We can all agree that self-esteem, confidence, non-reactivity, and good vibes are all crucial to success with women.

The research is pretty unequivocal that cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness based therapy are helpful on average for improving mental health. A good therapist can definitely help you address trauma to stop feeling like you aren't good enough. They can help you learn to set proper boundaries and respect yourself. They can help you identify toxic thought patterns and behaviors you have that are concerning or might repulse people.

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I know several men who went into therapy as insecure, inauthentic, and damaged, and came out as well-adjusted, confident, and emotionally stable. There are very few other places where you can get a completely objective assessment of your psychology by someone who is not only solicitous and generally wants the best for you (you don't go into therapy for the glamour and the big bucks...) but is also trained to help you with introspection.

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Yes, therapy costs money, but many are sliding scale if you don't have much money, and most schools offer free counseling. I see very few things that provide the same level of ROI as therapy for your future success in life and interpersonal relationships.