What kinds of things do you say to her when dancing so that you can escalate and try go in for a kiss?

Plastic_Friendship55 · 2025-04-03T15:39:45+00:00

Word will usually kill the vibe. Use body language and escalate when the vibes tell you to.

PTE_911 · 2025-04-03T14:41:54+00:00

“ pucker up Buttercup” you are welcome

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2025-04-03T17:12:17+00:00

Women don't usually respond well to words. They respond much better to actions. I don't think I've ever said anything before a first kiss.

You don't have to say anything, with just the dance + a look you can get her in the mood for her to want you to kiss her.

byzrs · 2025-04-03T13:13:43+00:00

literally don’t say anything just get closer, pull her in and do it. yes this works majority of the time.

MysteryLiezer · 2025-04-03T18:21:00+00:00

Before spoken language, our dance moves were the words we used to seduce.

EvanMcCormick · 2025-04-04T03:37:47+00:00

I've kissed a girl when dancing once before and it was all physical escalation. Just get your face close to hers (we're talking a couple of inches, like slow-dance close), make brief eye contact, then look at her mouth, then back, etc. and if it feels good you go for it. I also follow the 90% rule when going for a kiss, which is to say you go 90% of the way in, and stop there. If she wants the kiss she'll go the 10% to meet you. If she doesn't she'll slip you like Mike Tyson.

I hate to burst the bubble of the 'always ask for consent' crowd, but in practice building up to a kiss with a girl is almost always non-verbal. Which is not to say you can't straight up ask to kiss a girl, just that it isn't what girls generally expect and can be a turn off for the girl.

unevendopamine2 · 2025-04-03T19:01:39+00:00

Don’t say anything…

Learn back and pull her closer to you…

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-03T19:10:35+00:00

Gauge interest level. Don't grab someone and forcibly kiss them. Lean in and at least give them a second to decide if they want to commit as well. If she makes the effort to lean in towards you, that's the best scenario. If she turns her cheek, that's okay as well; respect her boundaries. Don't do anything slimy at a club like grab their butt or grind into them. If it's your girlfriend and you know beforehand she's into it, fine, but not someone you're meeting that night.

burncushlikewood · 2025-04-03T22:23:00+00:00

I don't know..there's no canned phrase that will get you in, and i don't recommend trying to have a boring long conversation in a loud night club, instead focus on your body language. After you approach and dance with her, back away and dance by yourself, this will make her more comfortable with you. I once saw a guy dance with a girl, then back away and lean on the wall, he then went in for the kiss, the girl was hot and he was super smooth

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-04-04T02:25:48+00:00

There's too many variables on the dance floor, it's a horrible place to escalate/talk to a girl. Especially with loud music drowning you out.

Isolate her away from the dance floor to vibe and escalate.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-04T02:49:23+00:00

In the club? I say nothing. I just follow the kino ladder until we kiss, can be quite fast. Sometimes being seconds after the approach. But more resonably, kissing happens after I have isolated her away from the friends. Usually this means slowly dancing away from the friends.

The only time I talk is when I logistically pull the girl to a quieter place of the bar, allowing me to build comfort.

See my post on nightclubs to learn the flow.

esimpstyle · 2025-04-06T17:38:58+00:00

Inflate your cheeks and just kiss her as if you were Miss Puff. Or even like the scene of “Cloudy With A Chance of Meatballs” ;)

Conscious-Smell-8844 · 2025-04-03T15:17:28+00:00

If you are inexperienced - tell her to close her eyes and just go for it.

I got this from PUA Todd V

Ciabbata · 2025-04-03T17:41:32+00:00

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Realistic-Load-1302 · 2025-04-03T13:13:37+00:00

There is a method actually. The green-yellow-light principle when physically escalating is what worked the very best for me. It’s not gatekeeping, but I would like to help you with that via dm because that way I can understand your particular situation better, feel free to reach me anytime.

Title	What kinds of things do you say to her when dancing so that you can escalate and try go in for a kiss?
Author	todhewitt
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Date	April 3, 2025 1:08 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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