Where do you guys go on Saturday nights to pick up girls if you hate nightclub and bars?

-Twyptophan- · 2025-07-27T03:44:49+00:00

Assuming you're in your 20s, you're handicapping yourself a bit if you're not going to bars on Saturday night and you're looking to pick up chicks. That's where the majority of attractive women in your age range will be on a Saturday night and that's where they're the most amenable to guys trying to pick them up. Sure, there are probably cafes or other non-bar activities, but there are a lot fewer people at those and people there aren't necessarily trying to hook up. I'm sure it still happens, but at a lower rate

You should just find a bar/club with a vibe you like and try there. You don't have to drink if you don't want to, just get a water or soda and carry that around

GLang_edutainment · 2025-07-26T22:49:30+00:00

In cafe in the evening, aim for girls dates

SpaceCheeseWizard · 2025-07-27T07:30:30+00:00

Sometimes I have the same issue, of really not having the energy to go to a loud bar or club. Even though I can sometimes enjoy them. My solution is to find concert nights with music I want to checkout, so it feels more okay to go alone, and you don’t have to go crazy or stay till late. And if I really don’t have the energy that evening, I’ll go the next day on a daytime activity with the intention to talk to all the interesting girls, for example I’ll go to an exhibition, and talk to every cute girl I see on the way there next to that I’ll do some social warmup with randoms. So when I arrive at the museum and I’ll spot someone who’s in my demographic range, I can talk to her with ease and be less nervous.

And if you want to go all out, use that evening before to amp up your inner game and journal / update scripts / reflect. So you have more confidence to try things out the next day.

morphinetango · 2025-07-27T15:54:05+00:00

If you want to hook up, go to a nice hotel bar. There's plenty of business travelers looking for some strange.

Great_Opportunity_11 · 2025-07-27T10:02:33+00:00

Sport events, concerts, festivals

I hate nightclubs as well. For me clubs are a waste of time and money.

Bars aren't so bad. You just need to find the right one which has a vibe and people inside which you like.

Redditor_2020_ · 2025-07-27T12:46:09+00:00

I’m on the same boat and I had some luck standing outside of the club. Go early and act quick.

hunterpua · 2025-07-27T07:42:12+00:00

Why go out at night? If I'm not in the mood to go to a bar or club then I'll go to a shopping district in the afternoon, which is packed with women on a Saturday, and then cold approach - instant date - pull.

If you can pull same night, you can also pull same day.

If you need to rely on women having had some alcohol or being in a setting where it's more expected to be flirty and sexual, then your ability to flirt with women still has room for improvement.

MFLBsniffer · 2025-07-27T00:21:59+00:00

Find a social hobby that you enjoy or try some that you might enjoy. Search Facebook pages for [your major city] + [hobby]. Hobbies include but are not limited to, new styles of dance, different sports, art things like pottery, gardening groups, etc. if you really don’t know, then try everything. Try things you think you wouldn’t like, and find out for sure if you don’t like it. Once you have a hobby, you’ll naturally meet other people, men and women, who also do this hobby. They will invite you out to do other things they enjoy, etc etc.

Kofuku- · 2025-07-28T04:45:19+00:00

Join a sports club… I’m having a MUCH better time meeting new people there. Run clubs are awesome too. Although dating is primarily my focus, meeting people who enjoy badminton(the sports club I go to) brings great conversation and excitement into my social life and great conversations even if I don’t click with anyone on a romantic level. There are a lot of couples that I am friends with who bring their female friends as well and it’s always a great opportunity to get to know them. At the very worst, I’m spending 6 hours passionately playing badminton.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-07-28T06:05:11+00:00

OP, bars and clubs aren't for everyone. I hated them even in my 20s and only went out of habit for a time. You can obviously talk to women anywhere you go like stores, in entertainment zone areas and so forth. Join a few activity meetup groups as well.

An overlooked aspect is using inner/social game. By that, I mean have your friends introduce you to women who are single. And try to become friends with women if you can. A friend of the woman vouching for you is so much better and more trustworthy than your own wing who could make up any random bullshit about you and carry some degree of skepticism.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-07-26T23:07:20+00:00

If you can't find people your age to hang out with, you've failed. Not just at dating, but at basic competence. Humans evolved and gave you civilisation, literal population centers full of every kind of stimulus, and look at you.

Title	Where do you guys go on Saturday nights to pick up girls if you hate nightclub and bars?
Author	IslandMan01
Upvotes	49
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Date	July 26, 2025 10:39 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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