Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?

wtknight · 2026-03-31T23:48:54+00:00

Removed. No internal questions (men asking men or women asking women).

krackedy · 2026-03-31T18:20:57+00:00

Yes I would.

I've done that stuff in the past too, it's not a big deal to me.

AutisticRats · 2026-03-31T19:17:30+00:00

Why wouldn't I? Although I am a bit of a weird one since I would get into a serious relationship with a girl if she had an active FWB situation. I never understood everyone's obsession about who is having sex with who.

Acceptable-Truck3803 · 2026-03-31T18:20:28+00:00

Why the fuck not? I’ve done it too so who cares.

growframe · 2026-03-31T18:28:53+00:00

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2026-03-31T18:29:21+00:00

Every girl who hasn’t is either too young or super weird to me so.. yes.

Audi_fanboy · 2026-03-31T18:24:02+00:00

Yes. I've done it before, so I have no place in asking for a 25y girl that has never done ONS. It's actually quite common where I live, and it's very likely that the girl that I meet has done it at least once.

But yes, the less the better. If she has never done it, then great. If she has done it a couple of times, it's ok. If she does it frequently then it's a no-no. Not that I can know that for certain, but living in a small city does have it's querks (fortunately and unfortunately).

chile-pica · 2026-03-31T19:13:52+00:00

Yes. I’m not a jealous person and also have enjoyed my fair share of random hookups.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2026-03-31T18:34:29+00:00

One, why not? I’ve done those things why would i expect different?

Two: how would i know?! I’m dated to have a good time, not do a background check on someone.

avocadolanche3000 · 2026-03-31T18:33:12+00:00

Yeah, cause I’m not a sexist hypocrite.

NeverSeenA1Thirteen · 2026-03-31T18:51:33+00:00

if it's 100% guaranteed she'd be loyal and good to me then sure if we're compatible in other ways too. My main reason for being cautious about higher body counts is that it's linked to higher rates of cheating statistically and also im of the opinion it's an indicator of a lack of impulse control too.

Interesting_Ant9947 · 2026-03-31T18:58:41+00:00

Women especially attractive young women get bombarded with offers so realism is warranted.

Having a couple “whoops” getting involved with people you felt chemistry with and it didn’t work or yolo moments would in my mind be part of growing up.

If ONS or FWB was a lifestyle choice for years into her late 20s or 30’s then I’d probably pass. Being discerning in whom you share your body with is important to me Sex has emotional and physical consequences, even more so for women so I’d be questioning if her values or judgment were compatible. I wouldn’t judge morally.

Popeoath · 2026-03-31T19:10:05+00:00

Not until I also have an ONS/FWB.

Otherwise there's a cultural mismatch.

r2k398 · 2026-03-31T18:31:43+00:00

No, I would keep it casual.

winter_lover28 · 2026-03-31T18:31:14+00:00

First, I need to experience myself, feel desired, and after that, yes, I am not a hypocrite.

Neptune-Jnr · 2026-03-31T19:30:27+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't mind. I mean it is not like my sexual past is devoid of hookup or stripper sitting on my lap.

brazenbull09 · 2026-03-31T19:41:14+00:00

Depends...are those people still in her life? If yes, then no i wouldnt.

Junior_Ad_3086 · 2026-03-31T19:54:26+00:00

seems like a bad deal to me so i'd keep it casual if anything. if i'm looking for a relationship i'd want someone who has shown, through their life choices and decisions, that it's what they generally prioritize and who has experience in being in a relationship. hooking up with randoms doesn't add anything positive to the equation.

ViolentShallot · 2026-03-31T19:17:46+00:00

I have. I married her.

Of course, I was the ONS, then the FWB...

pleddyd · 2026-03-31T18:26:39+00:00

If serious relationship means marriage and kids, then no, I am not fan of these. If childfree coliving, then yes.

The more attractive she is, the more likely she have had ons/fwb

Nope, it's usually the average looking people who get into most of these situations

Gitsumrestmf · 2026-03-31T18:22:41+00:00

No. That's not someone I could trust.

CosmicBioHazard · 2026-03-31T18:42:14+00:00

Absolutely not.

I had the misfortune of ending up divorced after saving myself for a marriage to someone who’d done the same; after all if I was going to commit, the sense of ‘specialness’ would have to be optimal.

I started actively shunning commitment after that but if the woman with no history of casual whom started dating since doesn’t walk out on me I’ll probably end up married anyway, because I’m a massive hypocrite.

RaidenTheBlue · 2026-03-31T18:29:55+00:00

I have in the past but going forward I won’t tolerate it anymore. Just a misalignment in values because the minimum I’ve ever done or wanted to consider since I’ve never been compelled to try being casual was a short-term relationship, and even that I wouldn’t want to do again

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PSXSnack09 · 2026-03-31T19:30:57+00:00

i choose to never do one myself so i looked for someone who is the same.

The only way i would consider it is if it stays 50/50 and she has absolutely 0 traditional expectations from me

Decent_Boss_7346 · 2026-03-31T19:53:21+00:00

I don’t like hook up culture so no. I’m not a hypocrite about it so I think it’s fair.

Sub90iqHimbo · 2026-03-31T19:55:13+00:00

Yes, I see no issues with it whatsoever

coochie4sale · 2026-03-31T19:57:34+00:00

ya I’ve done it myself

Purge639ruler · 2026-03-31T20:54:44+00:00

No I wouldn't

trotofflames · 2026-03-31T20:57:44+00:00

Depends on you. I did some shady shit in my youth. I've lived and learned. I would just expect the same of anyone who went down that path once.

NuclearDoctrine · 2026-03-31T21:13:44+00:00

It's a moot question. Because virtually zero women will voluntarily be 100% transparent about their n-count or the circumstances around it. Enquiring into n-count invokes the false term "retroactive jealousy." And assessing objective loyalty going forward, despite a promiscuous past, isn't something determined by faith. It's only acceptable validation method for proactively assessing whether such a woman will be loyal and good is a P300 EEG lie detector test, that no woman would willingly participate in.

Gentle_prv · 2026-03-31T21:31:56+00:00

It does depend. If I was single, I am dating to get into a LTR, like the one I’m in rn. Sleeping around sounds fun, but I’d rather build a relationship and sexual compatibility with one person than doing it for just the fun; it also doesn’t help it’s much harder for a man to get dates than a woman.

If she had like one or two ONS or situationships/FWB, then it can see it being something that just kinda happened. But the higher the amount, the more worried I get about their views on LTR, not necessarily about her potentially cheating. I’m more worried that if we started to get more serious and she all of sudden starts to act more like a prude or less sexual than she obviously was…If she can be liberally sexual with the other guys, then she can be that way with me, especially since I’m a HL man.

Zabadoodude · 2026-03-31T21:38:59+00:00

Ya, I have that experience too.

It would give me pause if she had a lot of causal experience but no relationship experience longer than a few months, because that would suggest to me that she has trouble committing. If she had a few hookups in between relationships that's fine

holmesksp1 · 2026-03-31T22:01:29+00:00

How old are you? And have you actually had many serious relationships?No offense, but you come off as someone who's very naive/insecure about relationship history.

Yes it's true that there are women who are exclusively looking to sleep around, but I also find myself looking for both serious and casual.

Having a primarily casual dating history would not be a turn off If I thought them suitable for a serious relationship, as it's generally the pattern that when you're younger your experimenting around, and then as you get older and have more of those casual partners, You begin to value more committed relationships.

DGenerationMC · 2026-03-31T22:18:50+00:00

If the ONS/FWB doesn't affect me and/or the relationship, then sure, if I like/care about her enough.

Just would rather not have stuff or worry about having stuff come back to bite me/the relationship in the ass. And I'd rather not hear about it in the same way that I'd rather not tell my equivalent of that stuff to her.

Ego73 · 2026-03-31T23:39:41+00:00

Sure. I'd actually love a long term FWB.

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2026-03-31T23:44:15+00:00

Never

KratosGodOfLove · 2026-03-31T18:24:05+00:00

IgorXY · 2026-03-31T19:01:22+00:00

Yes but only if she did not make me wait for sex or something like that.

MayflowerMovers · 2026-03-31T19:44:27+00:00

What kind of pathetic ultra virgin would be mad about someone having sex in the past?

Complex_Soldier · 2026-03-31T19:05:16+00:00

Never. If i had the choice to be alone or marry an prostitute i'd choose being alone.

Reasons: Bible commands to marry a Virgin, different values. disgusts, and a higher likely hood of cheating and divorce.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2026-03-31T18:17:42+00:00

For me, it's a no because of my religious beliefs and my wife having zero experiences or encounters like that was one of the main things that drew me towards her.

Title	Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?
Author	shyphone
Upvotes	9
Comments	142
Date	March 31, 2026 6:14 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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