How is it that you all are doing this well with women?

QawL · 2018-10-12T20:44:24+00:00

Everyone fails much more then they write about their one big success. At least that's what it is for me.

Try 10 times succeed 1 time. Never try never fail your choice.

Ricklogical · 2018-10-12T20:01:10+00:00

Have you been approaching women daily?

Lots of rejection at the start. Life is not perfect math and your project should never be based on short term success of failure with women.

It takes more practice for some and less because of chance with others.

I'm in an LTR. That helps.

Before that it was mostly my mobility and my inclination to take women fun places.

r_u_a_badfish2 · 2018-10-12T20:46:21+00:00

Don’t worry. Half the posters here are probably full of shit. This is Reddit after all.

TRP theory is sound. But your problem is that you’re comparing yourself with random dudes on the internet.

There are many possible reasons why you’re not seeing progress. Incorporating TRP principles into your life and relationship takes TIME. Doesn’t always work with every woman, especially if she is accustomed to a older version of you.

Take a break from the forums for a while. Focus more on reading theory. Recommended books, side bar, etc.

Keep focusing on improving yourself.

RunawayGrain · 2018-10-12T19:59:13+00:00

A lion is only successful hunting about 17% of the time and that's rounding up. So there are two ways to look at the solution to that. You are either always hunting, or finding ways to increase the odds that you succeed. The best answer, though, is to do both.

So how frequently are you talking to girls, or going to venues to meet girls in person? Hows the lifting going, and what are your E1RMs? Gimme some info to work with here.

Woke_Normie · 2018-10-12T20:52:07+00:00

most of the guys here are LARPING.

AwkwardEmpath · 2018-10-12T21:01:11+00:00

It's the internet my friend. Take everything you read with a grain of salt. I enjoy TRP but there are a lot of keyboard warriors on here.

Just keep at it man.

NabroleonBonaparte · 2018-10-12T21:52:25+00:00

To be blunt, you might have undiagnosed ADD or autism.

I found out I had undiagnosed ADD and it was the missing piece to TRP. I realized this place is a honeypot for these types of people due to feeling like outcasts and having bad social skills.

I would look into those and see if any of the readings line up with your experiences and go get a diagnosis.

There was this huge backlash against widespread efforts to educate how common these conditions were in the 90s but single moms couldn’t accept that their snowflake wasn’t “perfect” so they kept their children in the dark.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2018-10-12T20:21:18+00:00

If you just started lifting and you’re lifting naturally don’t expect to look decent until the 18 month mark

Insendi · 2018-10-12T22:02:32+00:00

Most of us don’t openly talk about our failure, it’s why you only see success not the millions of failures we have. I’ll share 2 with you I got this week to prove it.

Successful hookup on tinder, the girl said she didn’t wanna meet up anymore cause her ex saw the hickies I left on her neck. I shouldn’t of responded like everyone else had suggested on my post but I responded with the comment I left on the post and that hook up won’t ever happen again
Girl I was FWBs with for a month. We never fucked but she didn’t have a lot of red flags so I let her win constantly when she shit tested me. Got a text 2 days ago that she only wanted to be friend and not mess around anymore. I failed cause she begin to see me as a source of validation where she didn’t have to strip down to.

We all fall bro and some fall harder then others. By no means are we models I’m sure the majority of us are a little better then the average looking guy mainly cause we lift.

And to put more on that I’m brown 5 foot 6 and got braces. I’m not a model by any standards I’ve been told to my face I’ve got the looks for radio but fuck all that noise. Keep pushing and you’ll get successful

SuperCrazy07 · 2018-10-13T01:40:20+00:00

While some of the field reports are retardedly fake, I tend to believe most to an extent. Here are the caveats:

HB8 is 90% of the time HB5.
The guy writing the report didn't tell you about the previous 23 times he fucked up an interaction with the girl, he's reporting the time he actually passed all the shit tests and got laid.
You know somewhere in there is an exaggeration. "I just had an amazing threesome with two hot chicks who swapped my cum" is really sex with a tinder girl whose roommate is passed out on the couch.

zeekt12 · 2018-10-12T21:23:07+00:00

I feel you. I’ve made major improvements, but not nearly as much as the stories ive heard here lmao. Either people are over exaggerating their stories, bullshitting, or ive not implemented trp correctly.

But at the end of the day, as long as you’re improving and progressing toward your goal everyday that’s all that matters. Everyone goes at a different pace, dont compare yourself to others.

dtyler86 · 2018-10-12T21:56:38+00:00

How old are you? I was in a 5 year LTR from 21-26. I had no game going in, after being cheated on, find TRP, I emerged a goddamn cocksman. I’m in my 30s now, not at all a model, probably a 7 (though I like to believe I’m an 8). It’s a time thing too, but most importantly for me is putting yourself out there, meeting new friends, using apps like tinder, being confidant and not taking shit.

If you have 2+ plates, the third, fourth, etc. come very quickly and effortlessly. I was at a point when I was single around 28/29 that I legitimately had a note in my phone of girls ranked by availability and attraction; I couldnt keep track.

Thizzlebot · 2018-10-12T23:06:21+00:00

You have to remember a lot of people lie or exaggerate. They may be saying hb8 when she looks like a 5 irl. I can get laid every single weekend if I want but I'm done lowering my standards so I get laid way less but when you look at it objectively and see how much someone smashes it seems different even if there is a massive change in quality.

TopofToronto · 2018-10-12T23:06:33+00:00

One of these answers and it is probably a mix of them

People Lie On the Internet self explanatory

Facebook Self-reporting People only post photos / report the goodtimes , not just finished a 4 hour fight with the wife, Bank called and we missed another car payment so have to call my mom for a loan So guys here are only reporting the successes not the 42 times of failing.

Poor reporting of "quality". Two parts ; even before TRP I noticed my friends saying they are dating the gorgeous knock out of a woman, and we go and visit her work so he can point her out and my reaction 70% of the time was " Is she behind the Rino" ?

Second part is we I put great effort in to my work out and my dieting and at the same time was fight friends that were unknowingly trying to kibosh my efforts ( other people hate to see change in a relationship) I got a huge ego towards women so they were approaching me.

They were fat , they were chubby, they had fat asses, they made very little effort in their appearances. If I was younger I probably be fucking them all, but that huge ego made me think " I did not make all this effort for you ewww" Many were middling and could be spending half my week keeping plates spinning but I am... different.

You are probably missing the sex signals TRP got worse as it got popular, a lot more study and review and trading good information back then an less of a social club . Somethings need to be pointed out or learned from experience .

IE. The waitress taking your order, the subtle difference between her bending over showing her tits with a smile thinking you are a schlub and she can get a big tip from you and that exact same move though subtly different she thinks you are attractive and hopes you talk her up and take her home.

its_meKnightSwolaire · 2018-10-13T00:32:31+00:00

Bro you do not know what is going on inside these bitches heads. I got incredibly lucky at age 18 when I asked out a co worker. She happened to be a nympho and literally couldn’t resist

IFuckingHateAllergy · 2018-10-13T00:41:10+00:00

TRP is like social media. You only see success, not the failures behind those success.

thotimusprime70 · 2018-10-13T01:54:08+00:00

your giving too many fuxs

mounted2czarina · 2018-10-13T02:27:35+00:00

Success with women is determined wholly by one’s appearance.

Chaddeus_Rex · 2018-10-13T02:31:29+00:00

depends on where u live. live in big city? easy to approach everyday and get laid often.

live in suburbs with a lot of old people, harder

Nergaal · 2018-10-12T21:25:06+00:00

You should carefully gauge your SMV. You need to be in the top 5% or 10% of your market to notice obvious changes.

jakethesnake5000 · 2018-10-12T20:00:10+00:00

I’m good looking, fit, make 100$k a year, and very charismatic. The game stuff here is icing on the cake

Irtotallynotrobot · 2018-10-12T19:56:17+00:00

Hmmm. Results were almost immediate for me. I literally wrote down my goal to get laid after I got broken up with and accomplished it within days. I know that there has been a dramatic change in my overall mindset. Maybe try focusing on that too would help.

GucciGangBucks · 2018-10-12T22:22:43+00:00

Don’t think a lot of people realize for some spinning plates takes years. Maybe you’ll get 1-2 plates this year. Then next year 1-2. Which will be 4 plates by year 3. And so on. After awhile that’s 20 plates in 10 years. Not bad at all.

BurningOrangeHeaven · 2018-10-12T22:37:24+00:00

Increase the anmount of interactions you have.

mrmarkme · 2018-10-12T23:34:15+00:00

Have you been approaching women? If not then that's why

woke_wizard · 2018-10-13T00:03:03+00:00

Self improvement is something that takes years. There is no quick fix.

econquest · 2018-10-13T00:12:10+00:00

I got two pieces of advice for you:

FIRST:

-> you have to pick up some shitty hobby nobody cares about. yoga in the park? Amazing idea. Pottery class? What better use of the time of a person who is part of civilization in 2018.

Not shitty hobby: how to set up recurrent billing on a web site and grow an organic community of customers. hard pass on that one chief, you have better things to do in your evenings than participate in the digital economy. (Such as the aforementioned pottery class.)

Okay, so you've started doing shitty hobbies that benefit nobody. Whether Mediterranean cooking, watercolors, the Bachata dance form, -- Ding, ding, ding, we got some winners here.

Okay, that was the first point of advice.

Next, and this is the crucial one: you have to talk to like 35 girls there. Don't worry, you won't make it to 35 but you seriously have to go through them like you're sorting laundry, for the one who's interested and available. That's how it works.

Then they'll just grab your arm and cling to you and you'll be like "Holy shit this was super easy. This took like 5 minutes" until you realize "...though that doesn't include the past six months of picking up shitty hobbies."

The shittier the better. Go for it man. Pick up a new hobby every month.

EDIT to clarify: I'm not being sarcastic and picked up 4 hobbies in the past 6 months but I'm bitter that it's not anything objectively interesting. If someone told me about a pottery class, yes, I'd go.

HIJKelemenoP · 2018-10-13T00:21:53+00:00

Dude, the guys getting laid are the ones posting. Kinda like how all pornstars have big dicks and all NBA players are tall. Those are what surface, not reality.

Musicgoon · 2018-10-13T00:56:25+00:00

It's a process like lifting. You don't go from tubby to ripped overnight.

My process took several years. When I started, I was shitty at it. Now it's almost no effort. It becomes who you are.

BrutalMan420 · 2018-10-13T01:26:36+00:00

months

thats why op. simple as that. it takes years to turn from a bitch to a man. personally it has not been a year yet for myself but I am seeing results. but i was already kinda redpilled in mindset but i didnt act on it (i didnt actually know TRP, only vaguely but when i decided “hey maybe i should stop being a dumb lazy sack of shit, check out TRP properly and put this shit into action” and it was very easy)

redvelvet_oreo · 2018-10-13T03:57:59+00:00

I personally feel YMMV based on how well you can put all this shit together and internalize it and kill your old self and bring to life the new and improved self. That sounds dramatic but I realize I put together shit quicker than other people and is the same reason why I have excelled at my career quickly and seen many people left behind. Its also the reason why I have had alot of success in my social life, with women, and with my career after finding TRP.

Its constant practice of the core concepts here. Cultivating an IDGAF attitude, Building your Frame, Establishing a social circle, Learning game and than fine tuning it. Being Outcome Independent, being less emotionally invested than the opposite sex. Eventually learning amused mastery. Learning how to be a leader and say NO and do what you think is best. Establishing goals and achieving them.

You already mentioned lifting. Something everyone here just cant STFU about. Honestly I feel like working out is common sense. Training vs exercising is different and takes a more focused and dedicated person. Everyone should lift I agree but even you dont lift you should still be exercising or doing anything to stay healthy and not be a fat beta ham beast.

I think to better asses your problem you need to figure out what your doing wrong. Just because your doing "XYZ" in the right order dosent mean you get bitches. You need to practice being social and having game. You don't need to be flashing magic tricks but being able to open a girl, tease her , pass shit tests, and escalate is essentially what you need to get good at and the content here for it has been lacking here lately because for some reason game is frowned upon all the sudden.

beginner_ · 2018-10-13T04:01:29+00:00

Months is nothing depending where you are coming from. Mentally and body wise.

LoLDamo · 2018-10-13T04:44:08+00:00

You are probably missing something.

For me it was closing - everyone here talking about lifting, raising your SMV bla bla bla these are long term life goals that you will always be doing which help with woman being attracted to you as well as many other things.

But if you just want to get laid; approach - have fun - escalate - close. If you are not doing one of these things you won’t have a ton of success.

The words “let’s go back to mine” changed my life went from a girl a month to 3 on any given week.

un_knownguy · 2018-10-13T05:19:20+00:00

I am fat, I have a giant nose and I have fucked 10s heres how:

HINT: always target specific audience.

Going around hitting on every girl that is cute is a waste of energy(in fact hitting on any girl is a waste of time) but if you want to fuck you'll have to deal with it, I am an average looking guy and I have fucked 10 by answering myself these questions

Where and how is that I have had more success with women?
What is it that these girls like about me?

Also,

In my case this has had a 90% success rate ALWAYS make her feel insecure, a girl is obsessed with beauty because in her mind that's the biggest asset that's why cute girls are easier to get in bed because the minute you reject them or call them fat they jump on you like a Lion.

I once had a 10 reject me just because she literally said "I don't look like a that type of guy", so I started to ignore her, she started throwing tantrum and I said "if you would have let me put my penis inside you, you wouldn't be complaining so much" she got "offended" and left. Next day she comes to my house, take off her clothes and let me fuck her.

[deleted] · 2018-10-13T05:45:42+00:00

To learn a skill, you have to practice that skill. To pick up hot women, you have to practice picking up hot women. You have to put yourself out there. Start cold approach. Keep lifting and keep working on your future.

wobbleelbbow · 2018-10-13T06:56:34+00:00

It's like a newbie in lifting who looks at bodybuilders and says:

"Damn I have been lifting for 3 months and still don't look like arnold swarthcheneger, how do you do it guys???"

ironmanfan68 · 2018-10-12T19:42:16+00:00

(they arent getting laid theyre just lying to make themselves feel better)

wont_tell_i_refuse_ · 2018-10-12T23:43:00+00:00

Many guys probably lie. Which isn’t an indictment of TRP, just of those guys.

Title	How is it that you all are doing this well with women?
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