I have a high body count but I suck at cold approach with regular pretty women

Effective_Flower_214 · 2025-06-29T11:34:55+00:00

Walk outside. See pretty girl. Think to yourself "This is the last time I'll see her". And say "Hi what's up". Let the conversation go from there. Repeat 5 times per day.

AlexCosta · 2025-06-29T12:29:35+00:00

It’s hard to imagine someone who apparently has a “high body count” doesn’t know how to approach women… just be who you are that’s giving you this much success and repeat it… it’s not that hard. Someone who isn’t used to getting laid would be a lot more hesitant to approach.

You even stated that you go to bars and clubs… I get that they are on the kinkier side, but are you actually approaching people in these places or are you the one getting approached? If you are not doing enough approaches in those areas, consider doing more approaches to build your confidence.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2025-06-29T15:39:40+00:00

You just have to start doing it.

Do it 1 time, and it's way less scary. 2-4 times, and it's like it's nothing.

annaagata · 2025-06-30T11:35:55+00:00

You can’t compare the street with dating apps and swingers clubs. With the latter, you know people are there to have fun. On the street, there are literally all people going about their regular day. Even in normal bars, the chances that someone will be on the same page AND trust you enough are slimmer. Just because you are dealing with this in your life right now doesn’t mean the other people are attuned to it too.

Unless you are an objective beacon of hotness, which usually comes with a very confident outward appearance, the chances are slim.

Possibly lower your goal in these conditions from picking up a girl and sleeping with her to just saying one thing to her. Even if you don’t want anything more than sex, you still have to vibe with them first…way easier to do that when meeting someone through a friend tbh.

Aktive_IV · 2025-06-30T15:18:07+00:00

All you need is a solid ice breaker & always use your environment to your advantage, treat getting her # like a bank robbery your going in to get the number as smooth & as quick as you can & once you get what you want you dip

AtDaLastMinute · 2025-07-03T13:00:33+00:00

So strange that I don't have any issues approaching and getting things going with "normal" women. It's the lack of body count that hinders my confidence at the end.

Calm_Cow_2106 · 2025-07-04T12:03:02+00:00

Hahahaha 😅😅😅 that's how I was until I learned the art of flirting with the alpha man bro that book gave me confidence and help now it's so easy for me to be with girls now I get the woman I want 😅❤️ if you want I'll give you the book link so you can try it and then tell me how it went?

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-06-29T12:38:17+00:00

What makes you think that cold approach is more difficult than doing it in a bar or a club?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-06-29T15:33:11+00:00

It sounds like you have weak inner game and need to find your true identity. Body count doesn't matter. Life isn't a video game. Try to establish the qualities you like about a woman and be more critical of the selection process. Spend more time qualifying to figure out how compatible you both are beyond looks. Quit thinking of women in terms of 1-10. Think about how happy she makes you, how much she motivates you, supports you, how well you both work together as a team, resolve conflicts together and so forth. You may have a rookie, one-dimensional outlook right now.

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2025-06-29T12:39:07+00:00

You have to learn how to be social in the real life as you short circuited the process pursuing your fantasies.

Candid_Village_2276 · 2025-06-29T21:23:56+00:00

bro wants all the pussies haha. if your cold approach is bad, maybe you are not that person. try the ways you are more comfortable with. in dating apps or clubs you can learn most of the things to meet a new person and have a conversation etc.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-06-29T16:09:47+00:00

you seems to have the same of those guys who are addicted to escorts but not actual intimacy with women, its just practice LOL, get a girlfriend for a while explore her body and stuff ; learn from her and start from there.

AtDaLastMinute · 2025-07-03T13:03:28+00:00

So... "Normal" women are kinky too. You'd be surprised at the body count some women I know have and you wouldn't think they flow that way. Although I won't recommend LTR with them. They tend to be avoidant and promiscuous.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-06-29T11:49:31+00:00

To be clear, you have functionally no need to do the most socially incompetent method of getting told to go away, but you want to do it anyway for the love of the game?

Title	I have a high body count but I suck at cold approach with regular pretty women
Author	Electrical-Fan-7252
Upvotes	66
Comments	78
Date	June 29, 2025 11:20 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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