I’m not sure how to properly put this into words, but this subreddit is one of the few places where I feel this topic can actually be discussed, so I appreciate the patience

From my perspective, a lot of intersectionality discourse ends up being just another binary worldview of Oppressor vs Oppressed, just disguised as something more complex. People bring up examples like black men having the social “debuff” of being black while also having the social “buff” of being male, and honestly that wouldn’t be wrong in itself depending on the interpretation. The problem is that it gets pushed to an extreme where being male supposedly grants so much “privilege” that it overrides most (or even all) disadvantages. So regardless of race, class, sexuality, disability, etc., you still end up framed as an oppressor. It feels less like “intersectionality” and more like a way to point fingers towards a supposed oppressor because they're not as badly treated as everyone else, at least under their perspective. This even bleeds into bizarre conclusions, like racist stereotypes about black men being physically strong being treated as a “positive privilege,” instead of, y'know, a form of dehumanization rooted in racism. While not exactly about the physical aspect, it reminds me of this

I’ve noticed something similar with autistic men (and this one I can speak about more personally). There’s often this mental gymnastics where the physical + social violence autistic men experience for not fitting into male social expectations gets downplayed because male privilege while the more “socially intense” discrimination autistic women face is treated as inherently worse or more legitimate. It becomes this weird hierarchy where male suffering is always interpreted as “less serious” or even as somehow still containing privilege at the same time

I’ll admit I might be misunderstanding some aspects here or even the whole stuff, especially since I haven’t engaged much with leftist spaces in a while, but I’ve been lurking in this sub for some time and it seems genuinely receptive even to people who aren’t left-wing, at least when it comes to discussing men’s issues