I Don't Know How To Dance With A Girl Very Well, And It Is Killing My Game.

kazagistar · 2012-09-06T07:45:23+00:00

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sjhand · 2012-09-06T10:44:59+00:00

I dance like shit, my girlfriend thinks it's hilarious, I do too.

Apparently, I improved a lot since she explained to me to 'skip' 1 beat while moving to the music, so going slower. I try to do this most of the time, and then, when the dance floor is at it's max capacity, I embarrass the shit out of her by doing my old thing, MUHAHAHAHAHAHA.

D33D33 · 2012-09-06T09:28:12+00:00

I'd consider myself a sick dancer, I learnt just going out all the time clubbing and watching how my friends danced (those who were also sick dancers) and slowly over time I picked it all up and incorporated more moves from different people.

Just next time you're out watch how people are dancing, with girls or without and try and imitate it next time. Short of taking a dance class that's really the best advice I can give you.

itsmevichet · 2012-09-06T13:59:18+00:00

Take a class, bro.

It can be anything. Ballet, modern, hip hop, jazz, ballroom, latin. Just make sure it's interesting enough for you to stick with for more than two months (and theoretically your whole life, if you really like dancing).

No, I'm not telling you to get on the dancefloor and pirouette like a jerk-off who shows off too much (me). But, what you actually get from the dance class isn't far from that.

The key point is that whatever you take, you'll learn overall coordination, poise, and posture. Your energy and confidence on the floor (and off) will be better. You don't have to be a champion to sweep a girl off her feet. You just have to be able to move with her.

And, to do that, dance class works wonders.

EDIT

I started learning how to dance at first to impress girls. What I learned is that I love dance, and wouldn't give it up for ANY woman. ANY.

The hidden upside to that is that somehow, that has made me MUCH more attractive. I tend to be the guy girls are asking about, after they see me move. And getting a girl to dance a bit down and dirty with me is no problem. High value!

EDIT 2 - The Dark Side of the Dance Force

So, a lot of guys, after they start to get good at dancing, get a huge ego boost that turns them into douches.

There's a difference between ego and confidence. Ego limits your behaviors - you won't dance with these people or to this music or at this club because you're "better than them."

Confidence (through competence) unlocks your potential. You can be the King anywhere you go, with the skills to back it up.

Don't let good dancing turn you into an egotistical jackass (like me).

dablac · 2012-09-06T10:27:52+00:00

If you don't have the money, just visit youtube and get a classic tutorial-selftaught dancing education.

You can do this for 99% of learn-able skills, all it takes is self discipline.

skgoa · 2012-09-06T12:50:33+00:00

I can't dance. I am a fattynerd who even was to shy to dance for the first ~ 20 years of his life. And you know what? Somehow people seem to think I can dance. Because I just do what the hot girls on the dancefloor do. :D Add a little bit of rythm to it and that's it. Almost nobody in the world had dancing lessons. Yet seemingly everybody can do it. Why? Because they just fucking do it. There is nothing more to it. Nowadays I like to dance, even though I still need a drink or two before I do it in public.

BerryLemonzz · 2012-09-06T13:21:36+00:00

I've never posted in seddit, but this is an area that anyone who knows of me knows me for. I'm a guy who can who out to a club/bar and start dancing solo in the middle of the floor and have women approach me to dance. It's all about feeling confident and keeping it smooth and not so clunky looking.

Have you ever seen Hitch? The "home base" move where its just a side to side with a snap can actually be effective if you pull it off with confidence. It's not anything fancy, but it can be done with some flair incorporating your shoulders a bit or anything really to make it seem bigger than what it really is.

Realistically I've always been in your same position, as in, I dance well solo but with a girl joining in I feel like I have to try better. This thought ultimately throws me slightly off beat of the music, which girls don't care about as long as they are having fun. It took me a long time to get over me feeling like I was getting off beat/out of rhythm with a girl and just having fun anyway.

TL;DR: Be confident no matter what, and at the very least just have fun because if you are, she should get that vibe from you.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-09-06T14:06:54+00:00

Youtube is full of instructional videos on various dance styles. Set up a mirror in your house in front of a hard floor (no carpet), watch the videos, and practice in front of the mirror until you think you look good.

2012-09-06T15:40:33+00:00

Dancing is just channelling the energy of the music through to your limbs and core.

That's how I do it though. It's kinda unconscious. You have to feel it!

gnopgnip · 2012-09-06T16:44:44+00:00

Just enjpy it. Don't worry so much about what other people think. When you just dance and have fun women will see that and want to dance with you.

Knwldge_is_pwr · 2012-09-06T22:47:35+00:00

Don't take yourself too seriously on the dance floor, be a goofball! It's will stick out and be more memorable to a girl than a try hard or a horn dog.

Stoneykins · 2012-09-07T01:30:19+00:00

I don't know how to dance AS a girl. ):

EtovNowd · 2012-09-06T14:35:52+00:00

That's a lie. I KNOW how to dance very well, and it does me no-good. Either one, I'm too good and get bored with the person I'm dancing with, or others are intimidated, or I'm intimidated because the only people I dance with seem to have YEARS of experience over me (Salsa dancing).

I don't really do the bump and grind thing

Then you're setting yourself up for failure. This is the only thing people do in clubs, or dancing. Think of it this way:

If a girl is shy, then the last thing she wants to do is dance face-to-face with someone who she likes and have that person judge her. Nobody likes to be judged. So her turning her back to you and grinding on you gets rid of that judgment.

Now, with her grinding on you she's looking around and guess what? All the dudes are checking her out because they her grinding and want her now. Guess who's ego is getting a boost? Hers. She's now desirable.

You're burning yourself man if you think grinding is bad/wrong/weird because you're not seeing it from the girl's POV. Now, if the girls doesn't grind, then she'll just stand on the dancefloor looking awkward anyways, and if you're not reading that body language, and taking her off the dancefloor, then that's your prob.

2012-09-06T12:29:56+00:00

I think the most important thing is you enjoy the dancing your doing and don't look at her for approval. I honestly think if your dancing with a girl you have already opened its the one place you can break eye contact and just enjoy yourself.

I like to dance a bit camp. I just picked up loads of the cheesy disco moves over the years. Sometimes I'll throw in a few body pops. You could check online or notice little moves people do in music videos.

A girl will not be impressed if you know an entire dance. If anything she will feel out of place beside you.

My ex gf gave me a lot of insight into this. She was a good 9.5 and so were her friends. They all loved my dancing, it became a talking point now and again. Not because it was good but because it was hilarious, but they knew I enjoyed it so they did too. Even to this day my ex comments on it favourably.

As long as your not thrashing about everywhere and you keep upright and in your zone you should be fine doing anything.

Oh and no head bobbing!!!

Title	I Don't Know How To Dance With A Girl Very Well, And It Is Killing My Game.
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Date	September 6, 2012 6:41 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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