Did divorce make you more guarded or more intentional?

ShaunyP_OKC · 2026-03-04T01:20:57+00:00

Guarded then gradually becoming intentional.

ozdomguy · 2026-03-02T06:25:40+00:00

I came out of it more guarded and more careful. But I hit the jackpot with my new partner and couldn’t be happier. I also found myself preaching to young blokes not to hook up with any non working low life’s

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-03-02T00:08:36+00:00

Divorce madey life far more intentional and so much easier. Can't thank my ex enough for walking away.

lostpassword100000 · 2026-03-01T18:11:28+00:00

I came out knowing that I needed to change things about myself if I ever truly wanted to be happy in another relationship.

It’s never just one parties fault.

13 years later (all in therapy) I’m remarried to my best friend in the world.

MaineMan1234 · 2026-03-01T03:14:40+00:00

I drove my divorce not her, so I was overjoyed to be free of her and find my own way. I am now remarried to a woman I dated 30-35 years ago. It has been amazing. It also helps that she has zero sense of entitlement and is one of the most warm and giving people on the planet

No-Tomorrow8150 · 2026-03-01T02:56:13+00:00

Both.

Bagman220 · 2026-03-01T02:46:06+00:00

I said for so long that I stayed with my wife for the kids, but it was more than that, it was stability, comfort, regular sex, and overall fairly simplistic life. But I divorced my wife for the alcoholism, gambling, infidelity, and for her lack of effort in every day life.

It gave me perspective about what to look for an my next relationship, but being single made me realize I might not want a next relationship.

KingJon85 · 2026-03-01T02:28:41+00:00

Im closed off completely right now. I haven't attempted dating yet.

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streetsmartwallaby · 2026-03-01T01:46:55+00:00

It made it more clear about what I want but harder to date if that makes sense. I actually have some mild PTSD from what I’ve been through and will get super anxious on dates because of it. It’s honestly embarrassing, but it has slowly been getting better. And yes – I’ve been to therapy for it.

Title	Did divorce make you more guarded or more intentional?
Author	itslauramitchell
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	March 1, 2026 1:45 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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