How to seduce/attract men?

Pantherist · 2025-08-29T13:13:33+00:00

Instead of saying 'just exist', I'm going to try and be helpful.

If you have zeroed in on a man you're interested in (I'm assuming sexually too, even if you're 'intentionally dating'), make yourself available to him quickly and readily, and discuss plans for a date.

Do your coffee/drinks/whatever and convey sexual interest at the end of it if you're willing. Men are attracted to (and eventually love) women who want to have sex with them.

Be enthusiastic and open physically and emotionally. If you want to keep seeing him, rinse and repeat, but also take interest in his life and hobbies, and help him in subtle ways without questioning his choices.

If you're able to finagle your way into his life in a way that he sees as helpful and positive, he will never let go of you. He's yours.

Imaginative-figment · 2025-08-29T16:59:25+00:00

You know I feel one thing that's overlooked, and that is certainly missed is a woman showing she needs a man and expressing she needs a man. All too often do I see looking through dating profiles is the constant phrase of "I don't need a man, I want one" If your constant goal is to never show you need a man, why even bother? Both men and women want to feel needed, want to feel useful, and just want to be shown they're needed.

So how to seduce a man... make the guy feel that you need him. Don't show him your totally independent. Show him he has value.

I know this isn't the total idea of Seduction for men, but honestly, the guy needed to be needed, and if you constantly show him or express to him, he's not needed... then why would he stay or try?

SithLordJediMaster · 2025-08-29T13:27:47+00:00

Choose outfits that accentuate your features

You want light perfume that hits whenever you walk by.

Playful touches and teasing

Men want respect. Give geuine compiments and appreciation. How he looks. Things he's proud of and accomplished.

Pauses and whispers.

miami2881 · 2025-08-29T13:29:39+00:00

Say “hi, I think you’re cute”. Just don’t give hints because some guys can be oblivious.

TheyCallMe_Eve · 2025-08-29T13:18:43+00:00

Is this a question on how to generally be attractive or is there a certain situation you’re trying to figure out how to navigate?

ThunderBloodRaven · 2025-08-29T13:25:20+00:00

Might be helpful to ask again and provide context on why you've had difficulty attracting men.

Away_End_4408 · 2025-08-29T17:21:34+00:00

This is why guys tell each other don't ask women how to seduce women. The opposite is true Cause guys have no fucking clue as to how to seduce a guy as a woman.

Be feminine is all I can say tbh. And don't be needy, laugh at their jokes. flirt, but not too explicitly at first. Use your eyes to convey sexual interest by controlling eye contact and looking at eyes to mouth/lips seductively, hard to explain. Call him a stud or something, boost his ego do he feels more confident about engaging with you.

And make the environment where you can be alone happen feel organic. Then just grab his dick or something idk hopefully he initiates from there. Tldr just show signs that you're interested in them and hopefully they reciprocate and you can help him escalate from there since most guys are kindof pussies nowadays or don't want to be #metoo'd or called a creep.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-08-29T15:03:56+00:00

Eye contact. Men can read it. Look at a man consecutively for 4+ seconds and he'll know you're into him and will eventually get the hint to come over and make a move.

beardMoseElkDerBabon · 2025-08-29T15:47:34+00:00

I don't know what I'm talking about.
You're basically getting to know people, so it's better to talk to everyone who's not unwilling. Figuring out that openness is a step. The talking is work for figuring out whether you'd like anything with them at all. This step can be pretty much skipped if looking just for sex.
Be direct. Hints tend to count as harassment. Accept the possibility of rejection and focus on making things go well. You're doing it for yourself.
Be healthy both physically and mentally.
A woman being direct might be suspicious if the guy's got a low self-esteem. Pretending to need help in something obviously easy might work but only if you're direct and not rejected first.
Acquire intelligence and be worthy of respect whatever respect means
Take care of yourself and your boundaries
Be curious and take care of him if accepted
Communicate your needs and desires. Don't expect all of them to be met.
Communicate, communicate, communicate...
It depends on whether he's more into being submissive or dominant. Be the other one. Don't lose yourself for the sake of someone else.
There's a way to attempt to really mess him up with love bombing, boundary erosion, and trauma bonding but that kind of seduction totally sucks in the long term, especially if you're not into being controlling or possibly getting sued. The emotional effect of it is pretty much like a drug.

Illmakeausernamelate · 2025-08-29T19:40:34+00:00

Actually showing interest instead of “manifesting”

CheesecakeMain5003 · 2025-08-29T21:40:04+00:00

A man seeks someone where he can lay his head at rest. be supporting in his dreams and goals, believe in him and you will have him for 80 percent. You don’t even have to be that attractive. Just be for him an oases.

UnkemptGoose339 · 2025-08-30T06:35:54+00:00

Well first off, look as hot as you possibly can. A favorable hip to waist ratio, nice hair, nice lips, big doe eyes, perky boobs and ass. These are all universal attractive traits that all straight men are into.

Dress nice, a tight fitting red dress screams "Come flirt with me."

Hit the gym and be as fit as possible, which means eating healthily and sleeping a lot too.

Now that we're super attractive girl in a tight dress or wearing something cute with makeup on, look approachable. Look at a guy you like and smile and hold eye contact. If he's not a complete wuss he should come up and talk to you.

That's about all I can think of, you can also approach men if you've got the ovaries. Just say hello, if you look good almost any straight guy will be flattered and will probably want to escalate.

But ya, female game is mostly how good looking are you, followed closely by sense of humor, personality, intelligence. Our dicks get hard by what you look like though. Sapio sexualism it just pseudo science masturbatory shit. It's nice for a girl to be smart, well read, educated, funny, etc. But our hind brains want healthy babies, that means good looking, fertile looking women. The other traits are for post nut clarity and thinking about relationships.

Melodic_Plate · 2025-08-30T13:19:46+00:00

Try joining activities they like. And try to be a bit approachable. You dont know how attractive it is to find a girl that like what we like

PartyHandle · 2025-08-29T13:31:57+00:00

I will only say be direct - we men don’t understand hints, and are often are scared to mis read them.

Be open and direct

Edit : spellings

FrYoungtrad · 2025-08-29T13:04:47+00:00

Just exist. Women have the dating game on easy mode. Most women could approach most men and succeed. Next question.

somethinlikeshieva · 2025-08-29T13:56:58+00:00

Be genuinely interested in them, ask questions and match their investment from a communication standpoint

SeamoreB00bz · 2025-08-29T18:08:46+00:00

it's not rocket surgery or hidden in a book somewhere.

it's primarily just 3-4 thing max.

but like i said, it's somehow offensive to call a spade a spade because it hurts people's feelings now.

ballfond · 2025-08-30T09:31:35+00:00

Depends on the man , because if you are good looking enough no one would mind sleeping with you but for marriage you need to learn about him

lackatacker · 2025-08-30T13:39:47+00:00

The short answer is teddies

TheVelvetyPermission · 2025-08-29T14:29:11+00:00

Give him some obvious indicators like eye contact, conversation, even ask him out. If you are blunt and he is still not interested, try someone else.

Not all men are interested in any woman that crosses their path. But if you try enough different people you’ll certainly find one.

If you find that you aren’t able to attract many of the men you are interested in, work on becoming a more attractive human.

AlastairXXL · 2025-08-29T13:15:56+00:00

Strip naked and start blowing him

masterofceremony1 · 2025-08-29T13:32:13+00:00

Just breathe and smile.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-08-29T13:28:21+00:00

To give you some axtually good advice: can you first tell us your goals, what you have been doing so far, your results, and where in the process towards your goal do you fail?

It's really pointless to give advice in a vacuum devoid of context or information.

habbo311 · 2025-08-29T17:08:52+00:00

Show genuine interest in a bar then whisper in his ear the dirtiest sexual thing you want to do to him while rubbing his upper thigh in a very sexy voice

TwilightFate · 2025-08-29T17:42:26+00:00

You literally just ask, be direct and look at them with pretty eyes.

FifaMaster94 · 2025-08-29T18:05:41+00:00

Quit hinting and say hi to a guy

Shadoru · 2025-08-30T00:41:58+00:00

Exist

ashuftasar · 2025-08-30T03:14:51+00:00

Men are simple.

ScaboochWolf · 2025-08-30T05:56:04+00:00

What a head-scratcher lol

AromaticPlant8504 · 2025-08-30T06:42:28+00:00

Your job is easy you seduce him by being submissive and making him feel like he's seducing you. Its so easy its never going to be a question asked on this sub.

7Seas_ofRyhme · 2025-08-30T07:18:02+00:00

interesting

FixAccomplished9993 · 2025-08-30T09:10:46+00:00

HOW TO ATTRACT MEN: Simple be attractive. It's really that simple.

Women's problems are usually never about IF they attract men but whether they are attracting the men they prefer.

akin975 · 2025-08-30T09:13:45+00:00

Exist

costelo33 · 2025-08-31T09:21:15+00:00

Be attractive.
Be pleasant to talk to.
Be approachable.

The end.

Last_District_4172 · 2025-08-31T09:37:57+00:00

Men are visual and attracted by the possibility of success.

To be attractive to men:

be in fit.
uncover some skin with equilibrium. Tease it.
be open giving doubt about being interested

Easy peasy

InterestingWind2153 · 2025-08-31T16:02:09+00:00

Be physically fit

Be sexually appealing but also classy at the same time. We might get turned on by strippers, but we don't respect them.

Be knowledgable. Smart women stimulate men.

Exotic_Effective4566 · 2025-08-31T21:16:18+00:00

Then you need to give us some tips and tricks LOL!

monkey36937 · 2025-09-02T12:32:34+00:00

Like have you tried to use your voice. Like telling him you are interested in him instead of standing there and doing that weird stuff with your eyes 👀.

FreetimeStalker · 2025-08-29T19:27:57+00:00

Just be feminine

Pedro_Moona · 2025-08-30T05:12:45+00:00

Number. One is be in good shape.

breaktheice7 · 2025-08-29T16:47:03+00:00

Have a nice body, a nice ass, nice shaped body. Do something with your hair and wear stylish clothes.

laced1 · 2025-08-29T13:57:50+00:00

Maybe read the posts about seducing women and put yourself in the woman's perspective?

boiimtrying · 2025-08-29T15:02:53+00:00

Be beautiful and just exist.

Thierr · 2025-08-29T18:05:18+00:00

1) Don't be fat

2) that's it

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-08-29T13:25:22+00:00

You won't be able to find good advice here. Even I, a dating coach, can't give good advice because seduction stratergies between the two sexes are different.

Generally women's dating stratergies will be centered around getting commitment from the guy. And I do think women have it harder in dating, since there is so little literature regarding the matter.

You can follow my blog posts and I'll eventually create a post for women when i figure this out.

Glacier_Sama · 2025-08-29T17:43:49+00:00

When women flirt with me, it's usually very direct and suggestive. I like that because it's making it clear, she's attracted to me and wants me to take her soul

Comfortable-Unit-897 · 2025-08-30T01:51:54+00:00

Show up nekkid with chicken wings! Seriously… just be you and be engaged in the present. We have gained a PHD in Female bullshit, and just want a Ride or Die relationship. Dont try to bullshit us, because we aint playin.😎

DaLonelyOne1 · 2025-08-29T14:53:34+00:00

It's rather easy for a woman to get guys lol. Be your best self (take care of yourself, your appearance, smell good, heal trauma, etc) smile, go talk to him but listen more, give him hints and even if he wasn't interested before talking to you he'll be interested after lol.

Guys are less subliminal and more overt. Less feeling and more logical. Just be your best self and believe in yourself. You got this 💪🏻

Striking_Guitar_9995 · 2025-08-29T13:29:43+00:00

Inbox me and find out

koppigzijn · 2025-08-29T14:37:10+00:00

Instant way? Send bobs & vagene. But to show you are caring is already ok for me.

Title	How to seduce/attract men?
Author	__Anamya__
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Date	August 29, 2025 1:01 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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