Why Society Consider That It's Only The Mans' Fault If He Is Force To A S@xless Marriage?

gabriel-kornilov · 2024-07-26T09:51:13+00:00

Because men are wrong....always, no matter the situation. The upside of living in a "patriarchy".

Grimmjow18 · 2024-07-26T09:58:56+00:00

It's just the normal projection and aversion of accountability. Lesbian relationships are notorious for dead bedrooms and they frequently use the same excuses as in heterosexual relationships (housework, emotional labour, etc).

The reality is that the vast majority of women lose sexual interest in their partners once in a committed relationship. It would be beneficial to everyone to do some proper research into this phenomenon instead of just blaming men but oh well.

walterwallcarpet · 2024-07-26T09:15:07+00:00

"Once a man has given a woman what she wants, babies, within the security of marriage, she'd be happy for his sex drive to atrophy to zero."

Esther Vilar: 'The Manipulated Man'

=> NOT...... MAN'S ........FAULT

Successful_Video_970 · 2024-07-26T10:35:42+00:00

Double standards

pilotIet · 2024-07-26T09:51:36+00:00

Women exploit men. Easy. That's it.

It's not that deep.

ObviousTower · 2024-07-26T09:47:10+00:00

The woman will almost always blame the other, maybe it is an easy fix instead of assuming responsibility for her actions. But, maybe it is also a cultural way to deal with this issue.

On the other hand, it is really hard to keep a long lasting relationship and people are taking decisions without understanding the consequences.

Sparrowphone · 2024-07-26T13:09:24+00:00

"Sex" is not a forbidden word, you don't need to censor it.

Current_Finding_4066 · 2024-07-26T08:15:02+00:00

Mens sexuality has been vilified. On the other hand women's sexual needs are seen as wholesome. Have you not noticed how men are much more reserved when it comes to expressing sexual needs, while women are often in your face with the stuff? Decades of feminist propaganda have skewed the perception. Men have jsut adjusted not to be seen creeps.

Also decades of feminist propaganda how a man needs to do more for her pleasure, welbeing, etc.

The end result is that when a women does not want it, he is to blame. When she does not want it. He must have done something again.

Not to mention that people have more sympathy for women in general. There are lots of feminist and simps.

Reddit is not a place where a man can ask such question and get an honest and objective answer. And most therapist are women, and on top, during their training they are exposed to all sorts of feminist ideas. So, in the end men have few options to get help with such issues.

elebrin · 2024-07-26T12:50:53+00:00

My opinion is that most women don't actually want sex all that much.

To get a better idea, go look up lesbian bed death. When it's purely up to women to make a decision to have or not have sex, they will prefer to go without.

This is why, I think, a lot of women will get married, stay married for 10-12 years, have their kids, then get divorced. They can benefit from resource sharing for a few years while they are vulnerable, then when the kids aren't preventing them from working they can get divorced and not have to worry about sex again but still have some of his income. Some women will choose to stay married and just stop sex, and of course some women never bother with getting married in the first place. Regardless you will find women following this pattern all over the place: they get a man, they have their kids, then they are done with sex and men.

Sea_Treat7982 · 2024-07-26T15:58:13+00:00

My opinion is don't get married.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2024-07-26T14:55:35+00:00

It's generally the man that is doing the initiating every step of the way. From trying to plan when the best time will be to make a move, get a read on her, set the mood, flirt, escalate, how to get her alone, etc.

For women, it generally feels to them like it "just happens" (because the guy is doing all the setup) and all they have to do is go along with it.

There can be a lot of reasons that process breaks down. Maybe she no longer is receptive, the guy tries harder, but it doesn't work or it does work but the guy decides the effort isn't worth the reward. I think this happens often because women seem to think the male libido has no limits.

Ok_Plane_9007 · 2024-07-26T12:17:26+00:00

It's quite simple. They don't feel the responsibility to meet your needs and society is backing them in the choice. You can always choose to be with somebody else who will reciprocate your feelings.

This works both ways. If you want to find someone who will care about you and your needs, don't marry. As soon as they know you aren't going to marry them, a lot of them who are in the game just for that will leave. The good ones will stay.

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2024-07-26T11:18:22+00:00

I honestly don't care what society thinks.

I have requirements for my wife to keep to stay in a relationship.

Why is it bad to have requirements on your end. Long time no intimately or sex.

I could be the same as saying. What if I just say well I don't feel like paying rent or for groceries this month you got it right?

If value is pulled away from you don't be surprised when you pulling back value at the same time.

That's what a partnership is 2 people sharing values.

And for marriage, sex is a big one. Simple fact. Don't mean you need to have a sex demon that wants to do it 5 times a week. But I think lack of repeating investment and interests in each other both emotionally and sexual simulating ways is a big part how many relationships stop. As soon as things stop being easy.

So like one lose a job or get sick. People just dont get it's not just that you do stuff for each other like cook and clean. Or give money. But touch and sexual intimatecy is the other part of it.

Big part why bad boys often do keep girls cause sexual dominating your woman and keeping it hot and spicy in the bed room from time to time. Is how you keep a close emotional bound. And commitment even in hard times.

What people often forget.

So it's not what you do for your girl but also to your girl. That wil help a relationship last for much longer. And haveing strong boundaries on your side matters to that too.

Value has to be given to both sides. If lack of investment. On one side or the other. Love and loyalty will fade away Simple truth of life.

SadPandaPandaSad · 2024-07-26T08:17:31+00:00

It’s like the people on the internet don’t actually know the inner workings of every relationship. And they are just guessing based on anecdotes.

hasbulla_magomedov · 2024-07-27T01:54:42+00:00

They blame men and say it’s a reaction to a man’s actions (not taking accountability per usual). But to me it seems like women withhold sex from men and use it as a tool of power. It’s manipulative and toxic

ConfirmedCynic · 2024-07-27T09:40:33+00:00

If a man is in a forest and says something, and there's no woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?

SidewaysGiraffe · 2024-07-26T13:01:28+00:00

Because in sex, as in just about everything else, men (males, actually; it extends to boys as well sometimes) are perceived as always having the agency that women never do.

Clockw0rk · 2024-07-26T09:03:35+00:00

Antiquated gender roles and sexist bullshit.

A healthy relationship is about communication, compromise, and compatible interests.

If a man's sex drive is significantly higher than his partner's, he's not going to be happy. So why stay with that? Simple, because he prefers 'some sex' as better than 'no sex', or single life. Realistically, sex compatibility is something you should figure out with your partner before you make any motion to "get serious", because it's a deal breaker. You're setting yourself up for failure if you "need" to fuck 3 times a week and she's only down to fuck once a month.

If your partner is withholding intimacy from you until you buy them presents or "do more housework", that's not a healthy relationship. It's manipulative bullshit. Have some fucking self-esteem and break it off with someone abusing you.

Traditionalist values preach that the man is responsible for courtship and initiating sex, and that's just dumb. Women's liberation happened decades ago, and an awful lot of women need to pull up their big girl panties and start taking initiative themselves. But these gender roles are a woman-favoring form of sexism, so they're alive and well, and excused by so-called advocates of equality.

And, honestly, evaluate yourself. Introspect. Do you actually need sex that often, or are you better served with a bit of masturbation? Do you have an overactive libido? Are you conflating male gender roles of success and happiness with "getting laid a lot"? Do you even understand the reason why you desire sex in the first place?

This is not something that society tends to explore, the sexist narrative is that all men just want to get their dick wet and will go to virtually any length to do so. Most men, however, are far more multifaceted than just being a penis with legs.

Some of the best advice ever spoken was "Don't put pussy on a pedestal". And it's true. There is a lot more to life than pussy. There's absolutely nothing wrong with liking pussy, but if that's your reason to get up in the morning... maybe you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

mzbc · 2024-07-27T04:03:39+00:00

It’s because the signs are ALWAYS there from the very beginning. We can plainly see they are women and we marry them anyway. Result: sexless marriage.

momz33 · 2024-07-27T16:18:02+00:00

Its fine soon sex robots will be a thing and women won't be needed plus she stay where you leave her.

AmbitionOfTruth · 2024-07-26T14:37:05+00:00

Cons00mer society is female supremacist because the Russian-backed feminazis in American universities are tainting society.

We need politicians who will stop this.

Brw_ser · 2024-07-26T11:30:06+00:00

I will say in general men have stronger sex drives than women. I get attacked for saying this but I'll say it until the day I die. Sex is a need for most men, not just a want. Teenage boys get wet dreams and most of us wake up with hard ons. There are a few women like that but most of them have physiological conditions like a cyst on the pituitary gland or something. That's why when a man doesn't want sex it usually means there's a serious problem with the marriage.

On the other hand for women, sex is a 'nice to have'. They like it but they don't need it the way we do. That's why Lesbian couples have the least sex while gay couples have the most. This is why women need the right conditions to be horny more so than men.

Frankiegoesphishing · 2024-07-26T18:53:55+00:00

I have sex with my husband 3 times/week, and he acts like I'm depriving him because he wants it 3 times/day. Maybe our definitions of "sexless" are just different.

Title	Why Society Consider That It's Only The Mans' Fault If He Is Force To A S@xless Marriage?
Author	WeldFrenzy
Upvotes	222
Comments	67
Date	July 26, 2024 7:48 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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