31M. Having been in several hundred dates, and slept 120+

I'll base this on my own experiences and backed up with my female friends.

Frequently you'll have objections on a date which is usually going fine, and you lean in for the kiss during or at the end of the date.

It will go something like "I have a rule I don't kiss on the first date." If she doesn't lean away and still looks in your eyes, often you brushing her hair and saying "Guess I'm just that special" and lean in most of the time she'll kiss you.

In the event when she leans away and is a bit more firm with it. I means two things

  1. It's just you she doesn't kiss, and the chemistry and attraction isn't there

  2. She's playing games and will want you to jump through hoops

Neither of which are something you should want to entertain. Be respectful and just not see her again. With many women I've been on 2-5 dates following with those women in the past, some may like you but they still end up playing games throughout the time and just isn't worth it.

If you never initiated it, then it's on you and up to you if you want to see her again. I've had good 2nd dates in some of those cases. But typically you should have kissed by the end of the first date.

Many people won't have sex on the first date and don't think too much of that. But having been the first kiss of many women, on the first date when the attraction is there rules like these aren't good signs.