Would you get into serious relationship if the girl has previous experience of ONS/FWB

wilhelmtherealm · 2026-03-24T07:21:59+00:00

Have you never had any?

Was it purely out of choice?

Mean-Spirit-1437 · 2026-03-24T07:35:52+00:00

I mean I’m totally fine with my own ONS/fwb experiences so why would I have a problem if she had them too?

No_Grapefruit_520 · 2026-03-24T07:37:47+00:00

What country is this?

1nfam0us · 2026-03-24T07:38:32+00:00

If she has had one night stands or FWB at all? Of course, why not? I've done those things.

When it comes to building a relationship, it matters a lot more whether she is continuing that behavior while also claiming to look for something serious. Then she is just trying to have her cake and eat it too.

Context matters. Sex is great and doing it casually is fun. There is no reason to hold having had sex casually against someone. There are other contextual factors that matter a lot more.

Darth_Krise · 2026-03-24T09:43:43+00:00

As long as it’s over then yes

SylAbys · 2026-03-24T11:37:23+00:00

If she only did ONS/FWB, I would be worried about her emotional maturity on how she can handle a serious relationship

twistedbullsh1t · 2026-03-24T07:24:22+00:00

Of course… i much prefer a girl with a little experience.

KosmicKev__ · 2026-03-24T13:57:32+00:00

Why does her sexual history matter at all? If we choose each other and no comparisons are being made, then I don’t see the problem.

Dana_myte · 2026-03-26T17:12:59+00:00

It's a tough choice, speaking from a perspective of having multiple partners alone, regardless of girl or guy that in itself speaks volume.

Some folks don't care but think about the 1-3 first hook ups how hard it was to detach from that person and how much commitment they showed to make something work. Just cause ya'll bedded. You often hear it right "I just don't hook up, I want to give it time and it be real etc they actually want to build something vs.

Take a guy/girl who has had 10+ lays they really don't care when it comes to intamacy, and detatchment usually tend to be more open to just dipping or not putting up with things and moving on. I'm not saying person won't be loyal or good to you btw.

My guess is this is why most high school or college sweethearts stay together. And low percentage of ages 27+ are unable to actually get a solid relationship in todays day.

The tendacy to hook up and be sexually free is not something you should overlook for long term relationship.

jermaineman2020 · 2026-03-27T01:38:15+00:00

Ideally not. If so, the further in the past it was the better. So yea if several years ago.

The way girls see a guy as a bum as the worst thing is the same way a guy usually sees a girl that’s promiscuous or recently was.

Roninstag · 2026-03-24T08:23:37+00:00

This post sounds insecure. Why judge women only for their sexual past or activities ?? You think men don’t do the same or that if they do it is their right to do so but same doesn’t apply to women.??

Do you know most women don’t even orgasm in penetrative sex with their heterosexual male partners?

How old are you & which part of the world are you from though? I really can’t imagine a male touching 40’s asking such a question at all. So I am guessing you are someone a lot younger.

BrownCongee · 2026-03-24T08:55:56+00:00

"Serious", no.

DrFrosthazer · 2026-03-24T09:05:24+00:00

2xdrgn · 2026-03-24T13:26:05+00:00

I can say from experiences that I’ve had with relationships that I personally would be careful about someone in a relationship that has had many partners especially casual fwb or ONS, or anything that would qualify as advanced sexual exploration.

Romantic relationship frame: • romantic sexual relationships are kind of like the movies, you and your partner have to suspend disbelief a bit and buy into the magical world of romantic love together, and the idea that you are the only person in the world for her should be something that she just lives like a religion, a beautiful illusion so to speak- like religion it’s all fake but believing that is allowing people to believe in these things brings happiness and structure to their lives. The truth is that you may be able to have a more fulfilling sexual experience with another person but you don’t want that truth creeping into the magical sphere of romantic life that you share together. Shattering this illusion is going to shatter the sexual experience and the romantic love and partnership will also be destroyed.

Emotional trauma: • Everyone knows that men aim down when they’re looking for casual and women aim way upwards. I believe that females experience quite a bit of trauma when they are ‘pumped and dumped’ by someone who is way above them on the sexual hierarchy, and that als leads to them being less emotionally available for normal men. A woman who is a 4-5-6 in looks hooks up with a man who is a 9.5, she is going to feel more attracted and more connected and more obsessed with that guy than her looks matches, then when that 9.5 guy ghosts her she is going to be hurting… but also she is now ruined for the looks matched partners who would be eager to treat her with respect in a relationship.

Vagina: Vaginas are way different than penises. If a penis is inserted into a thousand different vaginas (some tight some loose) then the size and shape of that penis is measured afterwards, there will be no change from before he banged 1000 vaginas. If you ask online, about vaginas and if they can change shape over time, people will INSIST that you are in cell and have no idea how women’s bodies work. Well maybe I don’t know everything but I think I’ve been with enough people to say this; vaginas come in a variety of shapes and I do believe that they will mostly be ‘nice and tight’ when the are younger and have a tendency to loosen up with experience and things like birthing. I can’t believe I have to spell this out but a tighter vagina is going to be the first feature you look for when you can some experience as a male, in other words it’s important that the female is fairly tight. More partners increase the likelihood that larger and larger things have had more of an effect on her vagina and that it is now looser than it was when she was in the past.

asyd0 · 2026-03-24T08:22:42+00:00

oh my god guys you have it so backwards. Why would you ever prefer a girl with no experience?

someone who's been with a lot of people is MUCH more likely to know what they want out of a relationship (or out of a hookup, for that matter). The more people you've been with, the more likely it is you have had the chance to interact romantically/sexually with many different personalities, the more likely it is you are choosing me because I have characteristics you actually vibe with. The more people you've been with, the more I trust you if you say I'm more compatible with you than others

what are you scared of? competition with the past? If you want to buy a new car and you test drive 7 before you choose the one which is perfect for your needs, how does the fact you've tried 7 before make your choice LESS informed/valuable? If anything it's the opposite

Difficult_Weight_316 · 2026-03-27T18:26:36+00:00

Technical_Yak_7066 · 2026-03-30T18:28:00+00:00

depends on her character now. people can change. if she’s still getting with people consistently, she’s not a girl that’s ready to tear herself down to become a better person for her future husband yet. some girls need time to get there; some girls never do.

Difficult_Weight_316 · 2026-03-31T14:30:08+00:00

Ok-Orange7146 · 2026-03-24T10:25:31+00:00

Only insecure men who had to take a girl out on many dates and had to jump through all of her hoops before finally having sex because she wasn’t highly attracted to them and then one day she decided to settle down with them care about a woman’s ONS and FWB relationships.

Because they can’t get over the fact that some guy didn’t have to do anything and they still got to have sex with the girl almost immediately. Guess what? She was highly sexually attracted to that guy.

And deep down, these insecure men know that they will never be those guys in her eyes and they can’t stand it.

Evilfck · 2026-03-24T12:51:52+00:00

Of course not

ygiftcard · 2026-03-24T10:19:41+00:00

That matters little in the face of attraction... and its not exactly a negative thing except you are framing it that way for your own reasons, right?

ShruteFarms4L · 2026-03-24T12:09:27+00:00

Shit happens

Odd-Luck7658 · 2026-03-25T11:20:54+00:00

Her past does not bother me and does not predict her future.

Title	Would you get into serious relationship if the girl has previous experience of ONS/FWB
Author	shyphone
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Date	March 24, 2026 6:51 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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