Craziness and disrespect despite dread in a marriage

threekindsoflucky · 2025-10-21T04:11:42+00:00

I get that some of you guys are trying to practice how to be a hardcore red pilled dude. I also get that askmrp is a dumpster fire.

But most of these comments are absolutely fucking terrible. Not only are they off the mark, you come across as bitter and jaded that this guy seems to have more of his shit together than you guys do. The advice is bad, the questions are stupid, and the conclusions are wrong.

Pull your shit together askmrp. Fuck me.

Limp_Associate_9866 · 2025-10-09T10:34:07+00:00

You've been married to her for six years and the temper tantrums just started? If yes, it's probably hormonal. If no, then you suck at vetting and she probably has BPD.

Have you ever thought about the jealousy/behavior she experiences is the result of failed comfort test(s) and leadership on your behalf?

And maybe because you’re using dread like an autist towards a woman who's hormonal after childbirth?

RPsodapants · 2025-10-09T14:56:47+00:00

If you’ve got a 7 month old, first of all enjoy that joyous time with the kid because it goes fast. Secondly, your wife’s emotions are gonna be all over the place, especially if the kid isn’t sleeping through the night fully yet. Are you helping with that at all?

I think it’s wisest to offer comfort and stability where it’s needed and to be a good influence where it’s possible.

Probably what you don’t want to hear is this: A high earning high status doesn’t exclude you from the hard work that will go into establishing routines in your home right now. It’s going to be hard as fuck, you actually have to help. But surely a man as hardworking as yourself all the Vietnam beauty pageants is up to the task.

Help out a bit more, and if you’re still getting shit thrown at you a year from now, when the kids are older and the wife is getting a full nights sleep then reassess.

RP_Savage001 · 2025-10-11T06:53:27+00:00

Still no answer if she's always been like this or only after the 7 month old was born. Also, as one the guys asked, are fucking your wife regularly? Normal, emotionally stable Chicks who are getting dicked down right by the man they desire don't throw shit or complain about you apologizing for normal shit like she's overspending.

Either way, throwing shit is really crazy and you let her escalate the behavior. You tell us if you vetted her right, was she was throwing shit after you first hooked up or when she first moved in, and your thoughts were, she hot and I can "fix her"?

Seems though she's not capable or willing to be accountable, I dont believe you said she apologizes after, and you let this slide by repeating the cycle of throw, ignore, talk, and make up. You have to break the pattern.

I'd sit down with her when she's cooled down and let her know that people who love and respect each other don't continue to throw things at each other and set bad examples for our children. If she can sit through that conversation like a normal person she either goes to anger management and therapy, regardless of any apology given at the time, gets accountable, gets axe throwing or boxing lessons (by another chick), or you start to talk to a lawyer about other living arrangements or divorce. That's just where I would go.

This should have been a hard boundary from the very first time it happened, your frame is weak here as you're allowing her disrespect for you the sake of the family but it's actually the worst thing you can do submitting to her behavior to keep the family together, now you're giving your daughter a worse example by showing this excusable behavior.

illicitli · 2025-10-10T09:08:05+00:00

maybe give her good sex sometimes when she calms down ? instead of just ignoring every single time ? idk she just sounds horny to me...

DonnieWearsVelvet · 2025-10-11T05:50:17+00:00

Why is it important for you to mentor beauty pageant girls? Let’s assume this is creating crazy dread levels. Cost v benefit?

You’re high status and important. Seems like all downside when you can choose where to get high reward on your time.

Remington-Holmes · 2025-10-10T21:54:40+00:00

A boundary is only a boundary if there are consequences. If breaking a boundary is ‘punished by anger and words’ only, it’s not a boundary.

Women consider men in such a way as men consider jobs. You would do well to manage her, more as though she were an employee. Would you tolerate this from an employee? Would you get angry with an employee, but let them get away without any real consequences? If you did, would you be surprised if they repeated the behaviour? Reward good behaviour intermittently. Punish disrespect immediately, and with disproportionate consequences. This must be performed consistently, or boundary challenges will be rewarded

HickoryWind7649 · 2025-10-10T22:56:17+00:00

I was a frequent reader in MRP

Bullshit. Your post title shows you know nothing about MRP.

I am the managing partner of a law firm and make lower mid six figures. I sit on four large organizational board of directors and run a lot of events, including a miss Vietnam pageant where I’m in charge of training and helping the royal court girls learn how to network, interact with important people, politicians, and philanthropists. I frequently do the news and media appearances with them, and am well known and respected in my local area. Because of my positions and status, I get a lot of attention from women, which instills lot of dread in my wife,

Fixed it for you. Nobody here gives a shit about that other stuff.

I feel sorry for your wife. You're an autistic retard that uses covert dread in an attempt to control her. She's had enough.

You want to fix it? First, drop your Miss Vietnam involvement immediately. Trust me, they'll be fine without you. Second, be present at home with her and your daughter as much as possible. Third, stop acting like a douchebag that treats his wife as a hobby.

The problem isn't her, it's you. Here's some MRP that you actually can read and reflect on:
https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/asqi8r/depressive_and_anxious_wives_how_its_all_your/

Fritz_Frauenraub · 2025-10-12T17:29:22+00:00

Frame: it ain't a wooden rectangle around a painting.

Title	Craziness and disrespect despite dread in a marriage
Author	hirokinai
Upvotes	16
Comments	46
Date	October 9, 2025 9:41 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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