How do you flirt with a beautiful, hot girl that is obviously getting hit on by many other guys?

tedcorp · 2013-11-08T07:28:25+00:00

Ignore how "hot" she is and do whatever the fuck you would if she weren't.

L1AM · 2013-11-08T07:55:01+00:00

Your objective is to stand out from the crowd. Don't be the same as the other fifteen guys looking to get laid, because with them, looks will be the champion and statistically, you'll fail.

Stand out by treating her differently. Approach it as you don't need anything from her. You don't want anything from her. But go in hard and heavy with the flirting. Keep it really light, build comfort, use kino as often as it can make sense. Make her laugh if you can (through teasing; don't try to provoke it out of her), and, like everyone else is saying, be genuine in the end.

jamespet · 2013-11-08T08:15:49+00:00

Just as you would with any other girl, same principals apply. -be outcome independant -unreactive -take action!

etc.

helander · 2013-11-08T06:03:16+00:00

You do the opposite thing all the other guys are doing, treat her like a beautiful human being, not a hot potential fuck.

citizenc · 2013-11-08T15:39:55+00:00

Pretty girls like to be told they're intelligent, intelligent girls like to be told they're pretty. :-)

imstingman · 2013-11-08T04:50:56+00:00

This is going to sound extremely cliche, but I can't emphasize it enough. BE YOURSELF. When your congruent with your feelings and emotions and are grounded girls can sense that. It's like this inate feeling that all of us have. You can tell if someone is holding back or trying to be someone else. This alone can set you apart. Social proof also is a huge plus here and it will work wonders (although it will require some extra work). NEVER come across as needy, it's more unnattractive than a hobo jacking off to the sight of a dead cat. Sorry if the post is unorganized, I rarely submit.

PooJohnson · 2013-11-08T05:30:13+00:00

How do you make yourself stand out from the other bunch of guys flirting with and hitting on her?

What do you mean by this? Are they all doing this at once? Like are they surrounding her at a party? If there is a line of guys to talk to the girl, I would stay away. Do you really want to look like that beta dude in line to talk to a pretty girl?

If you ever talk to her alone, be honest and blunt and confident. Just say "I think you're pretty, will you go on a date with me?" It will feel weird to say that, but the fact that you can say something that feels weird (and therefore no other guy will say) puts you head and shoulders above everybody else.

Maximazed · 2013-11-08T15:04:50+00:00

You don't put her on a pedestal. There is a girl that I met through some of my friends who think she is the most beautiful girl they have ever seen. They all flock around her and give her large amounts of attention. She doesn't even give them the time of day. Whenever I talk to her, I don't do that stupid shit, I don't hit on her, I tease her a bit, it makes her more interested in me. She sought out my number, I didn't give her it. She always initiate texting, and when I don't respond she texts me again. So don't treat her like a "beautiful, hot girl that is obviously getting hit on by many other guys", but rather just a friend that you'd bullshit with and have fun with.

kingofspoonerisms · 2013-11-08T15:23:14+00:00

You mention "beautiful" and "hot"..well what else about her do you like? All those other dudes are probably stroking her ego by complimenting her on her looks. Stand out by connecting with her on a deeper level. With my most recent girlfriend, I bonded with her over her parents recently seperating, which is something i had gone through when I was younger. I was able to show I understood what she was going through but without being an emotional tampon. BAM her attraction to me skyrocketed

TheNicator · 2013-11-08T16:08:47+00:00

ignore her physical appearance. neg if you want -> dhv when you have her attention -> elicit values/have her qualify herself to you -> _____ whatever you want from there

itsmevichet · 2013-11-08T18:05:52+00:00

You flirt with her as if you're the only interesting man in the room.

It helps to be interesting, and confident enough to believe the truth (that the other guys don't matter).

2013-11-09T00:18:04+00:00

I've heard some people call this "priming". Whatever you call it, it works for me. However you need to be pretty confident and quite the extrovert.

Enter the room and acquaint yourself with everyone in a confident, friendly manner. This includes her, her friends, the other girls, the guys hitting on her, and the guys who aren't hitting on her. Just treat her like anyone else. A passing acquaintance. Give her a flirty smile if you want but sort of leave her there.

Let's say you're at a house party for simplicity's sake. This would work at a bar or club or wherever. Principles are the same. Grab a deck of cards and round up some girls and some guys to play a drinking game with you. This is especially good if the party is a little boring and no one is doing anything. Start flirting with the other girls around you as you play. Make them laugh. Be fun and funny and confident. Keep being upbeat and friendly to the guys as well.

Suddenly this HB10 is surrounded by guys hitting on here while you're across the room getting hit on by HB6's 7's and 8's, making friends with the guys, and leading the party. Or maybe she came over to your table to play the game. If so, give out drinks and tease her as well as the other girls and make them laugh. Keep creating chaos and fun around you.

Now you're the guy in the room who is the life of the party and you're outcome independent. Some of the other girls already like you, while those guys are all just focused on her. I promise you'll have her interest at that point. I am NOT saying talk to everyone BUT her. She will probably think you're indifferent towards her and give up. Give her a tiny bit more attention than everyone else, but then get back to having fun with the group.

Hopefully, she thinks of her situation in these terms: all of these guys are dying to go home with me, while that guy seems pretty indifferent because he could take any of these girls home. You have a solid chance of her chasing you at that point.

At this point, it gets more tricky because the real skill comes when using her newfound interest in you to isolate her from everyone else. If she's got three guys rotating around her non-stop, she may very well be wanting to talk to you, but she might not be able to escape. If she looks really annoyed (maybe three guys are overwhelming her) you could find a clever way to "rescue" her. At that point, it's really up to you how you're going to make a move.

But as far as creating the attraction goes, I've found this to be a sure fire way to get that HB10 getting bombarded by the other guys.

Mooninites7 · 2013-11-08T06:32:58+00:00

Don't get flustered by other guys hitting on her, just pay no mind to it. Be pretty calm and be comfortable with yourself infront of her

L1AM · 2013-11-08T07:51:48+00:00

"Don't put her on a pedestal" is the classic piece.

2013-11-08T10:04:47+00:00

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pornthrowaway69 · 2013-11-08T13:44:06+00:00

Here are two possibilities:

1: Ignore her, you are fixated. There are other girls to talk to, if you go over while worried you will probably be one of the bunch. Once you have talked to 6-7 other girls, the pressure will not be as great and you can organically talk to the first girl. Then again, you may not care by that point, which is even better. Next time you can take her off the pedestal.

2: Ok, fine, you are fixated. Go for a stupid line. Ask her who she thinks the hottest guy in the bar is, if he is gay or not, and if she thinks he will like you. Yes it is lame, though who knows. The real issue is you are fixated... Don't be fixated, that is for AFTER you get to know her and actually start to care.

vi1xi · 2013-11-08T15:48:03+00:00

remember that this is a numbers game. if she rejects you even if you come off as -- well yourself-- eff it and move on

2013-11-08T16:35:18+00:00

Just don't care about it and be a bit brutal/arrogant to the beautiful girls that are getting lots of attention... If you're just mister nice guy that listens all the time to her wonderful storys, her vagina is not going to open up for you :p..

And ofcourse, beautiful girls are much harder to get, because they have a lot of 'monopoly-power'... But just don't care about it, be confident and focus on other girls as well.. If you're trying very hard to get her, she will probably think: "oh wat a sweety, he tries so hard but will never succeed"...

dkismet · 2013-11-08T17:56:56+00:00

Be normal by not trying to impress her

2013-11-08T21:17:42+00:00

The best way to learn is to answer your own questions, hit on them in the exact same way you would hit on anyone else and your mistakes will show you the correct path. Embrace failure for the sake of finding your own truth.

2013-11-10T18:43:16+00:00

You probably won't be able to be the most attractive guy hitting on her. But as long as you're not looking for a relationship, you could still fuck her. These kind of girls usually see multiple guys at once anyway.

Rockitface · 2013-11-08T14:44:20+00:00

Be a dork.

2013-11-08T06:05:38+00:00

ignore her looks, assume she's attracted to you, don't take anything she says too seriously, and LEAD.

airc4523 · 2013-11-08T13:55:11+00:00

Be Confident. That's all.

airc4523 · 2013-11-08T13:58:57+00:00

Be Confident. That's all.

leftajar · 2013-11-08T07:43:07+00:00

Be real with her.

After guy #6 crashes and burns, go up, and say, "How'd he do?"

She'll laugh and say something. Then you comment on it nonchalantly. And it's game on.

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