So was that a shit test?

rmbarnes · 2010-04-19T12:09:37+00:00

One of the girls, for some unknown reason, blew that little paper wrapper thing from her straw right at me. Apparently it was an accident because she started laughing, as did the other three.

Sounds more like she's trying to flirt with you / get your attention.

roxxe · 2010-04-19T12:21:30+00:00

a. stop seeking validation from others

b. have fun, if you don't have fun, targets pick that up

c. it doesn't matter what you say

throwaway543210 · 2010-04-19T13:11:56+00:00

Not a shit test, that's flirting.

A shit test is saying, "Don't get any ideas, old man."

intjpua · 2010-04-19T18:46:28+00:00

"Of course you realize, this means war!"

She was playing. All you have to do is return fire. Don't have a straw with wrapper of your own? Just ball up the one she shot at you and flick it with a finger, or have an arms race and ball up a freaking napkin or cup or whatever is handy (that couldn't actually cause real harm, of course). I would make it dramatic...give her a raised eyebrow and a look that says, "You're in trouble now. You've awakened a dangerous beast." I'd make a big deal of aiming, lining up the target, drawing back like I'm going to flick it really hard. She'll flinch, laugh, and say, "No! No!" and hide behind her friends, etc. This could go on for a minute or two. I love making a girl squeal and flinch; it's hilarious, and cute, and sexy...they know it, too, so they're relishing being the object of attention. And the other girls will be jealous...I might even end up flicking it at a different girl, and say, "Oh no, collateral damage!" and drawing the girl nearest me onto my team, with a "The great nation of intjpua requests your assistance against the aggressors! To arms!" How far you can go with this depends on the response...you can't run through this whole script it they aren't all playing. It could just be a 20 second interaction between you and the wrapper-thrower; but since the others laughed, I'd expect the others to get involved when you escalate to all out war. At minimum, I'd counter-attack and declare war.

Now here's the thing...I would do this because that's the most fun possible thing I can think of for me. It would amuse the hell out of me to be threatening a girl with a flicked piece of paper and have her hiding or flinching or laughing or squealing or whatever. I'm a little jealous. I need to head over to the university and hang out and drink coffee soon. :)

pooflinga · 2010-04-19T19:18:45+00:00

I managed to fire off a couple quiet comments, and a couple of times I caught the same girl looking at me.

That's your first problem. You said yourself that you made some 'quiet' comments. Doesn't matter if you said the wittiest thing in the world, your tonality would have killed it.

Second, you should have said something (anything) to the girl when you sat down at the table. Even something as simple as 'Hey' would work (as you have broken the silence/conversation barrier). Then when the friends walked in you would be open to throw out another comment to break the ice (with the other 3) and make them comfortable with you chiming in. You don't need to carry the conversation in situations like this, you just need to be the man at the table who isn't afraid to throw in his 2 cents.

As for the straw wrapper, that was their way of trying to get a reaction out of you (to see what kind of guy you are). I have had this happen to me many times where I work. What I usually do is I'll grab the straw wrapper, make some good (serious) eye contact with a smile, then say something like 'You know a toothpick works much better that a wrapper.' Doesn't need to be anything clever, because its 10% what you say, 90% how you say it.

nooneinparticular · 2010-04-19T13:23:30+00:00

It's all in good fun, just do whatever. If staying in a situation isn't worth your time then obviously leave.

DJBJ · 2010-04-19T23:19:32+00:00

"If you want my attention you can just say something."

EvolutionTheory · 2010-04-20T04:23:22+00:00

I think you really need to work on inner game and confidence. I would strongly suggest researching some of the stuff "Hypnotica" has done as he's spent a lot of time studying and writing about inner game.

I would suggest what those girls did was actually them being playful and essentially inviting you to laugh and join them. Now its that or they're actually cruel bitches trying to fuck with you. I think its my first suggestion. Just like the look it's "kind of" an IOI but it probably shouldnt be considered such because its so early and you havent even opened them. It means you're interesting as another member of her species but you haven't proven yourself interesting as a unique person to them yet, a la building attraction.

I'd say you need to: 1) Research and work on improving Inner Game 2) Find a local PU lair or a good friend to start putting to test and practice what you've been reading. From what you write it sounds like you've absorbed a bit of the terminology which leads me to suspect you've learned some of the theories beyong what a DLV and IOI is. I think you need to start doing the hardest thing in many peoples lives.. approach.

A girl looking at you multiple times could be an IOI but you have so little to go off of I dont think you can count it as a full IOI unless shes really got a welcoming expression. Those.. "Come hither" eyes or the puppy dog eyes =]

Deacon · 2010-04-19T12:38:36+00:00

Don't get flustered. Pick up the straw wrapper and throw it back. As casually as possible.

As far as "walking away" is concerned--you were there first. Let them walk away.

Title	So was that a shit test?
Author	nooneinparticular
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	April 19, 2010 10:57 AM UTC (16 years ago)
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