"We should hang out sometime." Now what?

michiganrag · 2010-10-07T03:59:35+00:00

Yeah dude that's fine, just go knock on her door and see what's up. You don't necessarily have to get coffee either, you can probably just sit down and chat in her living room or whatever. I did that all the time in my dorm/apartment building at my university.

marcovirtual · 2010-10-07T05:43:27+00:00

Push the damn fire alarm again.

sertman · 2010-10-07T04:29:38+00:00

"Hey, I was heading out to get a bite to eat, want to come with?"

Don't push it if she doesn't want to go, just take the opportunity to exchange numbers, wait a few days, and then do it again. It also might help to have a friend with you that you have a good and funny rapport with.

hhhhhhhha · 2010-10-07T05:27:42+00:00

I don't know much about PUA techniques and whatnot, but this one seems like common sense.

She's showed interest right? And you have interest right? Then ask her on a date. Think of something fun to do and invite her to go with you.

Make sure it's obvious you're asking her as a romantic interest and not as a friend. Smile, be flirty, make whatever you've got planned seem exciting. It may seem more awkward doing it this way rather than being more casual and under the radar, but it's not. The worst case is that she's not interested in you, she'll be flattered but let you know she's not into it, and you can get on with your life.

If she is interested though, then think of every second you spend just being friendly as digging a friend ditch that you have to get out of before becoming romantic. Trying to get out of the friend ditch is what's really awkward.

2cats2hats · 2010-10-07T07:16:58+00:00

Off-topic yet on-topic:

When someone ever says sometime and you actually want to see them again, turn it into a topic of setting the time.

It makes it MUCH easier to flow if you assign a time once the offer is put out.

This isn't just for pickups, this goes for anyone you want in your future. I hope I make sense.

2010-10-07T07:23:44+00:00

I like the advice of, stopping by to say hi but not hanging around. If you just show up it will get creepy if you dont already tell her you can only stay for a bit.

If you wait longer then three days, she is gonna forget you. Gotta be aggressive and knock on that door soon.

I usually say something like, I want to go check out this new bar, or event even though I go there often. I think a full dinner is really too formal. Play it off as an adventure or something.

TheMob · 2010-10-07T09:05:05+00:00

Do you work? Do you study?

On your way out (so as not to commit yourself (or more importantly.. her)) knock on her door and ask for her number.

"Hey! I've been meaning to drop by for a while - I'm just off to work, but I couldn't resist any more. Can I get your number?"

cantworkouttheugly · 2010-10-07T09:36:31+00:00

Do a takeaway a couple of times.

Then arrange for a movie night at her place or yours. Have takeout and wine ready.

Fuck her.

These are the three steps.

throwawayrarst · 2010-10-07T12:50:01+00:00

Invite her out to something you're doing anyways. Eg "I'm going to get a coffee, you should come." Rather than something really awkward, like "I was, erm, wondering if, uh, you would like to get a, um, coffee with me?"

This way there's no pressure, it's not a big deal if she says no, it's non-needy, etc.

StoneG · 2010-10-07T12:52:28+00:00

Go to her door with a note in hand. The note should say something like "it was fun meeting you. I didn't give you my number, here it is. Let's go for a coffee sometime."

Then go to her door, knock. If she answer's, open with "Hey, I just stopped by to drop off this note, but since you are home, I will ask in person. Want to go out for a coffee?" Then go from there.... and remember you already have a piece of paper with your name and number on it.

Do it today.

ihaveabu · 2010-10-07T16:18:45+00:00

you should've grabbed some kind of contact method (email, number) and say you're not in your apt that much

RalphLeMeow · 2010-10-07T09:47:04+00:00

knock knock "I've got two tickets to that thing that you love ..."

2010-10-07T13:53:33+00:00

The fire alarm and roophie thing are gold, but if those don't work out for you try getting a group of you friends together (make sure it isn't all dudes too) for a night out. Stop by the evening before and say that you and your friends are going out and she should meet up and can bring along her friends if she likes. It will be low pressure and she will be likely to comply. Then just be awesome and next thing you know your dick will be in her mouth.

Close · 2010-10-07T18:30:12+00:00

Leave a sticky note on her door with your name, number & something witty, eaaaasssayyy.

2010-10-07T21:57:48+00:00

Knock on her door with a measuring cup and say, "Hey neighbor, can I borrow a cup of beer?"

monkmonkmonk · 2010-10-07T04:03:55+00:00

NOW IS TIME FOR SEX

ArthurTrollington · 2010-10-07T03:21:24+00:00

Roophie colada

CuilRunnings · 2010-10-07T05:07:35+00:00

Try to arrange it so you naturally run into each other somewhere near the apartment.
If a week or so passes and you don't see her, just go knock on the door and confidently say "I know this is weird but I figured I'd drop I haven't seen you." Bonus points if you're just coming from/going to someplace cool that you can use to DHV.
At that point, just do your standard day 1 game. Dinner/bar/movie/bedroom/whatever you normally do.

Title	"We should hang out sometime." Now what?
Author	DerpDerpBurp
Upvotes	20
Comments	48
Date	October 7, 2010 3:19 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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