what made you give up on dating & women?

potatoeswithfries · 2024-02-01T10:46:08+00:00

Nothing. I didn't.

Online dating is barely worth trying though, so if that's all you're doing, then I see why you feel that way. For one, you're one of 50 (or more) dudes trying to get her attention at the same time, so even if she's interested, your message might just get lost in all that spam.

Go talk to women in real life instead, approach them wherever you see them, then instead of being just another random dude messaging her online, you become the only guy who had the balls to chat her up IRL. You're standing in front of her, you have her undivided attention, and it's more fun than staring at the screen of your phone and typing away.

The beginnings are painful, but it's worth it, trust me (EDIT: actually, don't trust me, try it out and see for yourself).

Significant-666 · 2024-02-01T11:59:17+00:00

I assume you do online game?

Taking that into assumption, and why it’s not working:

your profile is not good enough (tell yourself whatever you want, a good profile does half the job)
your text game is meh

99% of the guys online have no idea what they’re doing.

However if you don’t want to bother with online, then do cold approach. The competition is faaaaar less. 200 guys can DM a girl, but only 2 would have the guts to approach her.

Pedro_Moona · 2024-02-01T10:06:47+00:00

There are plenty of women just looking for a "normal guy" Now what that is often unrealistic.

Don't quit just take a break and maybe hangout with some less attractive women before you can improve your game!

chootchootchoot · 2024-02-01T10:19:02+00:00

Try being really low effort and see what happens. Never put a woman from online dating ahead of your own life and priorities. I kinda agree that lifetime commitment doesn’t really exist anymore, but I still enjoy women’s company.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-02-01T12:27:34+00:00

I encourage my competitors to think that the juice is not worth the squeeze as they continue to shove Doritos into their mouth, watch youtube videos from man-grifters and play video games.

marcelas888 · 2024-02-01T19:37:19+00:00

Getting constantly flaked. Like even when I drove to the girls place they made me wait and never came out. So basically got flaked by 6 girls in the same year whilst banging 6 girls in the same Ive got tired of the mind games.

SgtSplacker · 2024-02-01T13:16:45+00:00

What I gave up on is the idea of letting my guard down in a relationship.

No_Standard_260 · 2024-02-01T16:37:34+00:00

Bum ass😂. Go do some cold approaches at a campus and realize women aren’t these superior beings. Stop being a princess, femboy

ArnorCitizen · 2024-02-01T13:21:20+00:00

Nothing. I see that my parents got together and so many other people in my life.

It's just a matter of finding social settings to engage in.

Me personally? I've picked up dancing. Making more friends this way, connections and gives me more chances to meet women in my area in an organic manner. I know I'm a catch and I'm not in a huge rush for love cause I'm finally pretty happy with myself.

SaintGrunch · 2024-02-02T01:31:33+00:00

Capitalism and my failure to find meaningful work.

H8beingmale · 2024-02-02T22:48:17+00:00

got out of a failed relationship that didn't feel like a true relationship, resent having to go through the drama and burden of courtship, seduction, all over again

jjjj__jj · 2024-02-01T12:30:28+00:00

Never dated one yet. So not giving up just now. :'

FullFig3372 · 2024-02-01T16:13:31+00:00

after many failed talking stages i just stopped trying what’s the point of doing something if it’s not making you funny

Fantastic_Zebra8123 · 2024-02-02T02:18:09+00:00

The older you become the easier it becomes. Sure game is important, but now in my mid 30s I get way more unsolicited flirting/IOIs than I did 5-10 years ago. My behavior hasn't changed substantially, I dress about the same, I'm in about the same physical shape... So there's really not much else that explains the difference in the amount of attention I get.

So don't give up. Just be patient, work on your own stuff, maybe try a course from time to time.

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-02-01T11:39:59+00:00

Just go gay bro, you barely even have to squeeze to get any juice

VrilHunter · 2024-02-01T12:02:06+00:00

Online isn't worth it unless you look like a model. Game in real life. You'd get women more easily in real life who would never swipe on you online.

Shadow__Account · 2024-02-01T17:48:26+00:00

Online dating is amazing. Most men are just boys. Become a man.

Nyaroou · 2024-02-01T13:45:17+00:00

U guys need to learn how to instagram, it’s the new tinder

MO_drps_knwldg · 2024-02-01T12:45:41+00:00

Like other commenter said, don’t quit take a break and just focus on what makes you happy, stay healthy, and what you think your purpose is.

You’ll attract more quality people if you’re fulfilled and happy in your life

DaygameCode · 2024-02-01T14:40:12+00:00

Both men and women are disposable for both men and women. A huge amount of women are immediately replaced by men.

gurkels · 2024-02-01T16:58:31+00:00

Online dating is a competition, but I don't think all men are disposable for women even in online dating. What is true that there are many more thirsty guys online than thirsty women, so that's why you feel that men are "disposable".

I would try dating IRL if you can. Easier said than done but maybe there is someone you get along with well.

TRTGymBro · 2024-02-01T18:47:47+00:00

Got married

Title	what made you give up on dating & women?
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Date	February 1, 2024 9:57 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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