How to not be boring

chaot7 · 2026-03-12T16:35:10+00:00

Talk about them. Ask them questions. Notice things about them

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-03-12T19:32:58+00:00

Practice makes perfect but also know how to practice.

You are fumbling because in the back of your mind you are thinking "OMG this girl is talking to me what do i say?"

Honestly i have found that men that struggle with women also struggle with men they just met. So practice on some men, i mean that seriously. Go up to a dude and shoot the shit with him. Sometimes the guy will be very short and clearly doesnt want to be talked to, say have a nice day and leave. You see a guy with a shirt of your favorite team or something, say nice shirt and talk about the team or sport. If he's short, keep it simple and wish him a nice day. If his body language is open to conversation shoot the shit with him for a few minutes.

One time i was at a bar wen to the bathroom. I had my sox hat on and a ugy had the yankees hat on. We both noticed each other's hats and started shit talking about each others' teams and walked away hugging each other and wishing each other good luck. Have interactions like that with men. Because with men, you dont care if you get thei rnumber, you dont care if you get a friend out of it, you just want to enjoy the moment and conversaation.

That's what you need to translate to women, being able to just go up to one and not care if you get her number, not care what others think, just enjoy the moment and conversation. Because your most true and genuine self will come out. Im not saying it's easy, it will take a lot of practice and feeling off and feeling like a weirdo and gettin gpast that feeling.

A few months ago, i was at a party, saw a girl dancing iwth a bottle of champagne and said something like "damn go that must be a nice bottle fo champagne". She looked at me and said "mind yoru business" with a striaght "dont fuck with me" face. 6 years ago, id crumble, never talk to another girl agian, etc. But instead i just went "ok cool, have a nice one" and went to talk to the next person. Shit like that is going to happen. Dont expect this to be the perfect answer each time.

Things you can try to practice in: meetups app, netowkring events, jigsaw dating events.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-03-12T21:49:51+00:00

Women love a guy who can tell a fun story. If you can't make her laugh, you can't bed her. Simple as that. Get out of your house and do things other than work. Travel and just explore around a different country for a week. Should have enough savings if you've been working so hard and not going on dates for so long.

Foreverseeking47 · 2026-03-12T18:26:26+00:00

Just get into your body, stay in a fun state and notice how they make you feel. Be present, play and joke around, touch them lightly at first on their arms, lower back and if the vibe is right move to their hands, outer thighs and stuff like that. You let your body lead, you want to touch her and she wants to be touched by you if you are both genuinely enjoying each other's presence. You don't need to get in a specific mindset, if you are healthy and present and you ACTUALLY like her, you will want to get closer and enjoy everything that you can share with a woman.

tytymctylerson · 2026-03-12T16:13:39+00:00

Read some books

vertascend · 2026-03-12T20:56:50+00:00

That was totally me buddy, but not anymore; let me ask you a question…. What do you want out of life?, why do you work out?, everyone says focus on yourself?, why are you doing that?,

I personally work and train so I can live, I don’t live to work, I work to live, it took me a while to get this into my head; since then I started going out more… I’ve built my work around my life, not my life around my work…. I go out every weekend for a reasonable time, I get my sleep and work out etc.

As a result of this I’ve been able to experience life, do different things, meet people; conversation skills come from experience… remember how you put in grind into work, social skills are the same, you don’t use them they dull out; the best conversationalists are the ones that play more and work less, you don’t need to be the best… you just need to be good; start going out and hang with people who go out, observe their skills, absorb and emulate

As for the seduction mindset…. And flirtation skills….you have to constantly ask yourself this..”how do I let her know that I want her to have the best time possible with me “, without saying it directly and it’ll have many forms of escalation, date… dinner….physical Touch…. Kiss….bedroom… to explain it all is more than I can write here… but one tip… learn how to pivot from conversation and flirting to sexual talk and tension…. That’s the key

All the best

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-03-12T18:57:21+00:00

The way to not be boring is to have unique and interesting life experiences that shape you into a unique and interesting person. If all you do is work and go to the gym and you aren't passionate about your work/exercise, then you're just going to be a boring person.

Jack26918 · 2026-03-12T19:23:04+00:00

Play SLIGHTLY hard to get, get them to seduce you instead. Mildly drop your financial state or be generous as a boost. Then on date level with them, be honest, you'll be a challenge they'll want. Plus you don't need to lie.

epimpstyle · 2026-03-12T19:48:58+00:00

Flirting means making all kinds of jokes, gestures, remarks to a girl where she doesn't get upset, but actually gives you a positive reaction... The easiest way to become playful is to include in your conversation double meaning sentences like you can see in this video with Mila Kunis and Craig Ferguson - VIDEO it is very easy to start from this point.

There are also a bunch of routines/gambits created for this moment, example VIDEO, VIDEO.... Nowadays, people don't post this kind of stuff because 100 guys will come out of the woodwork calling it cringe. They’ll hit you with theories about how it's a bad idea because you’re trying too hard or you are not genuine doing like that ...blah blah blah... even though this is literally just what having "game" looks like. But hey, it is what it is....

mow_foe · 2026-03-13T01:20:15+00:00

Just peak your head out. Listen to an interesting or funny podcast at the gym, or new music. Watch an interesting TV show or movie. Give yourself something to talk about.

Also, take a break. Maybe that's a vacation, or a weekend trip with friends, or going to see a concert or game. You might be so keyed up that your stress shows up in conversation.

Dangerous-Lake-6081 · 2026-03-13T15:06:27+00:00

Just be confident in yourself. And do things you like and love and talk about them. Do not try to make interesting topics and all instead talk with what you find good and are passionate about.

Any topic can sound boring or interesting based on how you speak about it. Interesting fact is that in any communication as per studies too only 7% is words rest 45% is how to speak it and rest is body language so all this comes true when you speak about things you find interesting do not care what you think world will find interesting.

If you still want to have more and just get more comfortable speaking about things that pops in your head join improv or do any digital exercises like improv on app.

Title	How to not be boring
Author	plainentity
Upvotes	22
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Date	March 12, 2026 4:00 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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