hey boys, sent my buddy some dating advice earlier -- figured it might help some of you out too

Justmakeadecision1 · 2017-09-01T00:48:01+00:00

chicks just want a nice guy who's doing shit with his life

(As a chick): Oh my god, THIS. Nothing gets me excited like hearing about him going out and kicking ass with whatever he's doing.

Seriously, it doesn't even have to be something I'm interested in. That he is, and becomes excited about it, is usually enough.

DirkDieGurke · 2017-09-01T06:47:28+00:00

I'm so confused. People giving this post props get gilded, and people hating on this post get gilded.WTF is going on here?

I for one feel like this is a straight path to the friend zone. You have to be sexual in the interaction. But at the same time not come off as outcome dependent.

ImJustSo · 2017-09-01T02:32:31+00:00

Ya know what, I hate your fuckin profile, and man your energy grates on me, but I like you. The things you say are pretty close to how I feel and I might have ten years on you according to that profile, but good for you. I like that you've figured some stuff out early, if so. I am in an entirely different situation than you, or that you could be in, but the things that stay the same between our differences is enlightening.

2017-09-01T06:55:33+00:00

The number one thing is to have no shame. No shame about asking her number, no shame about asking her to come to your place. Nothing you want to do it wrong, nor will you judge her

gmol420 · 2017-09-01T08:44:50+00:00

Why is everyone getting gilded... Wow

Zoraxe · 2017-09-01T06:58:44+00:00

Tell your buddy someone on the internet is pulling for him. Life is really hard sometimes, but you gotta keep getting up and going after the love you want.

MrDeathApple · 2017-09-01T10:33:52+00:00

All this gold tho 😂

Edit: First reddit gold. It was well deserved. Thanks 😅

r0k0v · 2017-09-01T13:30:07+00:00

So from reading this and you're linked r/tinder post? You're high and feeling the good vibes and dropping advice and gold everywhere because you can and you're happy and why not? This is the kind of ent I can get behind.

SpinPlates · 2017-09-01T02:32:26+00:00

ironically, not talking about sex leads to you actually getting laid...

after like 150-200 messages of two normal human beings having a nice chat...

"oh, this guy isn't creepy as fuck"

"oh, this guy isn't gonna rape me"

"oh, this guy will listen to my stories"

"oh, he's actually interested in me as a person, unlike those creepy dudes who just wanna bury their face in between my tits"

once she trusts you, lines like "hey, what's your phone number?" work perfectly -- no tactics required

Um. This may work on shy/nerdy/average girls but it's not a good plan when dealing with high level women. Models, dancers, athletes, promoters and bartenders.

Everything you talked about would bore a high level girl to death. This is really terrible advice. Especially not talking about sex. You don't want to sound like a sex addict but you defiantly should mention it and make your intentions clear.

Your strategy is a very efficient way to get friend zoned. You should be so confident in your sexuality that mentioning it isn't a big deal and that you're calm cool and collected when getting intimate with a women.

Also your Tinder profile is horrendous. Do you wear a fedora in your Tinder pictures? Women don't use Tinder to feel safe, they use it for validation.

JodumScrodum · 2017-09-01T14:42:50+00:00

https://imgflip.com/i/1v4cgv

zbf · 2017-09-01T10:19:27+00:00

As a mobile user the amount of youtube links in this post makes me sick. See you when i get home.

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T23:15:12+00:00

I want to be showered in gold too! Oh wait, that came out wrong...

Justmakeadecision1 · 2017-09-01T11:27:29+00:00

Lol I see gold everywhere wtf is going on 🤔

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T12:53:44+00:00

What's the hell going here?

flippiefly · 2017-09-01T13:11:50+00:00

Wow so much gold 😨😵

nimeshism · 2017-09-01T13:13:52+00:00

So if we show our passion for gaming do we still get the girls.

Outlooker460 · 2017-09-01T13:42:18+00:00

If we plant a comment, will it grow into gold?

ElLetdown · 2017-09-01T15:34:05+00:00

You make some good points, but for the most part I think it's just about having your shit together and being direct.

Should you not immediately talk about sex? Of course. But to totally ignore it and expect to get some is ridiculous.

Plus, women using it just to be safe sounds incorrect as fuck. It mostly seems like a way to get some attention and occasionally go out and get laid. So, the entire reason Tinder exists

computergroove · 2017-09-01T16:18:56+00:00

"Rocket surgery"

WorkThrowAway125 · 2017-09-01T16:33:33+00:00

Hmm, in my practice if you don't escalate with some sexual talk or physical contact the girls just see you as a friend and things don't escalate further. Plus, recovering from this position is harder than if you made your intentions known from the start.

I do like your post though. Well written and lots of videos to provide evidence for your case and point. 10/10

ChrisLopar · 2017-09-01T17:02:28+00:00

Now I ain't saying OP is a gold digger...

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T18:26:13+00:00

ITT: dudes virtually sucking OP's metaphorical dick for imaginary gold.

tdhawan1 · 2017-09-01T20:24:32+00:00

You really cleared up the shitty advice around the internet. As someone who recently subscribed to TheRedPill your post landed right on time to stop me.

I liked how you explained everything by linking to a relevant video. Better than reading long paragraphs which I tend to forget the next day anyway.

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-07T16:47:15+00:00

I think you give some solid advice but I'm sure there are some exceptions where it may work to be more aggressive. Probably comes down to the type of girl and finding that out is not easy.

I like your profile too, seems like you have the most important thing (profession) figured out good job! If you're getting bored with tinder I would try forcing yourself to meet girls in public. I used to get a huge rush from doing that and most are open to it as long as your not creepy. Its what looking back changed me completely and made me more confident.

WhatHowWhy2016 · 2017-09-01T13:35:55+00:00

Gold

speed87 · 2017-09-01T13:46:14+00:00

This is some reaygoid advice! I have a girl in mind right now. I will use your advice and report back.

ShrutiandSpice · 2017-09-01T13:47:29+00:00

This is just my opinion and of course you can choose to ignore it. I can also elaborate if need be.

I understand the message you are trying to put out here. You're a hard working, accomplished guy who is proud of himself and knows how to treat women well. That is attractive- especially the hard working part.

However, the 2nd-4th paragraphs are slightly off putting because they give quite a 'nice guy' vibe. Just because you say you're different doesn't necessarily make you any better or worse than they 'sloppy one night stand' guys. Getting dirty messages and having skewed conversations about sex happens a lot on tinder and many men and women use it for that. To assume that girls will be attracted to you because you think that they deserve more and that you are essentially 'more' risks backfiring. Plenty of women are happy to swipe right on a guy whose profile seems more sincere and beyond just fucking but declaring yourself as 'not like other guys' might not always work in your favour.

I would suggest dropping the 'you deserve better' line for sure if not the other two paragraphs. Then maybe talk about how you're interested in more than just sex and nudes. The shit talking other guys is not really necessary to make yourself stand out. I think you know that.

ImBadWithGrils · 2017-09-01T13:51:01+00:00

Profile pic?

Runninback405 · 2017-09-01T13:55:42+00:00

this is wild

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T13:56:57+00:00

ITT: Basically your profile is garbage. But its also good.

armwx · 2017-09-01T14:05:05+00:00

Reddit Gold Digging. Count me in!

outroversion · 2017-09-01T14:34:35+00:00

HELLO!!!

2017-09-01T14:44:39+00:00

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spacemonkey1988 · 2017-09-01T14:57:36+00:00

OP, what are good opening messages?

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T14:59:00+00:00

Ummmm please help me out

mancozbi · 2017-09-01T14:59:02+00:00

I love your style. Great punchy stuff. You're energy comes through in your tinder profile and this excellent post.

Kittenmittens03 · 2017-09-01T15:25:46+00:00

Pretty sure this is the most gold I've seen in my life. Good advice btw. I've had good results with your approach attitude.

JHammertime · 2017-09-01T15:43:10+00:00

This is some great advice man! I really appreciate you taking the time to post this and sharing us all those links. Definitely gonna take some time to go through those.

I make the same mistake of over analyzing what I'm about to say or post to make me look "cool" and "attractive". When in reality, it's less about that and more about how she perceives you as a person. You can have the best and smoothest line, but it all comes down to the vibe that she gets off you.

Thanks again for sharing this!

ItsMakoFam · 2017-09-01T16:00:33+00:00

Just what I needed, even the criticism you're receiving can be viewed as positive. Thanks again man!

CuriousErnestBro · 2017-09-01T16:07:26+00:00

You are a master in marketing, the rest is showing that you are a normal guy.

Going through your post history, seems like I can learn a bit :)

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T16:11:16+00:00

Can I have gold too?

SeanLXXIX · 2017-09-01T17:23:23+00:00

That's a lot of ~~nuts~~ gold.

Kareemods · 2017-09-01T18:05:11+00:00

Love the YouTube playlist.

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T19:29:40+00:00

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2017-09-01T21:06:49+00:00

Not bad advice, really, thanks OP

E: /u/jacob_the_snacob the absolute madman with all this gold on this thread, thanks pal.

Trighorn · 2017-09-01T21:28:35+00:00

My eyes are blinded by all this gold

JafferFlaffer · 2017-09-01T22:03:21+00:00

s e l f i m p r o v e m e n t

ha! i baited you into giving me reddit gold...

but now i have r/seduction in my post history...

ShadowOfOrion · 2017-09-01T23:27:21+00:00

Cool story bro. Thanks for the Gold.

Sheroclan · 2017-09-01T23:31:34+00:00

It seems counterintuitive, but the less I focus on girls the more girls I attract.

I'm decently good looking but a bit heavy (sitting at like 87kgs atm), but im hitting the gym 3x a week and improving myself. Also just very recently started reading as well, something I never used to do.

I've gone out with four different girls in the past 2 months, three of which ended in 'lays' and the fourth I didn't want to sleep with, so I didn't.

I agree, live your own life, do your own fun shit and the rest kind of falls in line. I consistently read the 'inner game' sidebar posts as I feel like it's the most beneficial.

shiivablast · 2017-09-01T23:35:51+00:00

sneezes

jacob_the_snacob · 2017-09-01T23:39:16+00:00

I find the tone of this entire thing completely lacking self-awareness, sense of humor, humility, or maturity, but if it's one way of having success with women then I'm more educated for it, if not slightly more cynical than before I read it.

135Deadlift · 2017-09-02T15:10:51+00:00

Fantastic advice.

Also here for some gold 😎

HarveySpecter12 · 2017-09-04T02:03:03+00:00

Good post bro, thanks for sharing

Unstealthy-Ninja · 2017-09-07T16:23:35+00:00

This is some damn good advice. Am I too late for the gold party?

thedavida71 · 2017-09-07T21:27:28+00:00

Dont know how people can talk on a video outside near people I can barely stay focused when someone is around and im on the phone

nice content thanks for sharing

zoomzoom1998 · 2017-09-08T13:44:04+00:00

This is pretty much the best post on here. If I need a little reminding all I have to do is return to this post. Thank you!

Perry4761 · 2017-09-11T02:27:03+00:00

I heard there was gold to be had over here?

2017-09-25T11:59:59+00:00

Its raining gold here!!!

Xtermix · 2017-10-29T19:26:47+00:00

Help

2017-09-01T14:58:17+00:00

I came for gold!! 😁

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Title	hey boys, sent my buddy some dating advice earlier -- figured it might help some of you out too
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Upvotes	97
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Date	August 31, 2017 11:44 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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