A couple of you asked me about this, so I'm gonna take you through the process of how I got my own bio that worked quite well as we go through each phase.

Note: (Using this process, I've gotten over 1000 matches on one tinder account, and probably 3 or 4000 total over the years - edit: As one guy pointed out, this is mostly attributable to having good pictures - see my other post - but when I first started and tried no bio or a bad bio, I was getting basically zero matches, so your bio is definitely important as well. Don't neglect it.)

1. Brain dump

Ed Sheeran said something in an interview that stuck with me. You've just gotta get the shit out and eventually the good stuff comes out.

Get yourself in a good mood. Maybe have a glass of wine or a beer. Maybe grab a joint. Whatever you need to do to get loose and smiling. The good mood will come across in what you write.

then just sit down and write. Do it in a word doc, not on tinder itself so you're not worried about it going live or something.

If pen and paper is easier for you to think with, do that.

Talk about yourself. Funny stories, bad dates, good dates, things you like about yourself, things you don't like about yourself, what you're looking for, or basically anything else you can think of that relates to tinder.

DO NOT FILTER YOURSELF. Do not criticize what you write. You are not your thoughts, this is just a totally random word vomit exercise.

2. Choose The Winners

Once you're done, take the best parts from your brain dump and then clean them up a bit so they're standalone.

Here's the initial thing I wrote down in my brain dump that led me to my good bio:

"That time I mistakenly assumed that a blind kid's probing cane was a selfie stick."

We need to work with it, but that story presented well I thought could work, and it did. It also has the added benefit of presenting up front the fact that I'm kind of goofy and quirky in person, and often say ridiculous shit by accident.

Anyways, moving on.

3. Refining the Winners

How can we tweak the above phrase to be funnier?

(disclaimer, the below content is literally just copied and pasted from my blog on how to write a Tinder bio. Just don't want anyone to think it's plagiarized or something)

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The first problem with the above bio is that it puts the surprise in front of the set up.

“I mistakenly assumed” warns them right up front that the punchline is the misunderstanding.

The original bio is funny (to some) because at first, complimenting a selfie stick doesn’t seem all that bad.

It’s the surprise of it not being a normal kid that bring you to the “aHA” laugh moment when you realize I was talking about a probing cane.

The other thing I added was the human experience.

I added “I said” and “to this blind kid” and “while his parents looked on in horror.”

That puts you more in the context of the situation mentally.

I also capitalized “SICK selfie stick” to show that I was being really emphatic makes the mistake even more ridiculous.

Adding the human element to the story makes it feel more, well, human. It’s more relatable.

It’s also more emotionally stimulating as a result, and you want your bio to stimulate emotions.

The worst thing your bio can be is boring.

I also gave context to the scenario.

When I introduced the story by saying I was on a date, it shows that:

  1. Another girl at least trusted me enough to go out on a date with me, so I’m less likely to be awful, presumably
  2. I was on a date, so my blunder is way more embarrassing

Additionally, by adding that I was trying to cheer this kid up, I show a kindness and paternal instinct that can be endearing.

Finally, I added the ending “So you could say I’m pretty smooth.”

I’m just sarcastically being self-deprecating. It’s just a cheap way to release the tension a bit and show that I’m not taking myself super seriously, but that I’m willing to laugh about my mistake with her.

When you put it all together, one bio works, while the other does not.

4. Things to keep in mind

  • Avoid a long bio if writing is not your strong suit. Short bios are safer.
    • You have a way better chance of repelling a lot of women than you do of winning a lot of them over. If this is you, find one short bio that works and resist the urge to add to it
  • Avoid super dark humor or sexual humor as a trend.
    • A really good dark joke can work well, but unless you nail it, again, you'll do more harm than good
  • Avoid long lists of basic interests.
    • In the blog I give one example of a guy that did list a bunch of basic interests and qualities, but he had a twist to it where it was written as a eulogy so it worked.
  • Identify and optimize for your target demographic.
    • If you like festivals and want girls that like basshead music, you can put insider references like "break ya neck" and such. If you want to cast the widest net possible, choose those interests that are most common and try to present them in a way that isn't super boring. Instead of saying "I like hiking" you could say "Everest base camp survivor - barely" or something like that for example.
  • Add a question or a "call to action" / hook to the end of your bio.
    • In marketing, it's universally known that you need a call to action if you want to increase your sales. Tinder is just a giant sales and marketing platform for your dating brand. I just stole a question off of askreddit for best bar questions for strangers. I'd only do that if the question hasn't been reposted a bunch or gotten a ton of traffic to it, otherwise they'll know you copied it.

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Edit: second time in a row I forgot how to count lol

Edit 2: feedback about bio vs pictures