It doesn’t matter if a woman was madly in love with you a year prior; if her attraction to you erodes, and she reaches a certain level where she no longer has the same level of feelings and respect, it is difficult to get her back to that same level. This change in emotions can happen in a relatively short period of time.

Women are extremely focused on the present in terms of their emotions. History doesn’t matter to them as much as we’d like to believe. That’s how complacency in relationships creeps in. We figure that since a woman was in love with us previously over a period of time, that there’s an imaginary surplus of feelings that we can use to get by. It doesn’t work this way.

If her man isn’t engaging her emotions properly in the present moment, a woman can shut off her emotions to him very quickly. This is why it important to always be observant and mindful of changes in her behavior:

  • Not as talkative

  • Doesn’t reach out as much

  • Doesn’t laugh or smile as much around you

  • Isn’t as receptive to being touched, or being close physically

  • Isn’t as interested in sex.

She may still say she loves you, but how a woman acts is more important than what she says. If this is happening, this where upfront, confident communication is key. Ask her simply, “Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been a little withdrawn recently, what’s going on?”

Do not just ask if she’s ok, or ask if you’re doing something wrong. These are weak ways of getting the answer. You already know something’s wrong.

Woman feel most attracted to men when they feel safe and understood. If she says she feels unsatisfied, then you have to take a look at yourself, and see if you’ve gotten complacent, if you’ve deviated from being the guy that attracted her initially. She might still love you fundamentally, but that doesn’t mean she has high level of attraction.

If she is evasive or unclear with her emotions, then let her know how you feel in a centered, upfront manner. After that, it’s on her. Mirror her behavior—there is no point in trying to correct things if someone if unwilling to work with you and isn’t opening up. If she wants space, give it to her, and let her come to you. Work on yourself in the meantime for you, and gain back your attractive edge.