Just got rejecter by co-worker

BuyerOfCoins · 2022-02-12T10:24:33+00:00

Just make it out as no big deal and it will be no big deal. If you start being awkward, the rest of your time there will be awkward.

13Xxx21 · 2022-02-12T11:13:12+00:00

Suck it up and keep moving forward lots of fish in the sea she's not your catch.

She doesn't want you, you are in the friend/coworker zone.

Pick up the pieces and move on, be the same person towards her as you have been it's always good to have allies.

saryiahan · 2022-02-12T11:21:22+00:00

Don’t mix work with pleasure. It usually does not end well.

CulinAreolas · 2022-02-12T11:41:45+00:00

Lmaaaaoooo maybe don't shit where you eat bro

Dr_Handsome88 · 2022-02-12T10:25:50+00:00

I wouldn't game co-workers, just not the right "territory". Move on and forget about her and don't try to play the "friend card" by watching series you know she likes. Be a man and move on. You got this!

Lanye-West · 2022-02-12T10:13:39+00:00

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2022-02-12T10:21:38+00:00

I feel like you don't have much experience. I did this mistake myself, but not at work, but at high school. Soon, I was known as a that guy. I suggest like the other guy said, go out at a club. There is a reason why clubs are recommended. No one will remember you, a lot of girls there to practice plus no one knows you.

RoShamBeauxyogirl · 2022-02-12T11:23:20+00:00

Dude move on don’t make a big deal out of it. Just like you were into her, you’ll find someone else. Feel the rejection, let it seer into you like a branding… be upset at home in private… it’s cool don’t let her see you sweat… it’s hard I know. But you can do this. If it becomes too much just see if you can work at a different point so you can sever the connection you’re too emotionally attached… you need to sever that link. We all get rejected we grow we move on. Adjust for the next time, level up for you and remember women are just other people they are humans just like you. You WILL be fine keep saying that to yourself! You got this!

Imaginary-River136 · 2022-02-12T12:55:51+00:00

Work isn’t a sexual zone separate business and pleasure

OctoChill · 2022-02-12T12:45:21+00:00

It’s always a bad idea to hit on coworkers. You can take this as a lesson learned and confidently move on.

2022-02-12T13:58:29+00:00

Read How to Be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne so you can learn game. If you’ve “trying to show affection for weeks” you probably have no game and she definitely saw it and lost all attraction, then put you in the friendzone. If you read other posts on here from experienced guys, you’ll know that with girls attraction dissipates quick, within the first 2 days of knowing her you should’ve shot for the number.

This isn’t a rom com movie, standing behind the wall dreaming a woman will notice you is what losers do. Constantly complimenting a woman and indirectly expressing interest is what losers do.

Read the book so you can know what not to do next time, maybe there might be a chance to salvage this.

bittr_n_swt · 2022-02-12T12:47:42+00:00

Risky to ask out a girl you work very closely with. If you weren’t close work colleagues fair enough but yeah gonna be awkward for a few weeks

Don’t shit where you eat

Fat_Fucking_Lenny · 2022-02-12T13:05:02+00:00

If you do like someone from work, the seduction/flirtation should be light. That way, if you get rejected its no big deal. You were just having fun. Minimal awkwardness.

The problem in your case, is that you entertained the idea that she could be your special someone.

I feel for you OP. Consider this a lesson. And remember, it's really not a big deal. Rejection happens all the time. By accepting her rejection, you are respecting yourself. Be respectful to yourself and her, and move on.

Slowmexicano · 2022-02-12T11:20:52+00:00

If you’re not already an item don’t ask for a first date on Valentine’s Day. Too much baggage. Test the waters by asking her to grab a drink after work or something. And to second everyone else play it very cool with co worker or avoid. Run the risk of making things awkward or harassment.

karandeep81 · 2022-02-12T11:26:32+00:00

I thought this post was in Antiwork sub, and this is some new kind of power play going on Antiwork ‘😂

jmatulessy · 2022-02-12T12:58:30+00:00

Never shit where you eat man. Move on

RittreKakaBoi · 2022-02-12T09:58:30+00:00

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goldenhunter55 · 2022-02-12T12:52:59+00:00

Dude it happened to me, just act normal around her and you did good btw.. Don't be ashamed from that

bribor · 2022-02-12T13:00:31+00:00

Well it stings a little, but your going to have to get used to rejection. It’s going to happen. Just play it off like it was no big deal because if she sees your hurt by it, then your going to be in the friend zone for sure. Maybe she has a personal rule of not getting in loved with co-workers. It’s best to be friendly with her and get to know her first. Give yourself time

freeplastic · 2022-02-12T13:43:25+00:00

Sounds like she doesn't like hard working, funny, and charming guys. Maybe your next interest will.

Enjoy the journey!

SuaveFuck · 2022-02-12T14:09:29+00:00

you dodged a bullet. work and romance....not too clever.

KEEP IT PROFESSIONAL. BE POLITE. MOVE ON. if she acts avoidant or annoyed, accept it, leave her be, or apologize and THEN leave her be as much as needed.

AdministrativeTap925 · 2022-02-12T13:53:21+00:00

Don’t ask her out again. As a woman in construction she’s probably consistently approached by men she works with. Let her do her job. She was probably just being friendly to you.

LandscapeClear1630 · 2022-02-12T13:21:07+00:00

I think you actually made every mistake in the book... as in all of them.

cronasminate · 2022-02-12T14:44:21+00:00

Everyone pay condolences for the brother who actually bought into the valentines day bullshit.

sophist16 · 2022-02-12T14:13:27+00:00

-First question, how old are you?

-Second question, how do you “have feelings” for some broad that has contributed ZERO to your life and bottom line?

-Third question, if you’re showing affection for her, watching shows she recommends and she’s “teaching you” how to solve a Rubik’s cube, doesn’t that make you the girl in this situation?

After spending 30 seconds reading your report I see you as the woman and her as the man.

I say this to help, really re-read what you wrote. You’re doing everything a woman does and she treated you accordingly.

How are you gonna lead a woman if all you’re doing is chasing behind her?

Be a man my friend. Stop approaching women. You need to learn yourself first. Focus on crushing it at work and in the gym.

My advice have been shut down in the past by moderators that most likely suffer from the same internal thinking but I will say this til I’m blue in the face, STOP WORRYING ABOUT WOMEN AND FOCUS ON YOURSELF. If you do so you’ll never have a problem getting women. Know the ledge my friend.

_iwanttobethere_ · 2022-02-12T13:56:21+00:00

Being rejected is the part of the game. Let me tell you something, I have years of experience of telemarketing. Buying customers ALWAYS reject you before they buy, multiple times. Biggest customers I had was those who throw biggest objections against me.

Women reject men because they want to know what kind of guy you are. Do you get angry, upset, do you start to cry like a weak bitch after rejection? If yes, they will stay away from you. Just forget that rejection you had, it wasn't rejection, it was just test, hope you passed it. Now, do exactly the same as you did earlier, spend great time with her, then ask again, get rejected again, good. Repeat until she says yes. Stop over-thinking, it is very easy, only thing you need is big balls. Do you know why I was the best sales man in our sales team? No, I didn't have amazing social skills or sales mastery degree, I am introverted as fuk. It was because customers didn't get rid of me until they hung up or buy my shit.

MentalCelOmega · 2022-02-12T14:26:27+00:00

Oh boy, you should never pursue a relationship at work. Because now that you've been rejected, word is going to spread fast and you are going to be made a laughingstock at your company.

fuckaliscious · 2022-02-12T11:14:35+00:00

Oh no, not the "rejecter" ...

BrettyanneXoX · 2022-02-12T14:34:16+00:00

We women are jealous by nature😉....ask out another coworker if possible and see the developments

Fi_o · 2022-02-12T14:09:56+00:00

Don't shit where you eat yall

2022-02-12T14:17:00+00:00

Was she nice about it at least?

Martinus2050 · 2022-02-12T14:47:22+00:00

Bro don't shit where you eat!

tanujtxt · 2022-02-12T14:47:39+00:00

Don't shit where you eat

Funkytowwn · 2022-02-12T15:17:17+00:00

doesn’t mean it’s over forever or things can’t change. just don’t be awkward and keep it funny. trust me the connection comes back

MoStuntin · 2022-02-12T15:23:44+00:00

Head up bro one door stays shut another better one opens be the man you are

mrHANDAKUN · 2022-02-12T15:40:51+00:00

I would suggest to turn it in a solid friendship bc why not if person is good?

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-02-12T15:58:58+00:00

Never shit where you eat

lItsAutomaticl · 2022-02-12T16:10:04+00:00

Just leave it alone. If you're hoping at all she'll change her mind, the least attractive thing you can do is be a butt hurt pussy about it. Maybe she thinks you're attractive but doesn't want to mix work and romance, which is perfectly reasonable.

2022-02-12T16:13:13+00:00

DO NOT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!!!!!! how many times must we all remind this community!

dee_jay93 · 2022-02-12T16:14:44+00:00

You out yourself out there, that’s half the battle and further than I’ve gotten in two years bud. Keep Your chin up

godofgainz · 2022-02-12T16:17:48+00:00

Don’t get your honey where you get your money.

Neil1398 · 2022-02-12T16:17:56+00:00

Probs for the best since you work with her. But tbh, what did you say when you asked her out?

JoeyPeake · 2022-02-12T16:39:10+00:00

All ways wait until after the holiday to ask girl out. Same thing happened to me (not a coworker tho) when I was in college. Girls emotions are up in the air and they have this huge vision on their perfect man right before love(ier) holidays like valentines and christmas.

youcheekydelinquent · 2022-02-12T16:47:11+00:00

Suck it up, thank her for being kind about it and move on. Focus on your self and what needs to happen for you. You shot your shot. Make peace and move on. Let any resentment go. And valentine's day is shit.

2022-02-12T16:52:22+00:00

Asking someone out for the first time around Valentine’s Day was a big mistake. Way too much pressure.

Amateur.

theprufeshanul · 2022-02-12T17:22:02+00:00

Ask her out again. Get rejected. And again. Get rejected. Keep it light. Them go out with someone else - she will have a crisis of confidence wondering what she is doing wrong and hit on you. This puzzle is a Rubix cube - you’re treating it like a sudden death archery competition.

2022-02-12T17:24:51+00:00

It never happened.

eyesopen1111 · 2022-02-12T17:33:58+00:00

I’m in bed right now with a girl I met at work!! lol It happens all the time. Our careers are fine.

Look, your mating choice is actually much more strategically important for your life than is your place of employment, so if she's the One you want to target, then don’t let the workplace thing stop you. (Your job workwise is to develop high-value skills and become a profit center, then employers are a dime a dozen.)

But the real concern seduction-wise is (1) why you were rejected and (2)how to get this girl attracted to you. The fact that Valentine's Day was your first-date request indicates a lack of game, so you’ll need to get a dating coach fast. He’ll need to do an assessment ASAP to see if you have a shot with the girl. Don’t try anything further because your romantic judgment is not producing results right now. The objectivity of the coach or wingman will help.

How did she reject you? What did she say?

Title	Just got rejecter by co-worker
Author	RittreKakaBoi
Upvotes	118
Comments	118
Date	February 12, 2022 9:46 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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