What to do if girls leave you on read?

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deuxbulot · 2025-05-04T19:08:45+00:00

Leave it be for now, if she gets back then cool. If not, then don’t open the communication again. Or even block if you like. More for you than for her. Since she seems to be living rent free in your mind. Life is short. Your youth, much shorter. Give energy to girls who want to be around you.

Any time you get ignored for a couple days, assume she’s exploring her other options. Which is fine. But don’t be sitting around waiting for her replies. Because she’s not waiting for you in turn.

Best thing you can do for yourself in the current meta of dating is multi-date until you go exclusive. But until that time, don’t make yourself unavailable to others while you wait on a girl who may not even work out. Don’t waste your time. It’s limited.

Chiiiicckkeeennn · 2025-05-04T18:25:38+00:00

The issue isn’t her it’s you. Learn how to love yourself

topher_atx · 2025-05-04T18:43:21+00:00

Move on and never message them back ever again under any circumstances. Women love to collect options, so don't let them collect you as an option.

aeturnus95 · 2025-05-04T18:30:28+00:00

It depends on context man. If the girl is genuinely busy but is still interested in you she might just be the type that drags it out. Sometimes those are worth being patient for. Sometimes they are not.

SecretTechnology5270 · 2025-05-04T21:54:14+00:00

i gotchu bro everyone's on the seduction sub giving you everything but seduction tips and it's frustrating how everyone becomes a therapist online.

This worked for me, may not work for you,but recently a chick left me on read and I was quite disappointed. Then a friend of mine (a dude) who was talking to me on the side sent me a picture of a lion, kinda like in those funny alpha male meme posts (totally unrelated),

so I sent her that picture and wrote

"is this defeat?she replied "nuh uh" and I saved the game.

hope that helps

Kitchen-Historian371 · 2025-05-04T19:04:34+00:00

Getting ghosted doesn’t mean anything, it’s literally just part of the business. Like strikeouts in baseball

Healthy-Falcon1737 · 2025-05-04T18:24:22+00:00

Because you had to ask or you have oneitis yes... Block her so you can move on faster. She really wouldn't know and she doesn't care. She is not thinking about you at all.

A1Horizon · 2025-05-05T01:57:35+00:00

I think people are far too concerned with this whole “nice guy” thing, to the point where they trip over themselves over the smallest things.

If she hasn’t responded it’s most likely two things going on, she opened the message and planned to respond but forgot to (happens to me all the time) or she’s actively choosing not to respond. In either circumstance your best move is to do nothing

unevendopamine2 · 2025-05-04T18:57:02+00:00

I give it a week then hit her up again

After that get on with your life

Xab123 · 2025-05-04T18:43:52+00:00

Do the same back if she ever text back

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-05-04T18:51:10+00:00

No it’s not a good idea. This is actually a good practice for you to accept a reality that someone you like doesn’t like you back.

Moving forward there will be lots of things in life that will shake your self esteem or don’t give you what you expect. Learn how to accept it in your mind as a bitter reality and move on.

That’s just leaving you “on read”. Imagine if the girl is your classmate or your coworker that you see every day. Are you gonna avoid her every single day? Of course not. Put that poker face on.

spacecowboy993 · 2025-05-04T18:28:59+00:00

The truth is you do care, turn off her notifications, block her and her post. Move on to other girls that are actually interested.

Boobzillagirl · 2025-05-04T20:42:00+00:00

that girl wasn’t really into you tbh

lackatacker · 2025-05-04T20:43:29+00:00

If you ask this, it means you care for her. Imo just forget her and never text again, until she comes back or never.

random_question4123 · 2025-05-04T21:26:51+00:00

What is there to do if she leaves you on read? Just leave her alone, the silence is loud. She doesn't want to continue the conversation.

Of course, it might not always have to do with you and could also just mean she had nothing else to add to THAT conversation. Up to you to gauge whether to continue another day or not.

Regardless, this shouldn't even be a question. You're thinking about her enough to post about her on Reddit while she's not thinking about you at all. Why even mute her stories? Do you lack self-discipline or what? That's feminine behavior.

stevarino1979 · 2025-05-04T22:14:50+00:00

"FDB"...... Young Dro

OriginalMandem · 2025-05-05T01:44:04+00:00

Generally I just leave it. They either message me back apologising, weeks sometimes months in the future, sometimes that's the last I hear from anybody.

Doppelgen · 2025-05-05T02:03:38+00:00

Best tip I can you is: FORGET her until she shows up again. Do NOT message her again unless you have solid evidence it’s necessary, e.g., this person is know for recurrent depressive periods so you must check if she’s fine.

In all other situations, you ignore her as well, and when she gets back, you don’t go sycophantic either; answer at a quite conservative pace:

To prevent going to the Read list again, you’ll time her conversations with her: try to make this conversation as engaging as possible, and as soon as you feel you won’t be able to keep up, you say you must go.

If she eventually messages you, you may even decidedly ignore her for a day or two too… except if it’s WhatsApp because it shows you are online, so that would be impolite.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-05-05T02:09:56+00:00

First of all dont take it to personal. While is not normally the case, women sometimes are too busy and forget to reply among other things, I do that as well and Im sure you do, so keep it cool.

What to do about it? dont lash out at her or anything, ignore, and text her latter; if she ignores or acts cold, bitchy, or whatever, move along to the next.

codingIsfuner · 2025-05-05T04:59:50+00:00

Nothing

saryiahan · 2025-05-04T19:15:28+00:00

Move on

FanAccomplished7407 · 2025-05-04T19:31:24+00:00

It’s simple you just move on why would you want continue to waste you’re time on someone who doesn’t care to talk to you if they really wanted to talk to you they wouldn’t be ignoring you

RealisticDiscipline7 · 2025-05-04T20:04:37+00:00

You say you dont care if she ever texts back but “not wanting to look like a nice guy” is caring. So, just accept it’s out of your control, acknowledge to yourself that it hurts when ppl do that, and move on to someone/something else.

PrinceDestin · 2025-05-04T20:25:09+00:00

Call her, if that doesn’t yield results you want forget her

18yoboob · 2025-05-04T18:37:29+00:00

just do whatever gives you your peace of mind, we all deserve one..

Title	What to do if girls leave you on read?
Author	cuzimicyspicy
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Date	May 4, 2025 6:17 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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