How do I become less normal and serious ond my dates and daygame?

UJEdzwoni · 2019-07-24T19:07:30+00:00

I went on many dates after my breakup with my ex and most of them ended with her saying "I'm not feeling it". I too thought that I need to be some high energy flirt master who makes her blush and attracts her with funny lighthearted stuff.

This is not true.

Years have passed and I been on several dates where I've pulled home from dates where I almost said nothing. You see, it's all about being present with her, and confident that you just being there for her is enough. On those early dates after my breakup, I was trying to be someone cool for them. I was afraid of just being there, afraid of hugging her, afraid of holding her hand, and was all in my head "im not cool enough, im not being cool enough, im not attracting her". This will fuck you up.

When you actually stop listening to your thoughts, and instead listen to her, and speak in a calm relaxed voice like you would with a friend, attraction can start. Now you can put your arm around her back, tell her to follow you and take her hand and in the end kiss her. You can lead her to your place, without saying anything. She now wants to follow you, because you are one smooth ass mofo.

I'm not saying lighthearted and sexual talk should be avoided though, but if you are truly present with her, they will come naturally to you.

fromCovington · 2019-07-24T19:57:16+00:00

Your scared it’s that simple. Gauge the girls attraction to you and if she’s clearly attracted to you then get some polarity going. Does she laugh at your shitty jokes? Does she touch you or bump into you? Does she genuinely seem excited to be with you? Sometimes you just gotta tell her that she has an incredible body. If you catch her looking at your lips often then go for that kiss because she’s asking for it. When you walk beside her put your hand on her lower back and gauge whether she’s into it. Does she pull away or settle into your arm?

Most guys won’t do this shit and that’s where they fail. Most girls will want to fuck you by the 2nd or 3rd date if you get sexual polarity going.

MLoggins311991 · 2019-07-24T17:04:34+00:00

How is your touch game? Are you able to place your hand on yours briefly, caress the small of her back, give her hips a little squeeze? These little touches are key to showing sexual energy.

ThaUltimateWarrior · 2019-07-24T20:42:51+00:00

Just keep this in mind, if you go to a car dealership and the sales person talks about everything like the weather or other types of shit instead of selling you a car you would leave with a bad feeling.

You're selling yourself en what it would be like being a part of your life. Make this exciting and show her what your selling. Otherwise it's just pointless conversation that doens't lead anywhere

aepr88 · 2019-07-24T22:30:34+00:00

Touching speaks louder than words. I am sure there are wordsmiths out there that could make a woman wet only by his words. For us normal guys, our action and touching deliver messages better than words. Follow the kino ladders (google this). Keep escalating. If there is resistance, take a step back and try again later.

The point here is to demonstrate honestly that you want her. The most natural aphrodisiac is someone wanting you.

ELPOTRO2032 · 2019-07-24T17:43:24+00:00

Alvaro Reyes, one of the biggest ones Pua's of Spain recommends to make more Kino to sexualize the chat, things like hold her hand, touch her hair and just be more physical are the best ones to improve your performance.

YouNeverKnowAnyone · 2019-07-25T03:31:11+00:00

Drink milk

TigerChirp · 2019-07-24T22:12:31+00:00

Just talk to her like you’d talk to a friend with flirting involved. You don’t have to be gimmicky or weird. Act like you act with us.

YouNeverKnowAnyone · 2019-07-25T03:07:15+00:00

I just think about a girl as if I already fucked her. Then make myself laugh by fucking with her. Works every time when I feel the vibes.

IlikeFOODmeLikeFOOD · 2019-07-25T05:05:06+00:00

pull down your pants, helicopter that trunk, and make squacking sounds.

Rhyat250 · 2019-07-24T22:54:24+00:00

give the girl a Suplex like the famous quote from John Cenna " The quickes way to a girl heart it's threw a Suplex" trust me OP women love suplex it helps them with chronic Back pain so thas why they love it

moomoocowbrow · 2019-07-25T01:10:30+00:00

For me it’s all about crossing that boundary. In my head I always know I and the girl are aware when it happens. It could be a playful push, putting my arm around her, telling her she’s my gf for the night, hugging, etc. Its that one thing that takes a leap. Otherwise it will always be a platonic convo that leads no where. It’s never perfectly comfortable because in the back of your head you know you’re crossing the friends boundary. But it’s when game gets fun. And if they are receptive you’ve found yourself a girl.

TLove90 · 2019-07-25T04:40:59+00:00

Are you having fun?

Little_Potato_Boy · 2019-07-25T04:47:52+00:00

If you're looking for love, stay normal, be yourself. As for the seriousness, learn how to crack a joke or two during the conversation, keep a smile on your face so as to keep the mood relaxed and not have it feel like an interview, don't use any one-word responses so you do some talking too. Look her in the eyes as she speaks f One-sided conversations suck and make awkward situations quickly. Don't feel like you have to impress her as you may end up scaring them away. To add some sexual tension, try getting a bit closer to them and try flirting. Keep confidence in yourself bud, you can find the one who's right for you!

AllFunLife-com · 2019-07-24T17:43:05+00:00

It’s all about your energy, keep it fun, check this day game out https://youtu.be/O7FjUxpCyoU

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2019-07-24T21:34:46+00:00

dominant eye contact and talk an joke like you o with friends

n8zerdude · 2019-07-25T07:39:58+00:00

Join a local improv club. You'll learn how to make quick witted jokes on the fly and just "go with the flow" in general.

Also, listen to comedy standup, podcasts, and radio shows. You'll get an idea of what works.

You ideally want to strike a balance between humor and seriousness. Don't be a complete goof ball but show you can lighten up about things.

Timing is almost everything and it's less about what you say but how you say it.

Good comedic timing and voice tone are key.

Delivery over content.

Avoid self depreciation humor at all costs. That just reeks insecurity and makes her wonder how much of a "joke" it really is.

Teasing can be fun too, but don't over do it. There's a fine line between playfulness and ripping someone to shreds and hurting her.

Honesty is a good humor tool. Just "tell it like it is".

Also, never laugh at your own jokes. Ever. That just comes across as approval seeking.

Use humor as a purposeful tool to create rapport, not fill in the silence.

tuvok86 · 2019-07-25T09:56:44+00:00

Good

Wine

jeyon230 · 2019-07-25T18:27:53+00:00

For this particular situation Imma assume that your conversations stall in a neutral state: no lighthearted or sexual vibe. Since you stated that approaching and opening isn't a problem, it seems that the only real issue for you to resolve is to incorporate more physical touch and eye contact. Now I aint sayin to go ahead and touch her titties from the jump lmao, but there are ways to determine when she wants you to be physical or not (all of these pretty much go hand-in-hand, so if one of these methods does not work then none of them will work.).

From Introduction - when you introduce yourself to a girl (or anyone you don't know in particular), the first thing everybody does is handshake. What this means is that after you tell her your name, you reach your hand out for her to take. When she holds your hand, don't even shake hands -- just hold her hand gently. This allows you to gauge how interested and comfortable she is around you because you're observing how she holds onto your hand. If she holds onto it, she's into you and that can lead along the lines of hugging. If she doesn't hold onto your hand, it's more likely that she ain't really into you like that -- which is good because this means you don't have to waste your time chasing after someone who ain't even into you.
Stepping into her space - In the middle of conversation, step into her space to be physically closer to her. This allows you to gauge whether or not she wants you that close to her. If she steps back, she ain't interested. If she doesn't move (or even better, steps in closer to you), then she's allowing you to be more intimate with her and also radiates confidence and dominance off of you.
From compliments - (works best if she allows you to be intimate with her) Integrating physical touch with compliments raises sexual tension like a mfer, especially if you talk with a more masculine tone. An example would be complimenting her outfit, then placing your hands on her hips. If she steps away, then she ain't comfortable with you being that intimate with her. If she stays still, you might be able to hear her voice pitch go higher and maybe even smile at you. This can lead into running your hands along her hips and locking them behind her lower back and pulling her in.

Above all else: make sure you keep the natural eye contact, loosen up, stay masculine, be just enough fun for her to stay engaged but not too much to make yourself perceived as an entertainer, and most importantly: smile! This lets you tell the woman you talkin to that she can also smile around you, ultimately making her comfortable around you.

Hope this helped :)

NewbieCasanova · 2019-07-24T19:34:19+00:00

You have to establish premise, so what that means is instead of telling her "you like her or you're interested in sex". You instead give compliments, teases, and "push/pull" in ways that are sexualized. So for example replace cute and beautiful with hot or sexy. That way you set the tone of the interaction as men and women. You still are required to perform these in a calibrated way. That requires more approaching and investment in altering your ways of game/approach.

High energy attracts, that is a fact. That's why crowds are gravitated towards high emotions. Learn to express your energy and control the tone of the interaction.

NewbieCasanova · 2019-07-24T19:46:14+00:00

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MrMemper · 2019-07-24T23:33:28+00:00

Um...learn some game. Learn to tease. Learn kino. You have the hardest part taken care of

theCHAMPdotcom · 2019-07-24T19:52:03+00:00

Authenticity, speaking your mind, to an extent, where it's not off putting. You will find someone more compatible that way and have WAY more fun.

uptimex · 2019-07-24T21:55:39+00:00

Sure,the first is eye-contact. Remember the thing, if someone makes an eye contact more than 3 secs, he either wants to kill you or fuck you.

And the second, honesty. Be honest with girls 10 times, saying "I really want to have sex with you.

You can combine these two.

TheLoveGuardian · 2019-07-24T21:07:01+00:00

Stop looking down/going on your phone:

How To Be Confident When You Go Out In Public

Title	How do I become less normal and serious ond my dates and daygame?
Author	gunpas11
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Date	July 24, 2019 5:02 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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