I went monk mode and my wife responded by icing me out. It's been two weeks now, and she's getting colder by the day.

Background: Validation seeking and Covert contracts fucked up the sex life a few years back. I ran some dread and brought the bedroom and relationship back to life. Except I didn't put in the work to fix myself. Long Dancing Monkey program. Over the last year, I've gradually slipped back into my supplicating, validation seeking beta self. Wife traveled out of state for a court case, and had a little girls shopping trip with a long time friend and her nieces. Assuming past expectations were still valid, I didn't confirm the return date, or communication expectations. She ended up extending the trip by a few days and communication went from minimal to nothing by the last 3 days of the trip. My kids we're calling her from my phone and she answered each time so not like she went off radar. I didn't reach out because I decided not to chase. Wife returns home, I supplicate, she's standoff-ish. After two days of that I decide fuck it, if's she's not going to show me any affection, I'm pulling my affection and attention, which I did. Also decided to quit tobacco this day. She worked nights the next few days and did some topless peacocking when she got home. I however had decided, I'm done giving out affection with none in return so I smirk at the peacocking and leave it there. Next few days, is a big fuck up on my part. I go monk, basically ignore her and just handle my shit around the house for a week. Throughout this week, there was some more nude peacocking, her asking for help with things, ect. I just ignored because..." no touch from her, no attention from me." I'm so fucking stupid.

After about a week of this, I come to my senses and realize, I fucked up here. Now she's stonewalling me. Complete free-out. She's sleeping in our daughters room. Not speaking to me directly. One word answers when I try to communicate with her. She's done the couch sleeping, cold shoulder thing in the past and I've always caved, apologized, and asked her to come back to the bed. This time seems different, She's getting colder and colder each day. Not sure what to do here.

Insult me all you like, I just need someone to point me in the right direction.