The meme that inspired the post:

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT2TS5J5w/

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT2TSuHdp/

“Every time I think about love again, I remember how my ex-husband left me looking like” which seems to be code for “Its HIS fault that I let myself go!”

You let your hair get raggedy, you stop wearing makeup, stop wearing nice clothes, ballooned, but you think you’re not part of the reason the relationship fell apart?

Now the typical excuse I see is ‘men will just drain the life out of you and your spark’. Putting so much into a relationship that you neglect yourself is YOUR FAULT. This isnt the 1950s where you have to financially depend on a man, you’re just desperate and codependent.

If the guy isnt reciprocating, either put less energy into the relationship or leave immediately. Now, I have sympathy for young women in their first (bad) relationship. Thats part of learning. But if you’re really grown AND have no children with him, giving it your all to a guy is just foolishness.