What do you think about DNA test and prenups

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-10-12T22:49:07+00:00

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floracalendula · 2024-10-13T00:13:37+00:00

I'm all for two people sitting down with a lawyer in advance of marriage and agreeing as to how their finances will be separated if the marriage ends -- and then setting it aside and forgetting about it forever.

The DNA tests are a bridge too far. If you already know you won't trust the literal mother of your child to have been faithful to you, you are just setting an entire family up for heartbreak. So don't start one.

Inareskai · 2024-10-12T22:35:21+00:00

Mandatory DNA tests would come with so many issues outside of relationship based things - Who owns that personal information? Who can access it? Who stores it? Who is paying for that storage?

Mandatory pre-nups are slightly less concerning from a personal data position.

Personally I think it's a bit toxic to introduce them regardless of the other concerns, especially DNA tests. I think if someone doesn't trust their partner to that extent they probably shouldn't be with them to start with. It's not like DNA tests are pre-nups can't be done anyway, so if someone is that distrusting they can ask for them.

maybememaybeno · 2024-10-13T03:23:29+00:00

Prenup? Absolutely, not just to protect men but to protect women too. DNA testing can be fine as long as it’s something that is discussed early on in the relationship. I can see why any woman would be hurt / see it as a breakup-worthy offence if their longterm partner suddenly sprung that one on them AFTER they already got pregnant.

Crafty_Outcome_4654 · 2024-10-13T03:08:57+00:00

I think it comes down to a fundamental question of trusting your partner. There’s nothing wrong with being thorough but understand that it comes across as rude and ultimately that you don’t trust your partner.

If you want to do a DNA test it’s kind of weird but if that’s what you want then be consistent about that level of verification even for yourself. Don’t just make it seem like it’s a one way street. I can see it being a positive experience if you say I want peace of mind and I’m happy to open myself up to this level of verification in other areas if you want peace of mind on something.

As for prenup, I’d say just introduce it as a research project you both can do to learn more about it together. Don’t introduce it in a way to suggest that she’s a good digger that wants to take your money. There’s pros and cons to a prenup then decide together if that’s what you want to do.

sandgroper2 · 2024-10-13T07:16:54+00:00

Prenup? 💯 Especially now that women have as much to lose, there should be no disagreement.

DNA? If she wants kids she can take a hike. But, yeah it's a consideration for many. On the one hand, if she doesn't cheat she shouldn't have a problem. On the other hand, there's your lack of trust. You're accusing her of being a cheater with no evidence. If you have evidence that's a whole other discussion. And she'd probably be justified in wondering if you're projecting.

ConsultJimMoriarty · 2024-10-13T20:00:26+00:00

Don’t have a baby with someone you don’t trust.

2020mademejoinreddit · 2024-10-13T12:34:02+00:00

These two are not inherently bad. Depending on the context. But the way those grifters are promoting it, is brain-dead.

If you are exceptionally rich and you made that money on your own, man or woman, and the one that you're with, isn't on your financial level, then yes, a reasonable prenup is in order.

Same goes for DNA test. If you sense something is wrong or if the timeline doesn't make sense or if the child actually comes out looking like something it shouldn't, yes, DNA test can be in order.

But if you're a both financially well-off, a prenup is not needed.

And if your spouse hasn't shown any signs or nothing suspicious has happened and you actually have a healthy and happy relationship, then DNA test is the bullet that's going to put the first hole in your relationship and then it'll break down from there.

So you see, these topics are serious and not something that should be handled flippantly, which the grifters do. Think. The gelatinous mass up there in your skull is not just there to waste oxygen.

tawny-she-wolf · 2024-10-13T19:00:48+00:00

I think DNA testing is fine if: - you have legitimate reasons to worry about parentage (prior cheating for example) - both partners agreed before getting pregnant/married - you're not in a committed relationship (one night stand, fwb etc) - you're already splitting up (and want to make sure in the context of child support)

Aside from this, there's no way around the fact that you're accusing your partner of not only cheating, but keeping the baby and making you pay for/raise it. If you really have to do it, do so in secret and go to therapy. Also, if you hate that woman so much, maybe don't reproduce with her in the first place.

It being mandatory, while it would cancel all the angst, also means that the government and/or some private labs would have everyone's DNA on hand. Not great when you see how poorly secured data is these days. It would also be odd for couples that use one or more donors.

As far as prenups are concerned, I think it's not a bad idea as long as they're fair, which they are supposed to be but not always are. Both partners need to lawyer up. Again this is also something that should be discussed well before being engaged, not sprung on the partner (of either gender) 2 weeks before the wedding.

worship_your_goddess · 2024-10-23T13:55:40+00:00

Imagine being so psychotically paranoid that you make the mother of your children take a DNA test. I would leave him on the spot for showing me he doesn't trust me and that in all probability he has much deeper mental issues.

Leave him quick if you want to dodge that nuclear bomb.

WWhiMM · 2024-10-13T14:11:53+00:00

DNA tests make sense to me, because I think cheating is actually fairly common even among otherwise good people. To me, cheating is mean but it isn't a huge deal, but raising someone else's kid is a lifelong endeavor that absolutely requires consent; so, DNA test, sure.

But, what I've realized after reading lots of these discussions: some people think cheating is a really big deal. Like, accusing a woman of cheating is basically like accusing her of murder. Even without a direct accusation, just the implied accusation of asking for a DNA test, you're saying she's a total scummy trash person, undeserving of love and beyond redemption.

The point is, figure out what a DNA test (or a pre-nup) will communicate beyond the superficial level of "I'm feeling insecure, and I want this external guarantee to help me feel safe."

daisy-duke- · 2024-10-13T06:39:30+00:00

Neither should be forced.

SweelFor- · 2024-10-13T07:54:02+00:00

For what purpose?

ChrisHanKross · 2024-10-16T20:36:42+00:00

To play devil's advocate, DNA testing is VERY good to avoid careless nurses mixing up babies, which happens more than people think.

Prenups are merely an insurance policy against the marriage failing like car insurance. Plus, it helps prevent financial ruination of either spouse. (I'm a gay man BTW)

SeekingPurpos3 · 2024-10-12T23:38:22+00:00

Maybe don’t get a promiscuous partner if you can’t trust them? I mean I can get some ppl have trust issues, in that case one should be enough and that’s it, even then that’s sumn u gotta work yourself

Title	What do you think about DNA test and prenups
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