sex for first time with more experienced girl

EntertainmentTime141 · 2025-01-09T20:50:34+00:00

If you and her are in a position to have sex (ie home alone or watching movie in your room) then it’s pretty reasonable to assume she wants to have it. Either way, YOLO and go for it.

Don’t be a creep either; hand on thigh first and gauge from there.

Kaihua- · 2025-01-09T20:53:15+00:00

first time's not gonna be so amazing, speaking from experience. just go with the flow and foreplay

vladiVP · 2025-01-09T20:41:22+00:00

More warm up and passion bro

Riparony · 2025-01-09T20:48:54+00:00

Just be honest bro. A lot of females treat taking a man’s v card as a trophy just as men do the same to females.

I’ve told all the girls I’ve been with that I’m inexperienced and non of them have ever been turned off. most are just like ok that’s cool.

Lying to her will turn her off far more than just saying you’re inexperienced.

JXphile4 · 2025-01-09T20:54:14+00:00

Edit: don’t listen to the commenter who said to tell her you’re a virgin lol DO NOT DO THAT

Go with the flow brother. Spank her ass, pull her from her hip bones between her belly and upper thighs when in doggy. When she’s riding you straighten out your legs. When you’re making out, pull her head back by her hair and suck on her neck.

Do things that can show you’ve done it before, like the things above. The part that may give it away that you’re a virgin is your thrusting rhythm.

Have fun. Do what a man does. Conquer. Be in control. You tell her and move her to what position you want. Start with missionary and go to doggy after a short time, girls love doggy and don’t want to stay on their back for much time.

deaAdSS · 2025-01-09T21:47:57+00:00

Read She Comes First by Ian Kerner. My ex thought I was stacking bodies when all I really did was read that book.

Struzzo_impavido · 2025-01-09T21:02:04+00:00

Dont say it is your first time or that you are nervous. Thats cringe, sorry

If asked dont lie but dont just spew it out

Fake it till you make it

And just have fun

YinMaestro · 2025-01-09T21:18:06+00:00

If you fuck up, be like ope, I'm rusty.

-PinkPower- · 2025-01-10T00:45:03+00:00

Tbh I would much rather the dude tells me he is inexperienced. If he doesn’t tell me and sex is shit, I will assume he is just shit at sex and is unlikely to improve. if he did told me I will assume it’s just inexperience and he can improve.

I would only mention it when it’s clear sex is happening very soon tho

Dizzy-Bench2784 · 2025-01-09T20:43:20+00:00

Watch some netvideogirls and Pierre Woodman

mentaldetoxx · 2025-01-10T06:30:41+00:00

Alex of Playing With Fire did a great live demo of sexual escalation. Highly recommend giving it a watch if you're a total beginner https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bv6g_hLMecc As far as my input, just take it slow and go in baby steps, use common sense. Light touching -> more intimate touching (hand holding, grab her thigh) -> light kissing -> little more tongue -> kiss her neck -> cop a feel of her breasts -> keep making your way down, etc, you get the idea. Dont take this as a super strict, rigid step by step to do list though, treat it more like a general guideline and example of sexual escalation. If she pulls back during any time it's ok, pull back as well, keep vibin and try again later. Just be confident and don't hesitate or appear nervous; you're a man. It's ok to be assertive with your intentions as long as you're doing it in a socially calibrated way, most women will appreciate it, especially if she's already comfortable with you. AND DO NOT, I REPEAT ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TELL HER YOU'RE A VIRGIN. She doesn't need to know and it doesn't help you if she does know; quite the opposite actually.

Flat_Elevator_7479 · 2025-01-10T10:24:45+00:00

Boxing match brother. I know it’s sound not tangible but try to answer to her movements. If she leans toward you do the same, If she does something to you example kissing your neck or bitting your ears she is most likely gonna like it too. It’s like asking how I kiss someone well there is not a tutorial you need open your senses and try to answer reciprocally to her/ it. In chess we say if you don’t know how to open the game just copy what your opponents is doing. It’s just my opinion as a 25 years old guy started to have sex at 17 , slept with 30 women’s different. My first time was insane I just didn’t find the hole but she helped it was a 1h sex. I had a game plan I went on the hub how to have sex tutorial, noted the technique, trying the position on my bed see if I can physically do it the night before and 2h before sex I just rewatched the video and my game play. She was older than my from 5 years and she said not bad for a first time (DONT SAY ITS UR FIRST TIME I TOLD HER AFTERCASE, IT TURNS WOMEN OFF) and she called me back. If you gonna lick her please don’t be shy as me go all in brother and try please to be attentive. If you lick right and she breath differently then you need to explore. If you do it more frenetically and she likes it etc.

Also you are MADE to have sex and reproduce so it’s in your gene don’t stress be the man

Onzalimey · 2025-01-09T23:32:06+00:00

No way out but through. Just go for it. Try to enjoy it and not overthink and move on. Most first times is bad so just enjoy it if you can.

No_Assistance_5565 · 2025-01-10T04:34:55+00:00

This is gunna sound fucked up but be more loud while giving head. They love it as much as we do.

K_oSTheKunt · 2025-01-10T00:16:14+00:00

Lick it before you stick it. Make her cum and she'll want more.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-09T20:46:57+00:00

If you make something that’s a turn off for herX you take theL and learn for next girl. Don’t assume that just because someone has had sex before they know much more than you or that they are good in bed.

nalik95 · 2025-01-09T22:25:13+00:00

If you're not sure about something, just talk to her. Don't tell her you're a virgin. Each party wants to have a good time, your goal personally should be please her, which means you have to communicate to know what she likes and what works for her. If you're a very intuitive person and can ready body cues etc, you could probably tell what she likes and doesn't from that as well. Just get out of your head and pay attention to her. It's not a solo act.

FitHermit9351 · 2025-01-09T23:22:42+00:00

Depends.. How old are you both?

taojoels · 2025-01-10T07:40:52+00:00

Trying to be a perfect lover will make you a frustrated lover. Your first time is not a big deal, will wake the next day and say “I really over hyped that in my mind” Be honest that you don’t have experience but that you’re interested in experiencing her as well…you know…as a fellow person. It’s flattering if someone is willing to share their first time with you. But don’t forget to let her know that there’s qualities about her that draw you to her and you see her as a person you’re comfortable with and can be normal. Make sure she knows that she can tell you what she likes and doesn’t like and emphasize that she can communicate what does and does not feel good without you taking it personally! That’s a big one. Sex becomes progressively more fun, the more you have it and get to know another persons likes and dislikes so it’s a time thing. Good luck, be easy going, be fun, make sure you’re an easy person to communicate with during all of it.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-01-10T07:43:36+00:00

Just go to Stirling cooper yt channel and watch his vids.

My_Pickup_Journey · 2025-01-10T08:21:46+00:00

Yeah, it's not going to be good sex. Reading books and watching videos will only help a little.

Go slow and sensual, mostly because you need to figure out how everything works. Take the time to learn it so next time goes better.

Dandys3107 · 2025-01-10T09:50:27+00:00

I suggest to do your homework, check how women like to be touched, what is proper escalation ladder and common sex techniques. Usually being virgin is not a problem at all, as long as you have some idea what you are doing, watch girl's reactions and don't feel pity for yourself. Even if you do something awkward you should just brush it off or ask the girl how she would like to be caressed. It's very common that first time doesn't go as planned, including premature ejaculation or problems with erection. The point is not to worry too much and embrace what comes out. If girl is on the "normal" side, she should perfectly understand it.

trustmeiminnocent · 2025-01-10T10:40:56+00:00

My fun story was my first time she thought I was way more experienced until we got there LMAO couldn't even put protection on 🤣🤣🤣

good luck!

meetmehra · 2025-01-10T11:24:35+00:00

Just go with the flow, if you did great tell her that was your first and she will be amazed.

If things didn’t hold up, lol you can mention its your first time.

Both ways you winning

Available_Will_175 · 2025-01-10T11:48:41+00:00

I (21M) told my more experienced girlfriend (19F) that she would be my first before having sex. She was surprised at first but it really eased the situation. You have nothing to be ashamed of and with great chemistry you will seem experienced, trust me.

Chicagoj1563 · 2025-01-10T15:28:35+00:00

Stop worrying about what everyone thinks about you so much. Those are insecurities, which is understandable in your situation.

Just go for it and just let it happen. An experienced girl will take the lead for things if needed. Right now, just get the experience.

Don't worry so much about your reputation with the girl. Whatever the outcome, except it and don't make a big deal about it.

You have to go after what you want in life and not be so worried about outcomes so much. It's mostly what women want from you anyway. And this includes sex.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-01-10T21:48:58+00:00

I wouldnt say anything. If your just looking to hookup why shoot yourself in the foot. Dont get nervous (nerves kill boners), relax and just go for it.

Honestly from what i hear from female friends. Most dudes (even the experienced ones) dont know what they are doing down there. Id read up on how to pleasure a woman. On how to eat her out. Focus on the clit.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-01-11T09:20:39+00:00

Go with the flow or adress it, women dont mind, quite the oposite.

EvanMcCormick · 2025-01-11T19:27:29+00:00

Yeah, sorry man, don't tell her you're a virgin. Just don't. It's a bad idea, ~80% chance she'll be turned off by it.

The people who are like 'be yourself!' are re-iterating a common platitude that, unfortunately, specifically doesn't work in this situation.

There are a few things like this in the dating world, which are going to turn off a lot of otherwise receptive girls. If you want to turn off those girls and filter for the girls who will be down to fuck regardless, then go for it! But be aware that the vast majority of girls will be turned off somewhat if you say you're a virgin. Same if you say you're 5 years younger than her, or that you've never kissed a girl before, or that you've never been in a serious relationship. Most girls are attracted to more experienced, more confident guys, without really thinking about it.

Title	sex for first time with more experienced girl
Author	Melodic-Comedian-704
Upvotes	74
Comments	41
Date	January 9, 2025 8:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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