Why do women always choose the wrong guy.

blackjustin · 2025-08-12T13:13:29+00:00

Actual answer? Emotions. Bad guys are exciting.

diobreads · 2025-08-12T13:03:56+00:00

Because that guy knows he can always just get more.

mw136913 · 2025-08-12T13:07:31+00:00

Because their victimhood addiction is a self fulfilling prophecy

Jumpy_Box_9737 · 2025-08-12T14:55:01+00:00

He's always just "the wrong guy", thus removing all agency and accountability from her. It's all his fault, never Pollyanna's. That rampant, florid female narcissism again.

wheregoesriverflow · 2025-08-13T12:36:45+00:00

My girlfriend likes tall/handsome, especially in late teens/early twenties.

She calls her exes fuckbois and that she always wanted a serious relationship.

you can see why women choose the wrong guy. Because they are more charming/handsome/tall/exciting/etc.
I am not marrying her

outdoorsy-man · 2025-08-12T20:34:58+00:00

They aren't necessarily the wrong guy at first, my current partner says she had to deal with a lot of love bombing and initial promises, effort etc that just didn't pan out in long the term and he basically lied about himself

Odd-Analysis9937 · 2025-08-13T06:31:22+00:00

I feel that nice guys always finish last and it urks me

MensHour · 2025-08-15T03:07:36+00:00

Women choose the guy who is badass out there. They don’t want him to be badass with them. Nice guys are uninteresting and seen as losers. When she says I want a guy who’s caring and listens she omits she wants a guy who acts like a killer outside, whether Wall St or drug dealing, but comes home and is then caring and listens but if push comes to shove she’ll pick the killer outside but complain he’s not caring and doesn’t listen.

Sick-of-you-tbh · 2025-08-12T15:25:40+00:00

Hypergamy.

JustJ42 · 2025-08-12T18:24:09+00:00

Why do straight men complain women are too picky but then at the same time complain that they “dont pick the right man”

Chesseburter · 2025-08-12T13:10:08+00:00

“Why do women always choose the wrong guy.” WHAT?

GroundbreakingFlow98 · 2025-08-12T13:14:15+00:00

They don’t always. Later, they “settle” for someone who attracts them far less than their exciting flings and apply themselves to a war of attrition to punish him for not being someone else. One day, the ick happens, divorce, strong and independent. Tale as old as time.

Speedy_KQ · 2025-08-12T13:12:40+00:00

I think my wife chose well...

Itchy_Clock8874 · 2025-08-12T21:35:51+00:00

Because there are so many wrong guys…..

Old-Worldliness7171 · 2025-08-12T23:59:57+00:00

the truth? the human instinct is to reproduce, not engage in long term relationships. which sucks of course, but you can't really change that.

Marx2pp · 2025-08-13T04:27:54+00:00

People In general can’t tell arrogance from confidence. Confidence is a trait which determines women’s attraction.

Past-Cod3091 · 2025-08-13T10:56:33+00:00

Does the wrong guy mean "not you"- typa guy?

PipPipTheDiddly · 2025-08-17T12:25:36+00:00

Good men are boring. Bad men are fun. Women live life on easy mode so thus it gets boring. They have to have to drama in order to feel something. When their options dry up, then they settle for the good man.

“The world only make sense when you force it to.” -Batman

erik_reeds · 2025-08-12T15:38:28+00:00

what does this have to do with men's rights?

YetAnotherCommenter · 2025-08-13T06:15:03+00:00

They don't "always" choose "the wrong guy."

Women sometimes end up bedding abusers and sociopaths and narcissists. This is usually because 'dark triad' guys are good mimics, women aren't telepaths, and women are just as easily susceptible to thinking with their genitals as men are.

It happens to men, too. Men need to be regularly reminded to Not Stick Your Dick In Crazy.

ForGiggles2222 · 2025-08-12T13:56:00+00:00

Because women are humans, and humans aren't purely logical, emotions such as insecurity, naivety, unworthiness shape our choices more than we'd like to admit, and who knows who the right is anyway.

OP, stop thinking that we live in a meritocratic, fair, reasonable world.

Prestigious-Hippo950 · 2025-08-15T23:19:45+00:00

so they can say that men are problematic afterwards.

Krammn · 2025-08-16T00:03:28+00:00

Wrong sub

AgentKenji8 · 2025-08-16T23:17:27+00:00

To sum it up in my opinion. Hybristophilia

KorolSmert · 2025-08-17T07:17:19+00:00

Because the wrong guy has no expectations of her behaviour and standards apart from sexual. The wrong guy reads her sexual signals and progresses it. He can do that because he has experienced it a few times and is only looking for girls giving signals, swoops in, pumps and dumps them. The woman doesn't care about not being with the guy she desires to communicate better or to trust communication with him.

She is a hoe jumping from d 2 d till almost 30. I mean, cmon.

No_Reaction_2168 · 2025-08-12T13:13:11+00:00

Because sexual and romantic attraction is something that's still extremely primitive. Women are programmed to look for men who they think is capable of providing plentiful resources for them and their future potential children down the line. The ones whom they think are unable to are generally the ones who are deemed undesirable by women and society as a whole.

Women do not have to put in effort to reproduce. They are the ones who choose who is worthy and who is not worthy, so to speak. Men, on the other hand, only a fraction of us used to reproduce back in prehistoric times. We're programmed to be extremely competitive and we will literally end each other for a chance at reproduction. It is one of our greatest goals in life to prove that our DNA is worth keeping in the world.

Now, obviously, we do not live in caves anymore, but our lizard brains think we still do. Women are attracted to men with options, because the men who are at the top are desired by a lot of other women. It is that way because they convey that they're able to provide. Something in women's brains tell them that this man is able to survive for a very long time and thus is capable of providing her with a lot of resources for a long time. That's what subconsciously makes a man desirable to women. Good or nice men do not appeal to this instinct like the men at the top of the attractiveness scale do, because being nice tells her nothing about your ability to hunt and survive.

I know this sounds shitty, and it is. I'm not defending this system, to be clear.

Coquettemma · 2025-08-14T02:26:11+00:00

We’re more emotional and let feelings override logic idk 🤷‍♀️

Gleichstellung4084 · 2025-08-15T18:40:48+00:00

they don't "always" do that.

Same_Common4485 · 2025-08-15T18:49:31+00:00

Because women want 2 contradicting things: stability and excitement, 2 different kind of men. also, cheating is exciting. Any man she chooses is therefore always the right and wrong man at any given time

TrilIias · 2025-08-15T21:49:22+00:00

Do tell what the ever heck this has to do with men's rights.

Humble-Zucchini-6237 · 2025-08-15T22:36:24+00:00

As well as what others have said: narcissism and sadism. They ever so slightly get off on making the wrong choice and putting men down to lift themselves up.

PastDifficulty7 · 2025-08-16T00:55:05+00:00

My woman chose right ;)

stiF_staL · 2025-08-12T13:04:47+00:00

Why do men choose the wrong woman? People suck and make mistakes regardless of gender.

Ooooeq · 2025-08-16T01:53:30+00:00

r/datingadvice

onestH · 2025-08-18T11:16:52+00:00

I’m one of those wrong guys. They like a guy with a spine and a capacity for violence.

hockeyhockey13579 · 2025-08-27T23:37:07+00:00

i know lots of happily married people

hockeyhockey13579 · 2025-08-27T23:37:27+00:00

whos the right guy, you?

KangarooCrapper · 2025-08-16T01:12:25+00:00

The obvious answer...It's men's fault..It's forever and always..

KarateInAPool · 2025-08-16T13:39:35+00:00

Better question: Why do good guys choose bad women? Most women seem to be narcissists or out right psychopaths.

Ok-Visit5628 · 2025-08-15T18:53:26+00:00

Easy answer is because they are females.

Iwan787 · 2025-08-12T13:19:22+00:00

If I had to guess, you are the right guy in that situation?

No_Corner6659 · 2025-08-13T12:06:48+00:00

Women like supplier or consumers tend to choose the right guy.

But government prevents that.

For example, left to free market, women choose guys with the best genes that offer the best money.

Transactional sex is illegal. Then child support laws are proportional to man's income.

Notice this is mens' right issues too.

But it does limit women's choices from simply choosing the most profitable guys to choose.

Upstairs_Ear4172 · 2025-08-13T19:23:57+00:00

What does this have to do with men’s rights? Just a hugely generalising statement

Big-Acanthisitta1236 · 2025-08-15T20:44:20+00:00

Because people don't go around spouting their defects, and even when you find them, the easiest flaws to spot are the ones actively being worked on (Someone trying to quit drinking will tell you they don't drink anymore, for example), the hardest one to spot are those that affect others, funnily enough, because if you don't put in the work to excise these behaviors, you either end up all alone, or really good at disguising them.

Sea-Lawyer-7447 · 2025-08-13T20:37:23+00:00

why do you try to victim blame? hold men accountable

WackyConundrum · 2025-08-15T19:17:23+00:00

"Wrong"?

Title	Why do women always choose the wrong guy.
Author	BlackDragonEyes92
Upvotes	15
Comments	83
Date	August 12, 2025 12:59 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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