How to get girls from chatting to actually meeting on Tinder?

_Tactleneck_ · 2017-06-29T13:10:17+00:00

I keep my messages short and sweet. No checklist to follow. I've had about 90% success with this lately if the girl shows any inkling that she travels or is outdoorsy.

I ask the coolest place they've traveled to recently. They reply (girls are usually super excited to talk about traveling). I usually reply with a compliment on her going to a cool place and say something like "you seem fun. Give me your number and let's grab coffee and chat about our world tour plans :)" Then they reply with their number.

From the first text to getting the number is roughly 6-8 messages.

Dont overthink it. Girls aren't a safe to crack. Just lead a life you're interested in and proud of and you'll come off as interesting and confident... Because you are.

jackson_c_frank · 2017-06-29T10:18:42+00:00

Be sure to follow this protocol

Fun, personal opener
Building rapport
Qualification
Tease
Number close

This will increase you results significantly and try to keep the number of messages sent below 20 for this.

kwarkje · 2017-06-29T10:19:34+00:00

If they're on the younger side they might be more hesitant and afraid to actually meet in real life. Others just use the app for reassurance of what they can get or as a confidence boost. Maybe try to lay less pressure on meeting and more on a fun conversation, while still making clear that you want to hang out, and then leave the ball in her court.

yelow13 · 2017-06-29T14:15:21+00:00

Because people are shitty and life isn't easy. I've had the most success when asking for her number or to go out within 3-5 messages (each).

ghostofafrog · 2017-06-29T17:41:40+00:00

You get 5 matches a day? Im lucky if I get like 2 matches a month.

RobinKennedy23 · 2017-06-29T19:53:16+00:00

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poonishapines · 2017-06-29T18:16:56+00:00

You're clearly fucking it up with how and what you're communicating. So it's not your ugly mug. Run some tests by being direct/aggressive, direct/funny, passive/limp dick, or whatever. Find your groove man...

2017-06-29T16:09:51+00:00

Is this similar for other dating apps?

BravoPUA · 2017-06-29T14:48:45+00:00

ABC

Always Be Closing

As you are having fun getting to know more about each other and talking, move it off tinder to text.

On text find out where around town she is, what food and drinks she likes, and what cool stuff she wants to do but hasn't.

Girl last week drove 1.5 hours to meet me for Sushi and learn about it (DHV date teaching her stuff she doesn't know) great drink that she had to try, and then the observatory where we saw Jupiter thru the telescope.

Then my place to watch IT FOLLOWS. She hadn't seen and loves horror movies.

Then she spent the night. Good think I told her to bring an overnight bag "just in case".

Garthanthoclops · 2017-06-29T15:58:22+00:00

My experience: no one has ever said yes to meeting up on tinder, yet I have met plenty of girls from tinder. You gotta get it to text. There is some stigma associated with chatting on tinder that is not replicated the same in text. Lots of girls are hesitant to meet up if you ask on tinder, because they are a bit nervous and maybe a little scared. However, establishing that phone connection, for whatever reason, grants a little credibility to your name.

Also, I have dropped my number in tinder multiple times and have had 100% success. I don't know why, maybe it's coincidence.

elbeum · 2017-06-29T17:10:56+00:00

Simple, ask them to go out and drink a beer with you. Most guys apend days talking to the girls on tinder. And the girls just want to go out and have fun. Só dont waste your time. Say something funny or provoking to elicit a response and then ask them out. If she agrees get her number otherwise move on.

2017-06-29T18:44:57+00:00

Addressing many of the other comments here - you can make your formulas and shit but don't marry them. Have a outline if you need one but realize that your conversation needs to adapt for different types of girls. Practice having some awareness and start to recognize patterns between bios, pictures, and her messages. There is no perfect sequence

2017-06-29T20:51:58+00:00

First line is a comment about her bio or pics. Then say some bullshit, tell her she seems pretty cool and you should hang out. Grab her insta or snapchat then plan a date on there.

eenergabeener · 2017-06-29T21:07:46+00:00

It's not necessary to get a girls number on tinder. You can just ask her out from Tinder chat. Sometimes I don't like to give my number to a guy before I meet him in person. Just in case he's crazy and won't stop texting me. Seems backwards, but, if you're already chatting on Tinder, you can do the ask out there.

SquirtGunKelly_5 · 2017-06-29T21:09:18+00:00

Most likely you are falling into the friend frame immediately. You may either need to move the conversation into a flirty sexual nature, or have a shit test provoker in your bio (something to the sorts of "pleaaase don't be fat in real life). This will immediately make you stand out from the 100's of other guys that hit her up daily. In summary do something to stand out from the early points of the interaction.

2017-06-29T21:22:05+00:00

guys over-emphasize the power or level of her attraction. self-bias, "she wants to fuck me" guy, who thinks everyone wants to fuck him when they are welcoming or inviting. But this is a losers trap. "she wants to fuck" but she never does, bc he's making the same mistake you are. youre forgetting about playing her game and making the right moves on the field. when someone hits a baseball, i want to close my eyes hold my hand up and catch it, but that only happens in the movies. To catch that ball, things were happening. so you gotta make that happen. you gotta be honest with yourself and realize you don't understand attraction, and she's not feeling that bc if you did, you wouldnt be in this situation. start there and you'll have a lot more choices to play with

2017-06-30T00:58:15+00:00

Women get a bushel of chats per day, so it can be tough to be treated like chaff when you hoped you were wheat. The chat itself must be something special to them. If your chats are too generic you sound like every other guy they talk to and you get rated solely on your picture (you did pick a good one I hope). Don't get into sex convo too quickly, girls don't like random guys already saying stuff like they want to munch her muffin 4 minutes into the convo.

futuremo · 2017-06-30T01:21:02+00:00

There was a guide on here just a couple of days ago, you should look into it

recyclablebanthas · 2017-06-30T01:58:17+00:00

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So out of 50 or so swipes I get daily, I get around 5 matches or almost 10 matches on a lucky day.....

Couple things to keep in mind:

Tinder or other online dating apps are supplementary at best to real world ways of meeting people. The platforms all go through periods of boom and bust; the consistency is reliable due to a number of factors, not the least of which being that girls are usually bombarded with messages and get burnt out with all the douchebaggery and dick pics. (Seriously, the bar is set so far down, in terms of how most guys conduct themselves in interactions with girls online.)
Most importantly, those 5 matches on a lucky day, represent far less than that, in terms of actual actionable leads. You're still dealing with girls who haven't really decided they'd want to meet up, in most cases. Your ability to influence the process is not much better than if you were playing darts blindfolded in a typhoon. My point: let go of your expectations here and don't take it personally if a girl flakes. Because most matches are basically people kicking the tires on a car lot, or straight up looking for attention.

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.....whenever I bring up the topic of hanging out, they always do one of two things: 1) they say sorry I'm busy, I already made plans (without offering an alternative time) or 2) stop replying and end the conversation. Why are girls like this on Tinder?

Short answer: They're overwhelmed with options trying to make choices based on terribly limited information. All they have to go on is a picture and text that doesn't come close to transmitting the amount of information about a person that body language and spoken words do.

And there's a lot of burnout involved because they're inundated with tons of messages, most of which are asinine, awkward, and/or desperate. (I hear a lot of stories about these messages from girls I meet up with on Tinder, et al, because the awkwardness of guys on Tinder is an easy topic of discussion. I'm starting to collect the screenshots that girls pass on to me. It's a sad, cringy state of affairs.)

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How to get girls from chatting to actually meeting on Tinder?

You don't "get" anyone to do anything.

You put yourself out there. And in the end, THEY decide because they make their own decisions. This idea that you are either "getting" them to meet up or YOU are failing.... it's a little too harsh on yourself.
Text a few light messages or if something specifically strikes you from their profile, commenting on some of that can be effective.
After a couple messages, invite them out. Drinks of some sort are usually a good way to start because it is flexible in terms of how long it needs to go and leaves things open to move on to another activity if both of you want, or either of you can eject if you're uninterested.
If they opt out, then you're just finding out what was true all along: they weren't a real lead.

Bulk_king11 · 2017-06-29T18:16:10+00:00

Don't. I know many may disagree with me but tinder has changed from what it was when it started. It's filled with women who just use it for validation with no intent on meeting up.

Is this true in all the cases? No of course not but here is what you're left with on tinder. Hot women who are there for validation. Ugly women who may be willing to meet up but really aren't worth it. And of the women who are willing to meet up. They are going off your profile alone. So if that Shit isn't on point you're competing with thousands of other men. These aren't quality women and tinder is a waste of time if you ask me.

Go out and meet people

pratseek · 2017-06-29T17:47:06+00:00

Don't use words "Hanging out" or "Just chill"..Stop it

Say " i feel we have a good chemistry which i want to explore, i want to take you out on a date this saturday at 8.00 pm"

Phuffu · 2017-06-29T14:02:16+00:00

get their snapchat, then move after a few snaps. ask for a selfie and provide some too. they will be more likely to meet up then ime

Yankee_Fever · 2017-06-29T14:24:59+00:00

Title	How to get girls from chatting to actually meeting on Tinder?
Author	rehabinnature
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Date	June 29, 2017 9:56 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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