Should I hire an escort to lose my virginity and maybe gain more confidence?

mi24 · 2017-08-29T06:33:35+00:00

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yallapapi · 2017-08-29T06:17:19+00:00

Do it. If anything you'll realize that sex isn't as big of a deal that you're making it out to be.

Obviously it's better to go the organic route. That said I know plenty of guys who lost their virginity to a hooker and turned out ok.

My first time was when I was 17 with my half-sisters best friend at my half sisters wedding. Can't say that it helped shape my psyche in any particular way.

austrianvacation · 2017-08-29T08:22:28+00:00

I recently posted this, I feel like it will be a good idea for you to read it: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6uvos8/planing_to_lose_my_virginity_to_an_escort/dlvri6p/?st=j6xbimj8&sh=9642d5a0

Aside from that, I'd just say a few things.

An escort is not going to necessarily be "nasty and disease-ridden". The streetwalker you pay $30 to suck your dick at 4 AM on the side of the road might be, but most escorts that cost a fair bit of money (I'm talking $200+) will generally be in pretty good shape.

Also, it's all well and good for you guys to tell him to wait and fuck some special someone who will love him back, but let's face it. He's 26 and has no game. Even if he goes on the self-improvement journey of a lifetime, it'll probably take him at least another year to get some. Might as well get rid of the mystery surrounding sex and figure out where the hole is.

Good luck.

intercitty · 2017-08-29T07:11:13+00:00

sex will give you a couple of days relief and smiles... but I personally never paid for it. I feel it's more about the satisfaction of getting the prize after all the hard work. You take her out on a date, make her laugh, go for the kiss, touch her and getting resistance, she's playing hard to get... later you try again.. and after all that hard work you get to cum on her tits and hand her a tissue. You'd be skipping the whole movie just to watch the ending. [edit: grammar]

Tab371 · 2017-08-29T08:38:30+00:00

This gets asked every week in this sub or /r/datingadvice.

Definitely search for your answer there

2017-08-29T10:33:51+00:00

No, the biggest regret I have is hiring too many escorts. If I'd just saved my money I'd have clean laundry and a warm meal by now.

SwiftJun · 2017-08-29T11:53:38+00:00

Dan Bilzerian lost his virginity to a hooker. Look at him now.

Bmeaston · 2017-08-29T11:17:11+00:00

Escorts are actually quite attractive if you have upwards of $250. Much more attractive than the average cow you'll find around you. This is why you pay money to see them. So yes, go for it. But don't get addicted to doing it, because I did & it cost me a lot over a period of time. Wish I had that couple thousand now. Lol.

BaronRafiki · 2017-08-29T12:33:45+00:00

Go for it. Its just sex. The guys who don't usually go for it like the thrill of the game. If its just sex whatever works for you mate.

mi24 · 2017-08-29T06:03:30+00:00

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nysten · 2017-08-29T09:27:25+00:00

Well, sex for the first time is very often a disappointment from what I've understood. You are very nervous and have a half hard sausage that you can't really even have sex with. Though I'd guess an escort would have the experience to do it right and make you comfortable and relaxed if you explain the situation to them. Your call, if it's not too expensive, why not?

maxnarvaes · 2017-08-29T13:44:12+00:00

Do it if you just want to fuck and maybe gain experience fucking. But don't be fooled, you're not gonna gain confidence by paying a prostitute to fuck you.

musclesglasses31 · 2017-08-29T16:24:22+00:00

Sometimes your first experience gives a you pattern for life .. patterns are hard to break.

NixonR7 · 2017-08-29T12:45:12+00:00

You will always remember your first, people will always ask you who your first was. You can also always lie, if you can live with it why not?

Cr4zyC4nuck · 2017-08-29T14:24:19+00:00

I bet if you took what money you were to spend on a hooker and buy a gym membership maybe even a couple personal training sessions it would pay off way more. Something about giving a man a fish he eats for a day teach the man to fish he eats for a lifetime. Go eat for lifetime !

Noble_Sovereignty · 2017-08-29T14:26:55+00:00

It'll really just make you a John. You'll realize sooner than most that "regular girls" are pretty shitty lays and pros are pros for a reason.

mi24 · 2017-08-29T18:55:03+00:00

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allemande1979 · 2017-08-29T18:57:59+00:00

No. Don't do it. You seem very prone to shame and already have low self-confidence. Having a story like losing your virginity to a hooker that you can't tell anyone without feeling more shame seems like a worse situation for a guy with your sensitivity. Plus, if you think pick up is hard now, try doing it with an std. if you are any kind of a man, you'd have to start with, "Before we go upstairs, I wanted you to know I have herpes." Not shaming, but it's harder to find matches like that.

Start small. Just tell yourself you are going out to make out with a girl. The inside of a mouth is almost as private and intimate as the inside of her vagina.

SyrusDrake · 2017-08-29T22:01:47+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. I have never even kissed a girl and although I have female friends, I provoke the same animalistic lust in girls as damp, moldy newspaper. But I'm 27, so I guess you can take some solace in that?

With that said, I plan on seeing an escort right before I turn 30. I do want to do it because I feel it would make things easier for me. Not only would I feel so stressed and insecure about my virginity anymore, I also would become more "outcome independent", as they call it. I've already had sex, so why should I care about getting it again?
The reason why I'm not doing it right away is that, for some demented reason, I still think I can do it the "right way" somehow and until I'm 30, not all hope is lost. But by then, I might as well give up because it's not gonna happen if it hasn't happened until then. Also, I feel that just seeing an escort won't really fix self-esteem related issues. On top of that, I'm deadly afraid that I will become somehow "addicted". It took a lot of effort to cut porn out of my life, I don't want to fall for another, infinitely more expensive sex addiction.

SoreWrist · 2017-08-29T23:11:31+00:00

I honestly wouldn't. My family is the kind that always jokes around like 'oh have you got a girlfriend yet, why not? Are you gay?', 'are you still a Virgin' and what have you.

I lost the v card and honestly I don't feel any more or less confident. It's the changes I made that led to it happening that made the real difference.

2017-08-29T23:51:32+00:00

I'd say it's a toss-up. You probably won't regret it, but it's not the same as having sex with someone because they want to have sex with you. The feeling of knowing someone chose to fuck you because of who you are is a lot better than the sex itself.

And at 26, I honestly don't think it will change much of your life other than lifting a burden off your shoulders.

aidsjohnson · 2017-08-30T06:59:43+00:00

I did this, but be warned: it's really addictive if you have enough money saved up and you have an addict personality. Girls don't seem to like me without me paying for it, so this is pretty much all I do. It's depressing and simultaneously amazing. Good luck to you with whatever you choose.

(As a side note: I wrote a book about this. https://www.amazon.com/Escort-Project-Jeff-Winneke-ebook/dp/B01DTA00SO/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1504076348&sr=8-1&keywords=escort+project+jeff+winneke )

CarlosSpiceyWeiner99 · 2017-08-30T14:22:59+00:00

Having sex with an escort would be handy so you know what you're doing and will make the first time with someone you like better. But i won't forget my first time. It wasn't amazing but it's not meant to be. I would advice spending the money on new nice clothes, going to the gym to get confidence and using the money to go out to places you wouldnt usually to meet girls.

didled · 2017-08-30T19:02:18+00:00

Do it. Once I post my vCard things seemed to flow better with other girls

2017-08-29T14:54:16+00:00

Holy shit. This looks like something I'd read on r/incels or r/foreveralone. Wow.

I thought every guy here was a Chad. But if this sub is welcoming to FAs and all that stuff then sign me up.

BaconMeTimbers · 2017-08-29T16:41:11+00:00

Don't do it. Then you'll have the internal belief that you can only get laid if you pay for it. Read models by Mark Manson and also maybe some of the books he suggests in the back of the book. Then, take action. With each implemented success will gain you additional confidence. Sex will naturally follow soon after.

I think you'll be surprised how little you have to tweak about yourself to start getting laid, and maybe at that point, you'll also realize that the gift you'd given yourself is also so much MORE then getting you laid.

intercitty · 2017-08-29T07:35:44+00:00

NO, find a fat girl instead. Hookers are nasty, disease ridden and mean. You will either get robbed, cut or end up with a fez growing on your dick.

Find a lonely fat girl and do her, it helps you, it helps her. I guarantee you will at least be friends aftewards.

mi24 · 2017-08-29T11:12:24+00:00

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baconboozie · 2017-08-29T14:09:40+00:00

Your first time is something that you will always remember. If you want to spoil it and make it a cheap artificial and likely regretful experience, have at it.

thetahill · 2017-08-29T14:50:43+00:00

I'll take a contrary view to what I am seeing on the top comments.

I have nothing against two adults making an exchange like this, however, my question is "why, when it's pretty easy to get action?"

So, you spend $500 for two hours with an escort (or whatever the price is), and you get someone paid to like you and have sex with you for a few hours, but is that really going to cause you to go out and suddenly become a confident ladies man?

I doubt it.

That money could be spent on a gym membership, some coaching, etc. That's how I see it.

I compare it to these guys who spend $500 on cam girls, when for that amount they could buy a lot of self-improvement books, memberships, etc, to attract the real thing.

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Date	August 29, 2017 5:28 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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