Red flag from LTR. Overreaction or cause for concern?

SteelSharpensSteel · 2025-08-02T13:13:12+00:00

OP’s removed post from 3 months ago, for your viewing pleasure

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My girlfriend of 3+ years was in love with me and loyal to me and basically the perfect girl. We went through a lot together and she has supported me and helped me in so many ways. I’ve been through the sidebar and I’ve been doing PUA/red pill for 10 years. I would consider myself intermediate - advanced. However recently I’ve had a string of bad luck and unfortunate circumstances. Business has been challenging, had a medical issue come up which sidelined me for a while and of which im still dealing with. One old friend cut me off after I challenged them about their bullshit and they couldn’t handle it. Shit hitting the fan kind of deal. I had an argument with my GF about her getting insecure because some girl hit on me in front of her as I was meeting some new people with old friends. I told her it was her issue and she needs to resolve that. She didn’t want me to go back to that house for some insecurity she had and I just repeated that’s her issue that she needs to resolve. Of course I went back to the house to hang out with friends. As things escalated the next day about another argument, she said that she hated me, she’s never said that she’s hated me in our entire relationship and that hit me hard. Right now I’m trying to process it and see exactly how it triggered me and dig out that weak spot I have. Anyway I was told that she needed space and that she hated me again and could see why that certain friend had cut me off. Projecting at me that I was hurting her because I called out her issue and it triggered her. It just looks like she’s trying to hurt me/anger me because she’s hurt. But I don’t want to deal with this behavior in a relationship so she can either resolve it or it may even be too late as it seems to be a repeating pattern. Where an issue will come up and she will resolve it but then the next will come up… Tldr everything was great until I hit some real struggle and a low point and then I get tested by my girlfriend. Just when you think you’re done with this process you get reminded about female nature. I guess this is a never ending process of developing as a man and continually maintaining frame. Anyway I think I’m going to end it with this girl after this interaction. I’ll take some time to process and fix any issues I personally have before I readdress this. We travelled to a different city together and live together somewhere else. I’m just going to do what I want now and figure out how I want to move forward here. I haven’t checked into this space for a while so I would appreciate any feedback or any issues you may see from what I’ve written here.

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Some people will never get it.

SelectAirline · 2025-08-02T13:31:13+00:00

Personally, I think you're acting like a little bitch. But what I think doesn't really matter.

Why the hell are you asking random people on the internet whether or not you overreacted? It's up to you to set the standards in your life. Do you actually care about this, or are you trying to live up to some standard of "never tolerate x bahavior" that you heard some other retard spout off about online? If you do care are you mildly annoyed, totally disgusted, pissed off, something else or something in between those things? Figure that shit out and then respond accordingly.

Btw, the shit about her sister sounds like a pathetic attempt to cope. If it's not then go ahead - you said you "would" swap them out so either do it or stfu about it.

2wo2wo3hree · 2025-08-02T13:13:32+00:00

I've been in the RP space for about 10 years and I've studied the sidebar, worked with coaches and helped others too.

Good Heavens… IT’S JOHN WICK

The biggest issue here are your insecurities.

Tvcypher · 2025-08-02T16:18:58+00:00

"Mr. Heishim369, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard... Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul".

The idea that you have been working on this for 10 years and can't see the half dozen issues with this post is frankly beyond belief. You can't be that stupid and still able to type. I prey to god that you are a clanker.

No idea what a boundary is, Reacting to her actions, Covert contracts, Not own point of origin, Keeping score, and giving to get at the very least. "For those actually trying to learn something."

At least you are being an example of what not to do.

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2025-08-02T12:51:59+00:00

Does anyone see a pattern here than I can improve on/fix?

Yes, I believe you were on here 3-4 months ago whining about the same GF situation and saying you would leave her

I would happily dump my gf for her sister

Sounds like you've got your plan.

Limp_Associate_9866 · 2025-08-02T10:38:35+00:00

Insecure and jealous little boy you are with no frame.

Good luck with stating boundary and enforcing it, this will happen in your next LTR aswell because you have oneitis and scarcity mindset.

You can start by demoting her to a plate and develop abundance by fucking her sister, but I bet you don’t have what it takes.

StaffSgt_Dignam · 2025-08-02T12:49:39+00:00

Newsflash dude. Your girl, and every girl after her is hypergamous.

You can sit there and cry because she clicked a fucking button on instagram, or you can start working out and getting shredded yourself.

If you really don’t like her (are you really dating a woman the same age? lol) then just leave. Smash the sister.

Kurtegon · 2025-08-02T10:27:05+00:00

Jesus Christ. Just set the boundary and stop acting like a child

Arghu40 · 2025-08-02T20:31:28+00:00

You are the problem, not her. Looks like you got lost on your way to the sidebar, huh?

Lift, sidebar, shut your mouth, map, and own your shit.

NoMoreMrNiceJay · 2025-08-02T17:21:58+00:00

Must be a troll

No-Rough-7390 · 2025-08-04T13:46:21+00:00

OP, if you’ve been in this space as long as you’ve said, then you’ll have heard this one before:

The relationship is the woman’s job, so why in the world are you taking it on? You entered it, you chose to cohabitate, why are you complicating your life?

Fun fact, I’m sure my wife would not be pleased if she knew how often I noticed hot women at my gym or they gave me unsolicited attention. Would her solution to this really be to blind me, merc those women, or wish to lower my testosterone that drives so many benefits to our relationship? I think not.

You sound like you either have no idea what you want or what you want is so far out of reality that you might as well not know what you want.

I’d figure that out.

rq7025 · 2025-08-02T16:04:24+00:00

Would add to everything said here being with the virgin is not all it’s cracked up to be. That’s really tradcon mental masturbation.

Basically what’s going to happen if you were to get with the sister, it’ll be a giant nightmare of emoting because people emotionally invest in who they lose their virginity to heavily. she would immediately throw bundles of covert contracts your way and when you fail to fulfill them, long story short you’re in for a shit storm of all sorts. But I don’t think you particularly like the sister anyways, you’re just trying to “get back” at your partner. That or you’re simply entertaining the call of the strange.

Ask yourself first what unattractive shit you could be doing not only for the sake of your partner but any woman in the future you’re with. I am sure you have been acting butthurt about this and that will do way more damage to the relationship than her liking some influencer’s picture. But ultimately she has a vagina and you cannot completely own her or any woman’s thoughts. Then, ask yourself what you want.

You ask what you can improve on/fix but you haven’t told us anything YOU have actually done. How are YOU contributing to this situation?

Fritz_Frauenraub · 2025-08-06T18:17:34+00:00

I never understood guys doing MRP with girlfriends they can walk away from at anytime. The whole point of this place is that it's hard mode, the french foreign legion of game, the last outpost. If you arent operating under divorce threat you're not doing MRP.

Remington-Holmes · 2025-08-19T22:09:20+00:00

Years in the RP space, yet you are nowhere in integrating the MRP sidebar. You’re arguing with ‘the girl’ about another girl hitting on you? Was it perhaps a shit test? What do you think it reveals about your masculine nature, your self-confidence, your neediness, your game or basic assertiveness? I thought I was stupid for what I did previously in my own marriage.

Superfumi3 · 2025-08-02T20:29:23+00:00

Massive over reaction. After reading both posts I’m surprised she’s still with you.

Environmental-Top346 · 2025-08-05T23:45:01+00:00

“I've been in the RP space for about 10 years and I've studied the sidebar, worked with coaches and helped others too.”

Still doesn’t have the frame to make his own fucking decisions. Pathetic.

Title	Red flag from LTR. Overreaction or cause for concern?
Author	Heishim369
Upvotes	1
Comments	50
Date	August 2, 2025 10:13 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/1mfn1if/red_flag_from_ltr_overreaction_or_cause_for/
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