–]Mriconicdev 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This guy is upset over an 18 year old girl fucking dudes in MIAMI LOLOL my man get a grip, what the fuck could you have expected??
[–]humbledrumble 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I'm willing to give OP the benefit of the doubt and assume he's young and new to all this. Maybe the girl suggested FWB, but OP wanted an exclusive gf. He settled for FWB thinking that would keep her around, without realizing it made them nonexclusive.
[–]Mriconicdev 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He’s her sugar daddy and he’s 36. I did some digging lol.
[–]humbledrumble 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sugar daddies on /r/seduction 🙄
/r/sugarlifestyleforum is over that way. We don't pay for pussy here.
[–]SpookyKG 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
"I know it will be VERY awkward if I confront her. But I can’t help myself. I already texted her saying I had a bad dream that she went home with a promoter and fucked him."
lol what a creep, how passive are you trying to be here
it happened. talk about it or don't.
[+]Distraughtsugardaddy -15 points-14 points-13 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
???
[–]SpookyKG 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
"I had a bad dream you did this very very specific thing that I can tell you did based on your public social media. It was just a dream though. What do you think?"
It's passive and weak.
How about 'Hey, I saw your IG stuff. We should talk about things.'
[+]hulkhat -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's an opportunity for her to come clean.
[–]SpookyKG 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nah, it's weak whiny bullshit.
The moment of being deceitful is an opportunity to come clean. Every moment is. OP's desperate cry for help is just that - desperate, crying, passive, etc.
[+]Distraughtsugardaddy -7 points-6 points-5 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I was gonna do that in person but didn’t wanna do it by text. But now I’m re-thinking if I should even bring it up in person at all. She might get creeped out that I invaded her privacy even tho she has a public account and posts the dumbest shit when she’s drunk
[–]SpookyKG 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Dude, you've already been a creep by texting her that you dreamed incredibly specific shit.
Being MORE passive isn't going to help.
[–]Distraughtsugardaddy -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I was kinda telling her indirectly that I know exactly what she’s up to by telling her I had that specific dream. I also texted her that literally the same time she posted a story coming out of the dudes house at 7am. She almost definitely must know that I know the truth but she wants to get it out of me
[–]SpookyKG 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I also texted her that literally the same time she posted a story coming out of the dudes house at 7am.
Yes. This is straight up passive creep behavior. Grow up dude.
[–]ReefLedger 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This guy is apparently 36. If he's still like this at this age, he's probably not going to change much. I'll be 40 soon and this is like high school shit.
[–]BiFi_Password 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Congratulations, u/distraughtsugardaddy, you played yourself.
[+]Distraughtsugardaddy -12 points-11 points-10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great advice
[–]Silver-Variation8903 4 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
So you’re fucking a slut but now you’re upset cos she’s being a slut with others too?
Bro 😂😂😂 she was never yours.
Texting saying you had that dream is needy and cringe as fuck, and it’s gonna make her want to ride that Miami dick even more.
And you’re also having unprotected sex?! Why on earth are you doing that?
Man… you’re doing so many things wrong. You need to get yourself in check and realise that she isn’t yours. She never was.
Focus on yourself…
[–]Distraughtsugardaddy -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
ahhhj I know, ur right. i just caught feelings for her god damn. She’s hot as fuck. So I should definitely not bring up the Ig stuff eh?
[–]Mriconicdev 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She was never yours it was just your turn. Let them other guys have a ride when she comes back it’ll be your turn again.
[–]Silver-Variation89032 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Yes it happens but it’s also infatuation and will be short lived as soon as you realise she’s just a girl like the 3 billion other ones in the world.
[–]joseph1k 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How tf yall FWB talkin bout i love u and shit. And then texting her sayin "I had a dream of...(exactly what she posted online doing). GG bro she for da streets
[–]Woujo 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Did you agree that you would be exclusive with her? If not, what is there to "confront" her about.
If this girl is making you too needy, you should probably take a break from her before you embarass yourself any more.
[–]Calamity__Bane 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just view her story on your normal account lol, no need to talk about the fake account you made.
Also, why the fuck would you text her that?
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah you need to dial back on the definition of your relationship. Not, because of what she’s doing, but because you are madly confused mane. You shouldn’t be worried about who she’s sleeping with unless you have raw sex with her constantly because of STD/STI, same reason she shouldn’t be doing the same for you. Plus she’s your FWB if that’s the definition of your relationship and you know that save yourself some trouble and let it be what it is. You know the lifestyle she lives and what could happen at any of the places she goes to. Step back for a while and don’t stress yourself out about her lifestyle and worry about yours.
Ya good advice, I just can’t handle knowing she’s getting plowed by some douchebag club promoters. I have this unrealistic masculine instinct that my girl should only be mine. It’s some weird possessive shit I know it’s not right but that’s how I am.
I get these weird ideas about what she’s doing with these other men, if she letting them cum inside her, are they taking advantage of her, etc etc
[–]hulkhat 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I get what you're saying but it looks like you're not cut out for Fwb.
It's okay, it doesn't mean you're a bad player, it's just a different game.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah see that’s were you need to understand that 1. That lifestyle is what she wants no matter how many times she says she doesn’t. 2.Your basically cucking yourself harping on the idea of her fucking around with other dudes, this is always a possibility with anyone. 3. Change your mentality which means you’re going to have to change yourself, it’s for the better because you don’t want this to continue in the future.
[–]Important-Quote9544 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She will do whatever she wants, she doesn’t care. Accept it, and get some other girls. If it rly bothers you end the relationship you have with her. If you want to keep seeing her, don’t bring it up. If you do it will push her away, because you wil come off as possessive.
[–]Alonso81687 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro, your whole interaction with her is a fail. You're not exclusive in any way. She can fuck anyone she wants.
[–]epicharlie12 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How about you stop being a little bitch and get some side pussy yourself. You care to much
[–]ReefLedger 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Let her go and move on my man. Whole relationship dynamic is weird (fwb but you say I love you etc). Go be a sugar daddy to someone who respects you more. Plus, stop with the possessive shit. Even if you're exclusive, you don't own anyone.
[–]Skizznitt 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Lol women don't respect their sugar daddies ever, they ALWAYS fuck around on them. How could you respect someone as an equal that has to give you money in order for you to stay with them. Lol she's playing his ass hard and he's too big of a simp to see that. The whole relationship there is really pathetic. Also, who the fuck has ever heard of exclusive fwb? Lol... Normally people go with boyfriend/girlfriend when exclusivity is involved.
[–]ReefLedger 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I dont sugar daddy but agree with the rest of your post.
[–]Skizznitt 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Neither do I, I actually have respect for myself. :-p. Being a sugar daddy is the equivalent of telling the chick "look I know I'm a low value male, but I have money to pay you so you stick around in my life, you good with that?" Which in turn attracts a very superficial type of woman. It's a terrible dynamic if you expect anything beyond sex, let alone exclusivity.
[–]Zeus_xo 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sugardaddy? Do you buy her gifts to fuck her? You don't own her your next. You just had a taste of what a slut lookslike. Walk away. Don't try to understand. It is what it is. Work on yourself and on your insecurities.
[–]justuraveragestatue 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You feel disrespected? You are disrespected lol. Her actions that you describe here show clearly and unmistakenly that she doesn’t have feelings for you and she doesn’t respect you. Are you gonna let her use you like this? You need to have self respect and swallow the hard pill now and say goodbye to her and find yourself a new girl. It hurts, but be a man about it, and simping for her now will only make you hurt way more and lose all of your self respect, man. She’s gone.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
FWB is open season. There are usually not set boundaries. So she, as an adult, is free to do what she pleases.
If you like her, man up and tell her about it. If she rejects you, Atleast you know where she stands.
[–]Distraughtsugardaddy -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
right but should I bring up the IG stories or no?
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No. Don't confront her. You basically spied on her, and then you are calling her out. If you were on the other side how would you react..
First of all how do you even know if she went home with and banged those guys?? People don't usually post who they are fucking on Instagram.
Is it more your doubts rather than reality that she is fucking guys at the club?
[–]Distraughtsugardaddy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No it’s 100% reality I don’t want to get into it but know for a fact she banged them
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How does that really make you feel? Are you grossed out, jealous or upset!
Will you still fuck her?
These answers will help you answer the questions..
Personally - - I wouldn't ask her and tell her about IG.. But by now I would know whether to keep seeing her or not
[–]lildudefromXdastreet 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You shouldn’t bring up anything at all with this woman. Leave. You can’t turn a 304 into a housewife
[–]Mriconicdev 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You played yourself buddy. I’m sorry it happened.
[–]valteri777 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
May i ask how you met her and became FWBs? It’s kinda unusual for me how you’re not yet mutuals in social media before being fwbs? :)
[–]Bouldershoulders12 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why would you make a fake profile to stalk a FWB IG lol. That’s giving needy simp behavior
Dude is her sugar daddy, he's a mega simp already. Par for the course.
[–]actionassist 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just talk to her about it or dont. The whole passive thing is weak and cringey.
[–]Nuts_unbusted 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All i know is, youre in a fucked up situation. Id say take time out. Get over your feelings and do not get trapped. Cuz thats a fucked up place to be
[–]Chizxyy 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Miami lol. Look harder bro her sex tape is out there somewhere
[–]Skizznitt 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Your her fucking sugar daddy dude. She's never going to be exclusive with you because there's no way she'll ever truly respect you... After all, you basically bribe her to keep having sex with you. If you want to be exclusive with someone, and maintain their respect, you have to become a higher value male... She sees you as a meal ticket bro, a fucking job... Not pleasure... Pleasure is the dudes she's fucking on the side. Normally sugar daddies are fine with their sugar babies fucking other dudes because they already know all this. Either come to terms with that or end it and work on yourself before you go and try to find someone else... Because right now you're being an insecure simp about this.
I'm being harsh because you obviously can't connect the dots here...
[–]BestAdviceYouCanHave 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So your friend is a slut. Who are you to change her? Are you in love with her or the image you have of her in your mind. If u can accept that she’s a slut and still love her than you won’t want to change her. If you can’t accept that she’s a slut then you’re not really in love with her.
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