Am I too old to change?

MrEiffel · 2015-08-20T10:33:23+00:00

Let me give you my track record to give you a perspective:

Degree: History (Most expensive toilet paper in the world!)

Age 22-28: dozens of shittie jobs with no future and crap pay. Got fired at 27 and couldn't find a job for a year.

Age 28: I'm a fat jobless alcoholic and my wife of 8 years leaves me. For good reason since I would fucking divorce myself at this point if I could. THAT is what you call a low point in life

Age 29: Got my shit finally together (sinking even lower would be homeless lol), got a job as a debt collector calling 200 people a days threatening them with whatever I could think up in order to make them pay. Lost 20kg of fat running 4 times a week (first run my max time was 25 seconds at 7 km/hour, after a year it was 10Km IN an hour).

Age 30: Saw a job offer in Paris, bullshitted my way through the interview (faking you can speak french is hard lol) and got the job.

Age 31-Present: Good job with a very nice salary. I ran the half marathon of Paris, slept with about 25 woman and I've got a fucking view of the Notre Dame at my appartment. Currently I'm in multiple job applications for a management position.

You're whining because you can't get laid while being fat.
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?

McLarenX · 2015-08-20T12:13:40+00:00

Early 30s is when women find men most attractive. Look at James Bond, prime Bradd Pitt etc., all early 30s men. Stop acting old and start acting young. By 21st century standards you're 30% done with your life.

Assuming I'm not, where do I even begin trying to change at this point?

Stop fucking whining. Seriously, get out of your self pity. Find some hobbies and do things that give you a sense of self-worth. Your 10 situps a day isn't cutting it either. Put down the cheeseburger (and your floppy porn-abused dick) and do some workouts that get you in shape as well as building testosterone.

robotghow · 2015-08-20T09:24:45+00:00

What a load of bullshit.

You are blaming your clothes, your career, your weight, when the main thing that is wrong with you is your attitude.

You need to go out there, knowing that you have value, and try and try again until you're able to sell it.

Let me address your concerns:

PhD student - that means you're smart. Find a passionate way to talk about what you do. That you're a student now just means you still have a drive and you haven't given up on life. Maybe you spent the rest of your time travelling and banging chicks. Who cares.
Clothes - just find some that fit. You should be able to dress yourself in less than 200$ a year. I know I do, because I hate fashion, and I still get laid while wearing 5$ t-shirts.
Don't know if you can perform? Go to a prostitute and find out! Jeez, it's not even dirty in your case. It's just an important health evaluation. I even heard there are sex therapists out there who would do it.

Just keep working out, read up on game, and realize that this game is 80% mental. And right now your attitude is why you're losing it.

RedPillJax · 2015-08-20T13:54:57+00:00

Yeah, as others have said - you're only going to be BP forever if you keep this attitude.

Start lifting. Go to H&M and buy $30 of their $5 shirts that fit, and two pairs of jeans. It'll cost $100, tops - and will last you a damn long time. Go get an escort if you're worried about performing, or go snag a dirty from the local watering hole to do some research on whether your shit works anymore.

You are going to get out of TRP exactly what you put in, period. Guys do this at 19, guys do this at 30, guys do this at 50.

You can fucking do it if you stop making up excuses why you can't.

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-08-20T10:59:47+00:00

The first thing you need to change is your fucking attitude.

I would go so far as to say that if you are here then you are at the lowest point in your sexual market value.

First off, you need to finish the foundation on the mansion you're building. FINISH YOUR PhD! Your house is going to be bigger than others', but it's not done yet, and you are comparing your lawn to theirs, when you're still pouring the foundation.

Make finishing your PhD your all-consuming passion, and read the red pill in your spare time.

workdavework · 2015-08-20T13:07:45+00:00

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What is this?

FrameWalker · 2015-08-20T14:17:03+00:00

No. 30lbs can be gone in six months. Fashion and grooming a few weeks. Go to it

Sepean · 2015-08-20T15:55:37+00:00

I'm 38. Married for over 10 years, the last 5 of those we had a dead bedroom and my wife was such a bitch. Now that I found the red pill she's pleasant company and acts like my private pornstar.

Just get off your ass, improve, lift, hold frame, approach.

And fuck your profession. I was a millionaire when I met my wife and I got wiped out by the financial crisis and make very little money now. My wife is horny and I get plenty of interest from other girls when I play dread games. It just doesn't matter when you're a fit alpha.

Questionablechoice · 2015-08-20T09:14:56+00:00

Your Prime SMV is like 30 - 40. You should be able to ride it out to 45/50

http://therationalmale.com/2013/06/20/smv-ratios-attachment/

Every specialization is impressive if work in properly. I talked about Encephalopods with some chick last week and showed a video of an octopus using camouflage to turn into a rock. She ate that shit up. She texted me 3 times the next day about how awesome that Ted Talk video was. I didn't even reply to the first one. It was a 30 second clip.

Jessie_James · 2015-08-20T13:00:37+00:00

Dude, I started figuring all this stuff out when I was 32. Your best years are ahead of you, I promise.

Start reading, find the book list, and get out there and practice.

[deleted] · 2015-08-20T14:28:06+00:00

I'm 40 and just realizing what my potential is.

You have about 50 years of life left. How would you rather spend them, the way you are now or like you have always dreamed you could be?

Stop thinking about it and just start doing.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-08-20T15:31:06+00:00

Assuming I'm not, where do I even begin trying to change at this point?

Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.

Read the side bar
Get up off the couch
Lift/run/swim
Repeat, daily.

You have to find your will to fight back as a man.

redpillcynic · 2015-08-20T12:16:10+00:00

Dude. You're at your SMV peak

SeekingTheWay · 2015-08-20T13:19:19+00:00

Overweight -> run. Been there, done that, lost 40 pounds in 5 months.

Myrpl · 2015-08-20T13:45:31+00:00

You're almost like me. I'm close to being 35 and asked that question a year ago. My answer is go fucking do it, not for the girls but for yourself.

Even if somehow all the dice rolls get cast and magically lose them all I will still be happy for getting further than where I would otherwise be if it weren't for red pill slapping me silly with its awakening call.

R984 · 2015-08-20T14:32:04+00:00

When you look at all your plroblems at once being paralyzed is inevitable. If you start tinking that you are getting older + you are overweight + you can't afford nice clothes + you are ugly + you are a 30 yo student + you don't know if you can perform sexually... dude, you will be buried by your own problems.

You need to divide and conquer. You now have a low SMV that is the sum of all kinds of flaws. What to do about it?

1) Lose weight. Run and lift.

A year from now bwing overweight won't be a problem anymore.

2) keep studying. And study hard. Women might not like a 30 yo student, who gives a fuck? It's your life, study hard, finish whatever you are doing. In "x" years you'll get your PhD or whatever.

In "x" years from now being a student won't be a problem anymore.

3) Don't let the need for validation rule your life. Don't be needy, focus on yourself. Never do anything for the purpose of getting validation from women. Study because you want a good job, lift and run because you don't want to be a diabetic by the age of 40.

If you see your problems as obstacles between you and the prize of women validation you will never solve 'em.

Try to solve the easier problems first: weight and academic career.

RPMahoutsukai · 2015-08-20T14:40:19+00:00

Without looking at your post:

No, you are NEVER too old to change.

After having read your post:

Yes you have a mountain to climb, but no that's not a reason to give up prematurely. You see, everyone has his own problems. And it's all irrelevant because it's relative. Yeah, you may have to work harder than that other guy to attain the success level he gets (spinning a harem of plates) but at the same time just getting regular sex will already be a breakthrough for you.

TRP has way more implications and use than getting laid. You will become a better man. You will become interesting to people, you will become a value giver. If you make effort, you'll learn to start and handle conversations and become good at social dynamics. You will improve your job and financial situation. You will eventually through hard work lose your excess weight and become well built.

Eventually, women will come too.

Mr_Get_Right · 2015-08-20T16:43:31+00:00

Are you dead? Then it's not over.

dandar4600 · 2015-08-20T16:58:59+00:00

Early 30s is still before your prime.

I have been regularly working out with a dedicated calisthenics regimen for the past year, but I am still about 30 pounds over-weight

That's because you eat too many calories compared to how many you burn. Go to /r/keto or /r/loseit and figure out what your TDEE is and eat about 500 calories less per day (includes drinks.) That translates to a pound per week. You will be thin in less than 6 months.

Also change your workout routine from calisthenics and start lifting. Do something like stronglifts 5x5. Kitchen will slim you down, lifting (on a cut) will give you proper form then once you're thin you eat 500 calories above your TDEE and start bulking. That's where the gains will start coming in. No secret to looking great, just hard work and knowing what and how much you eat.

I'm a PhD Student with a scientific specialization...

This is great, you will look the part (with diet and lifting) and have the money that PHD brings in. Dude in time you will be beating of chicks with a stick.

not a great conversation starter

Once you're done with your studies, get some hobbies. They are always great conversation starters.

In other words, you're a smart guy, with great career prospects. Just put in the work (lifting and diet) to look great and you will have it made. And stop with that bullshit of you being over the hill. You're only approaching your prime now.

Red_Invictus · 2015-08-20T17:17:12+00:00

No, you're not too old to change what you're doing, but you're too old to keep bullshitting yourself like this.

Please keep reading the sidebar, keep an open mind, and read up on Monk Mode.

Most importantly, you have to want to walk through that door and turn into a better you.

machimus · 2015-08-20T20:07:35+00:00

Yes. The fishing hole is over in /r/relationships.

Title	Am I too old to change?
Author	slooberki
Upvotes	14
Comments	39
Date	August 20, 2015 8:53 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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